bolido_sentimental
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bolido_sentimental
10mo ago
I was able to go there and register successfully. Indicated that I would receive a .zip file shortly with the information.
bolido_sentimental
10mo ago
I live in Ohio now, but I think at the time of the SSC/Motte split, I lived in Bowling Green, KY. I'm not sure if those were the best years of my life but they were pretty good ones. Western Kentucky is a wonderful place.
bolido_sentimental
10mo ago
Let me know how it is if you start it. There's a copy of it on my bookshelf that I've never cracked open.
bolido_sentimental
1yr ago
I own a suit, and I wear it 3-4 times a year. Usually for "occasions" but sometimes just for fun.
bolido_sentimental
1yr ago
I never have. I'll check it out!
bolido_sentimental
1yr ago
Yeah, just sharing for the audience. I read that novel in 2015 and ended up repeating that mantra to myself any time things got hairy. Great book.
bolido_sentimental
1yr ago
Marcos "El Chino" Maidana! (Just kidding.)
bolido_sentimental
1yr ago
This'll be one of the first Google results, but I did read Attached by Rachel Heller, and it really does have great information.
Unfortunately I read it after going through yet another painful breakup, and I've been single ever since. I am very, very avoidant. I do think that now that I have a better understanding, I'll hopefully be able to handle my next relationship better.
bolido_sentimental
3d ago
I have a few days off coming up, during which I'm not working, but also not traveling as I have other scheduled travel coming up.
What do you like to do when you have a few days off like that?
bolido_sentimental
1mo ago
You're right, sorry, upon further research: the sedan was only offered in Britain in certain limited model years, and the estate is much more common. Shame as I do have the sedan type myself.
Still, check it out and perhaps you'll like it. Happy hunting mate.
bolido_sentimental
1mo ago
What does your after-work routine look like? I feel like I'm in a bit of a rut in the way I spend my time. Curious what other people do.
bolido_sentimental
1mo ago
I drive the American brother of the Vauxhall Astra and I really like it. It's been a dead reliable car with all the features you describe. Mine is a 2014. I've driven it for five years now and have never needed to do maintenance beyond what's in the owner's manual. (Except one time I had to replace a shock absorber because I hit a pothole very hard. That's not the car's fault.)
bolido_sentimental
2mo ago
Yeah, me and my girlfriend are in our early 30s. We like to go to Big Lots and buy various snacks, and then watch weird DVDs from the thrift store. This weekend we went to the local nature preserve and looked at turtles. I think we have as much fun as anyone does.
bolido_sentimental
3mo ago
I've wanted to be a father for a very long time. I could imagine my kids, but for a very long time I couldn't picture the woman who would want to have mine. After I bought a house, I couldn't find a local woman who wanted my children.
How did you eventually resolve this?
bolido_sentimental
4mo ago
That sounds rad. I've requested it from my local library.
bolido_sentimental
4mo ago
I've definitely been considering this for the New Year, or rather something like "No PC/cellphone use when I get home from work." I always seem to find ways to replace bad habits with other bad habits, but this should make it harder. Hopefully I can find some good habits to work in there instead; I have a list somewhere that I pre-prepared for this.
bolido_sentimental
6mo ago
I find the novels of Antoine Laurain quite charming, and I'm sure they'd only be more so in the original French.
bolido_sentimental
7mo ago
Hey, you're a doctor, and I've been wondering about a related topic: I was born via c-section myself. And, my mom is a very small lady. Do these things correlate? Is birth actually easier for taller women? Intuitively it seems like it would be, but I don't truly know.
bolido_sentimental
7mo ago
Does anybody here subscribe to any print magazines? Which ones?
I started reading The New Criterion recently and I really enjoy it.
bolido_sentimental
8mo ago
- Extroversion: 93
- Emotional stability: 13
- Agreeableness: 17
- Conscientiousness: 36
- Intellect/Imagination: 95
Wow. I sound kind of nightmarish to be around. I wonder if I have enough conscientiousness to reflect appropriately on this.
