Joyful
16d ago
To the contrary we don't diagnose teenagers with personality disorders because all teenagers have personality disorders. BPD manifests early and mellows (not that I would date anyone of any age with it).
Modern society creates anxiety in males and females, its theoretically manageable and curable.
Joyful
16d ago
Brain development problems in the range of 8-10 IQ points. (More than half a standard deviation).
Joyful
16d ago
Puberty blockers cause permanent brain development problems as well as stunting sexual maturity at what tanner stage 2? They aren't harmless.
Joyful
21d ago
I'd dare call myself a 7/10 on a genuine gaussian curve, i.e 70th percentile for Indian men.
Are you only competing with other indian men? I thought you were in the UK for some reason.
Joyful
21d ago
I see a dozen woman a day on the streets who I can tell have had work done. I struggle to name a single non-celebrity man.
Yes, its unusual for regular people in most of the west. Are you sure you want to be vain enough to buck the trend?
Joyful
21d ago
I'd also add that this kind of surgery flags you as super vain to most western women. If its not making a huge difference it might be signaling you don't want to take on.
Joyful
24d ago
I developed a daily nap habit during the pandemic (wfh) that I would like to break. I always liked a weekend nap but this is ridiculous. I don't think this is actually "need for sleep" based because it happens regardless of the actual amount of sleep I get the night before and unlike at night it often takes quite a while to fall asleep. I'm sick of wasting 2 hours every afternoon so I pulled out the ole Atomic Habits to approach the problem anew. Now is a good time to tackle this as I recently moved so that is a good time to create new habits.
Things I've tried:
- more coffee. Delays onset of nap once I lie down but does not prevent me from wanting to nap.
- moving nap location from bed to couch to be less comfy. I will lie down on the couch but my sleepy self cannot be persuaded to not move once I want to really start the nap
- substitute meditation. fine, now I want my nap
Most stuff on the internet treats this like a sleep problem but it really isn't. It tends to happen regardless of sleep quantity and quality. It also happens whether or not I ate lunch so it isn't that. Naps are a great breaker of anxious or depressed states for me, so part of what I'm craving is that emotional reset (hence starting in the pandemic), but the daily nap happens regardless of mood.
Ok atomic habits says every habit has a cue, craving, response, reward.
Cues: bored, start mid-afternoon energy slump, craving emotional security, seeing it is 1 or 2 on the clock, glimpse beautiful cool sheets (which cues are most important?)
Craving: craving to nap wants only to nap and cannot be logicked to "go for a walk" (I walk enough taking the dog out 4x a day, thank you) or "go to the gym" as an alternative. Craving-self will not turn on an alarm to take an insufficient nap or similar nap limiting behaviors. I can take a book to the bed with me but reading and sleeping go together so this almost never prevents sleep.
Response/Reward: nap of 1-2.5 hours, emotional reset, possibly broken by having to pee because coffee.
So for some habits you can try to make them unappealing, but I don't want to do anything to undermine my desire for sleep in general. Instead I think we want to add some points of friction and set up an alternative behavior for that time of day.
Friction: close bedroom door and block it with laundry basket
Alternative: sit down in living room at first sign of craving and watch specific new tv show I haven't seen, telling craving self this is just a 45 minute delay to nap
Alternative: drink diet soda at 1-2pm rather than with lunch
Any other ideas?
Joyful
29d ago
Speaking spanish is the only other language as an American that doesn't correspond with an increase in income, though (I believe this fact is from a freakonomics podcast ten years ago).
Joyful
1mo ago
Wow is about half women, although the raiding scene used to be more like 25% (I haven't raided since 2016, no idea about now).
Joyful
1mo ago
Played a shaman in hardcore to 8 last week, put my nose out of joint, now I'm leveling up a ret paladin of all things in cata because I like MOP so I might want to play when that comes out. No interest in actually playing the cata dungeons or raids.
I dislike that they don't have bc and wrath servers, I don't like vanilla as much. I guess I have a private server to turn to if I need a wrath fix but I couldn't get their BC version working when I tried last year.
Joyful
1mo ago
They made us add the feminine version to every job description,
If anything "they" have been trying to strip out the gender entirely from job descriptions. Postal worker instead of mailman, calling all actresses actors, stewardess to flight attendant. Etc.
Joyful
1mo ago
what other aspects of her biology might take the sting out of her manifest physical inferiority and considerable neurotic pathologies.
Lol. Charitable. How about being able to not only live longer but also live better lives due to improved social networks. Men who lose their wives are emotionally screwed, women who lose their husbands are widows and mostly fine.
Joyful
1mo ago
If I remember correctly, magnitude is actually half of reality, not more than reality. (its been at least 15 years since I read the abstracts of the research from the 60s? 70s?).
For example, if the average person guesses that a black man is twice as likely to go to jail as a white man (stereotype), the reality would be that he was 4 times as likely. The gist was that we actually understereotype, that a pattern has to be really obvious to become a stereotype. But this research became taboo a long time ago and I haven't seen anything recent.
Joyful
1mo ago
Looking at the people on the conservative side, the loudest champions of a traditional moral order seem to be grifters, or at least hypocrites where they say one thing, and do another in their personal lives.
This is boo outgroup.
I'd say the loudest social media voices right now are Matt Walsh and Ben Shapiro. Who specifically do you mean are hypocrites and grifters?
Hypocrisy has always been a lazy accusation. Better to be a person who believes there should be a standard and personally fails to meet it than someone who rejects all standards.
Joyful
1mo ago
Furries annoying everyone as usual: https://www.loweringthebar.net/2025/04/dragon-lawyer-files-complaint-with-cartoon-dragon.html
Joyful
2mo ago
In library school this topic was taught as "dealing with our homeless patrons" and balancing their right to use the internet freely like the dignified upstanding citizens they are with preventing children from seeing them masturbate in public.
Joyful
2mo ago
Adding that I think its a time thing, any kid that goes on puberty blockers for more than a few months will never proceed through all of the puberty phases (even if you give them cross sex hormones) and they hit their 20s unable to orgasm. Not to mention the nasty damage it does to their brains (possibly an entire standard deviation of IQ).
Joyful
2mo ago
Woman here. I find nothing arousing about men kissing. Women who are into gay anime do exist but this is far from universal.
Joyful
3mo ago
I loved the Shadow series. Much better than the non-ender books in the original series!
Joyful
3mo ago
bloody the nose of one of America's two main rivals
Does anyone think Russia is a rival? For what? Hearts and minds? The world wants to move here. We have multiple states with a bigger GDP. Slavic population is going to keep shrinking.
Not saying they don't matter, nukes and resources matter, but rival is over-egging the pudding.
https://sfstandard.com/2025/06/13/ice-arrest-bay-area-testicle-grabbing-brawl/
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