janeerie
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janeerie
9mo ago
I love existing! But I love existing in this world that I know. Existing in some other form could be terrible and that's very scary to me.
janeerie
1yr ago
Is the first episode very different? I have only watched that and it wasn’t much fun, so I didn’t keep going. I really like The Thick of It and Veep, so I was surprised to see your comparison.
janeerie
1yr ago
Just listened to the most recent episode of Lateral and loved it (though I was disappointed they didn't immediately get the Alien$ question)! Thanks for the recommendation.
For funny podcasts, I love Hollywood Handbook, but it's in a very different vein from the ones you mentioned and seems to be an acquired taste.
janeerie
1yr ago
Yeah, I'm also inclined to give the benefit of the doubt and assume there's some "there" there. But the way she worded it to me makes it really hard to figure out what the real issue is.
Not to toot my own horn, but in the past I have always gotten feedback that I am great to work with. One difference might just be the shift to remote where you have to work really hard to make sure you're communicating, and perhaps she feels I am not putting in enough effort there.
janeerie
1yr ago
I've had this on my reading list for ages, but feel like I really need to be in the right mindset for it. I'm concerned it might be a little too dark to be enjoyable.
janeerie
1yr ago
If your problem is anxiety, I think that dwelling on the notion that your brain or mind are broken is only going to make your anxiety worse. I find thoughts like that to be very distressing and create a lot of anxiety for myself.
I think I explained this better in a follow-up comment, but it's really about accepting that my brain's danger alert system is broken. It's on a very high sensitivity setting and gives me too many false alarms. Understanding that I don't have to pay attention to every alarm has been very helpful.
Why? If it's not affecting your work and your life, then what makes it bad? The rendered opinion of therapy cultists that Mental Health is Important? There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.
It's actually the therapists who are telling me that I should accept living with anxiety and it's not necessarily a bad thing. However, I find the visceral experience extremely unpleasant, and I don't understand how to come to peace with that. It's like trying to convince myself that a headache doesn't hurt. That's the big stumbling block I have hit.
janeerie
1yr ago
Agreed. Also, top level comments should not have the collapse bar on the left (we already have the expand/collapse icon). It's very difficult right now to find the beginning of new topics.
janeerie
19d ago
Oh, I'm so happy for you! I've always enjoyed your posts, and I'm glad you now have more time to dwell on other thoughts, rather than exams. It seems you get down on yourself at times, and I hope this gives you a boost of confidence.
janeerie
2mo ago
Oh yeah, the physical stuff is the worst. I blush at the drop of the hat, and when I was a teenager I would just start shaking when people talked to me. That's where the meds really helped.
janeerie
2mo ago
2 things: The first was realizing that I was approaching the world with the mindset that everybody hated me and thought I was a loser. I decided to pretend instead that everybody was my friend, and surprise surprise, people respond to that and I started to believe it myself. I flipped that switch when I was 17, and it still serves me well.
The second is less inspiring - an SSRI. I started taking if for panic and found it did wonders for my social anxiety also.
janeerie
3mo ago
I had a similar response to Shogun. I got halfway through (I have a two-volume set) and just didn't feel motivated to pick up the next volume. It wasn't boring per se, but there wasn't anything about it that particularly interested me.
janeerie
7mo ago
Oh I thought he had mentioned Alaska. Climbing a mountain in Washington doesn't seem quite so treacherous.
janeerie
9mo ago
That's exactly it. I have a terrible fear of eternity and the infinite. Makes my mind want to crawl into a little hole and shut down.
janeerie
10mo ago
We just started the Expanse and finished episode 2 last night. Can't tell you how relieved I am to hear it gets better!
janeerie
11mo ago
I have never heard of this before! It looks like you can't get it in the US, which is curious.
janeerie
1yr ago
I think Cohen is great, and I'm much more familiar with his work than Lightfoot's, but Lightfoot has a voice you could just sink into. I love that kind of quality.
janeerie
1yr ago
Here is an amazing chocolate cake mix, if you're looking for something you can make at home. I have high standards for chocolate cake and am happy to make one from scratch, but this mix does a darn good job. You'll still need to make the frosting yourself - I'd recommend a swiss meringue buttercream.
janeerie
1yr ago
I tried that when my son was 4 and I just could not get him to pay attention through any of the lessons. He ended up learning to read at school in Kindergarten and is the top reader in his class now. If OP's daughter is actually driving the effort though, it should work well!
janeerie
1yr ago
I was really surprised at how engaging I found Ansel's character, because he could easily have crossed the line to annoying. I loved his enthusiasm and optimism though. Looking forward to season 2.
janeerie
1yr ago
Oh yeah, I couldn't eat that stuff even as a child. My son tried it at a friend's house and also wasn't having any of that slop.
janeerie
1yr ago
It is a rather small consultancy and I'm client-facing, so I suppose there is some razzle-dazzle expected. I am trying very hard to move to a larger org where I can just do the work and not have to put on a show, as much as I like the variety that consultant work offers. But there seems to be a bias against agency folks in the market right now, so it's slow going.
janeerie
1yr ago
I had a hard time enjoying the "Haunting of Hill House" series because of this. I know I should go back and watch it on its own terms, but why on earth did they have to give it that title?
janeerie
1yr ago
Not Better Mortgage. They work on smaller loans and provide a service to loan providers.
I did survive the first round of layoffs at my agency, which kind of surprised me because I was newish and I think I am one of the higher paid people. I do think I'd be a happy camper if I had a project! I'm just discouraged by our pipeline prospects.
janeerie
1yr ago
I need some career advice. My priority right now is finding some job security, and I'm not sure which of these options is best in the current environment.
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Stay where I am for now. I'm at a digital agency, but I lost my last client project in November and have been sitting on the bench since then. We don't seem to have a whole lot coming in the pipeline anytime soon. I still have a job and am getting paid, but who knows how long that will last (plus, I'm bored as hell)
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Join a large-ish company that is in the loan space. Their stock price has dropped a lot lately and it doesn't seem like a great space to be in while interest rates are so high. But they are hiring, so...
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Join my former boss's two start-ups/projects. He says he has funding for now but I have no idea what that actually means. I've asked for more details before seriously considering.
I have health insurance through my husband, so that's not a concern. I just really hate the idea of having some period of unemployment. I'm a relentless optimist, so my gut instinct is to think that any of these will turn out great, and I could use some more hardheaded opinions on this.
Nope, I was mostly paying out of pocket.
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