I find this a fascinating question. It represents a very different cost for each of us. For me, even though I've been around since the original SSC CW thread, I've always been a very low-volume poster. As a result, I'd barely notice being banned, whereas it would probably be significantly impactful for the people you mentioned. Such a system wouldn't bother me. I'd eat a life ban for Ilforte or @TheDag or somebody, honestly, if it worked like that.
I recognize what you're saying, though, and I don't mean to minimize the costs imposed by misbehavior. Certainly repeat offenders should be penalized, and I don't disagree with your decision to ban BC for a while. From my perspective, though, as someone who is usually here with the intention of reading The Motte rather than digging in to the Culture War with my own hands, it's better to have someone like BurdensomeCount around rather than not. This is because while he does break the rules, I admit that, he also has a reasonably good chance of saying something that makes me think about things differently. That's what I'm here for, and that's why I felt like standing up for him. But of course - it's not all about me, by any means. Indeed I think it's probably more important to make mod decisions with the contributors in mind, not the readers. So I get it.
bolido_sentimental
9mo ago
We've already had this kind of kerfuffle in YA publishing.
I'm aware of this issue and have heard about it extensively from other people; but do you happen to know of any good write-ups about it?
bolido_sentimental
9mo ago
After bouncing around between many books for several days, I am now reading Laura by Vera Caspary. It's a mystery novel from the late 1930s or early 1940s, with an interesting perspective choice: the narrator is a fat, ineffectual middle-aged writer, who seems to have had an unrequited love for the unfortunate titular character. I like the writing style. This book was made into what was apparently a very good noir film starring Gene Tierney, which I have not seen.
Gene Tierney not to be confused with Gene Tunney. Love for Laura not to be confused with Love for Lydia.
bolido_sentimental
10mo ago
I spent >10 Novembers of my life doing NaNoWriMo. https://nanowrimo.org/
I started when I was much too young to have the discipline or, indeed, ability, to actually carry it through. But I was very determined, and kept it at year on year. Finally I did crack the 50k mark. After doing that twice, I now feel that I've gotten all I can out of NaNoWriMo, and I don't do it any more. (Semi-related: I also was the city organizer for this in my city in 2019. November 2019 was one of the better months of my life.)
From when I was a teenager, it was always my goal to get something actually published. I achieved this in late 2022 by having a non-fiction essay published in an anthology about my city. It's a real book, published by a real publisher. You can get it at Barnes & Noble, and the library has 20+ copies of it, and my name is in there. I was paid exactly $20.00 for it; I put the check in a little frame, which sits in my office on a bookcase now. I would like to publish a novel some day, but having now ticked the "get published" box, this isn't something that keeps up at night anymore.
With regards to the act of writing: there are long periods of pain, and relatively short periods where it feels amazing. For me - and note that I primarily write fiction - the really difficult part is going from the state of "I have no active project going" to "I have a project and I'm well into it." I go on all kinds of false starts and dead-end paths, and it's quite discouraging. Furthermore, as I've gotten older and reached a rather stable mid-career professional phase, I actually find myself a bit starved for ideas sometimes. This would have been unimaginable in my 20s. However, when I actually managed to get the ball rolling, there are few feelings to compare with finishing a passage after which you can think, "That says what I meant it to say. I've conveyed this perfectly." It's a lot like playing golf: you put up with all the shanks and hooks because of the occasional perfect strike.
As I once said to a writing buddy of mine: I've gone through periods where I've tried to stop. I recognize that there are other hobbies I can pursue which don't come with any frustration. There are things that I am better at, than at writing. I'm probably more talented at tennis; if I put as much time into tennis as I do writing, I could be winning the local wee amateur tournaments and things. But I always come back to it. I seem to have wired my brain into that mold over many years, and now I just feel bad about myself if I don't log a few hours at the desk every couple of days.
Not of fiction, I've never tried to. I do have one legit writing credit: I wrote a section of a guidebook to the city I live in. So that's something.
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