Joyful
11mo ago
but feminists have historically rejected those. I think both views are defensible, but you can't have it both ways: if a woman who wears jeans and doesn't shave her legs isn't any less of a woman, why would a man who wears a skirt and shaves his legs become less of a man
The word "but" confused me here. The feminist perspective is that he isn't a woman no matter how many skirts and shaves. I think Dylan had a crisis last week and decided to be a "they" but I'm on a twitter fast so I can't confirm.
Joyful
1yr ago
Yep. One of my friends was a standard fat gamer programming nerd until the pandemic. Funny, if a bit incel-y in personality (he made some occasional sexist comments that were annoying but not fatal to our friendship). During the pandemic he finally lost the weight and I was thinking "Hey, maybe we can finally get this guy a date. Funny, decent job, tall enough, starting to look like a viking" I wouldn't date him myself for a couple of reasons, but get some good pictures for an online dating profile and we can improve his quality of life a lot (he's prone to depressive episodes and loneliness).
I brought up the topic and he said "actually, I'm not thinking about dating at all right now because I've been seeing a gender therapist for a year." We've hung out five or six times since then (over two years), with each hang out getting more uncomfortable and creepy, and now I'm dodging his calls (I'm not misgendering btw, he's never formally asked me to change names or pronouns). Somehow "man wearing a dress" freaks me out less than "man wearing a dress and boobs." It's much more 'it rubs the lotion on its skin'. He did finally (briefly) date someone (an older woman) during this process, but broke up with her because she obviously saw him as a man.
So yes. We're not close enough for me to suck it up and lie and not distant enough for me to just be polite. Hence the avoiding.
Joyful
1yr ago
And Occam's Razor would suggest it was very simple, that between talking to you and texting on your phone, she preferred the latter.
Since plenty of people find themselves in this situation with even their own friends who are choosing to hang out with them, I'd go with this. No big explanation necessary.
Joyful
1yr ago
I question whether obscure Canadian sitcom counts as mainstream (although I enjoy it).
Joyful
7mo ago
Local bay area coding jobs are seeing 150-650 applications. I'm not even looking at remote jobs at this point.
Joyful
1yr ago
Can someone link the actual tiktok videos? Searching without an account doesn't give you videos but channels.
Joyful
1yr ago
t just has to be plausibly deniable so that the girl can tell herself (and her friends, and her family, and her boyfriend/husband...) that she really didn't mean to sleep with the guy, but it "just happened". It's a way to get past her anti-slut defense.
It's not an anti-slut defense. It's a reasonable out "if I change my mind once we are alone" defense. Even with people I know well and have had sex with before (exes) I don't like the pressure of inviting someone over for sex explicitly. Because sometimes you change your mind, and you feel pressured by your earlier offer/commitment. Much less with a stranger. (I've never found myself in this situation with a stranger).
Joyful
11mo ago
It's more that there are men who don't smile broadly in any of their pictures. Probably serial killers.
Joyful
1yr ago
Greys Anatomy had a really interesting Christian doctor for years and it led to really interesting story lines regarding sex, marriage, crises of faith and ultimately abortion. Pity she was removed to free up her love interest for an unpopular character that the writers wanted to center.
Joyful
1yr ago
Not a lot outside of reality tv which is about their weight but This is Us comes to mind (just to give an example because you didn't, not disagreeing).
Joyful
8mo ago
I find your comment confusing. You disliked sexy teenage movies because you were a teenager not having sex?
Joyful
1yr ago
The difference between male and female athleticism is not minor competitive advantage. Most top high school male times beat most female olympian across almost all sports. I'll find the website if someone is interested.
Joyful
7mo ago
Its not an amazing poem but definitely a poem, clearly understood as such.
I have some nitpicks, the last stanza is terrible and there are some poor other lines, I don't like "while gaudier prints took on the grime and stains of daily wear" not sure how I'd rewrite it (remove the "on" or a more dramatic surgery).
Yes, older poetry has structure and rhythm as well as words, and it is fine to prefer a clear rhyme, a clever structure to this, but modern poetry is still poetry. More about mood and image than language play.
Joyful
1yr ago
Mods could simply have said “we will take a harsher line on discussion around trans issues because of the admins”.
But this is one of the most interesting areas where the reddit party line is clearly illogical to the point of psychosis. Not being able to deeply discuss it before the recent child and sports lines really brought it to the front of the culture war was bad, and not being able to discuss it now as the hottest culture war item would suck.
Joyful
1yr ago
Much more true of mtf than ftm. Gc feminists are very supportive of detransitioning women.
Joyful
9mo ago
Yeah, so I'm listening to it and it is much worse writing wise, boring, than the two other similar songs it makes me think of. Beer for my Horses (https://youtube.com/watch?v=o1JOFhfoAD4) and the rah rah 9-11 song, Courtesy of the Red White and Blue.
Joyful
1yr ago
otherwise women with endocrine conditions wouldn't be barred
That's usually a euphemism for XY intersex individuals.
equestrian sports
Are not divided by sex of the human participant. There are medal winners of both sexes across equestrian sports. Some are divided by the sex of the horse (although horses have less sexual dimorphism than humans, it is some).
Lacking experience is a pretty big lacking. I would add lacking experience AND JUDGEMENT, though (see anyone that takes on 6 figures of debt for an art history degree). The real question is was it easier for a 16 year old to be an adult in previous centuries because mostly you were able to learn all the things growing up in your village that you needed to know as an adult then? Is it only modern complex society that requires more time to learn enough to not fuck up?
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