janeerie
Normie quokka
User ID: 713
janeerie
1yr ago
I think this is what has bothered me most about the people rushing to defend Musk. It's "the enemy of my enemy is my friend" mindset, and it's quite silly. There is no need to pick a side here. Both Musk and the people getting hysterical about Musk are acting like children.
janeerie
3hr ago
I fear I'm making this sound worse than it is. I really don't have to do anything for her; it just annoys me that she is wasting her life while other lives are too short (my own mom died when she was 45). If things do get to the point where she requires actual physical care, I plan to bring in the professionals and give my sisters-in-law the primary responsibility.
She's actually from Utah, where we live now. We moved here a couple of years ago so she could be close to her daughters who all live here. She does get a bit misty when we visit the local steakhouse :D
janeerie
9mo ago
I love existing! But I love existing in this world that I know. Existing in some other form could be terrible and that's very scary to me.
janeerie
9mo ago
For a woman, a bit dumb and indicative of low self-esteem?
This nails it (cf. my 20-something self). I don't think morality comes into play so much as just poor decision-making. I'd say most woman grow out of it eventually, so it seems odd to judge one for her past.
janeerie
11mo ago
Thirded. I have an anxiety disorder and have experienced all of these. Heck, I'm having a few right now, even though I've got this crap pretty much under control. It's also extremely likely that such a distressing physical event would spark panic attacks.
Find yourself a good SSRI!
janeerie
1yr ago
Is the first episode very different? I have only watched that and it wasn’t much fun, so I didn’t keep going. I really like The Thick of It and Veep, so I was surprised to see your comparison.
janeerie
1yr ago
This is a good point - I see Christians on here, but I don't often see them using religious doctrine as an argument for/against something. I would hope that we push back against that when they do.
janeerie
1yr ago
Just listened to the most recent episode of Lateral and loved it (though I was disappointed they didn't immediately get the Alien$ question)! Thanks for the recommendation.
For funny podcasts, I love Hollywood Handbook, but it's in a very different vein from the ones you mentioned and seems to be an acquired taste.
janeerie
1yr ago
Yeah, I'm also inclined to give the benefit of the doubt and assume there's some "there" there. But the way she worded it to me makes it really hard to figure out what the real issue is.
Not to toot my own horn, but in the past I have always gotten feedback that I am great to work with. One difference might just be the shift to remote where you have to work really hard to make sure you're communicating, and perhaps she feels I am not putting in enough effort there.
janeerie
1yr ago
I've had this on my reading list for ages, but feel like I really need to be in the right mindset for it. I'm concerned it might be a little too dark to be enjoyable.
janeerie
1yr ago
If your problem is anxiety, I think that dwelling on the notion that your brain or mind are broken is only going to make your anxiety worse. I find thoughts like that to be very distressing and create a lot of anxiety for myself.
I think I explained this better in a follow-up comment, but it's really about accepting that my brain's danger alert system is broken. It's on a very high sensitivity setting and gives me too many false alarms. Understanding that I don't have to pay attention to every alarm has been very helpful.
Why? If it's not affecting your work and your life, then what makes it bad? The rendered opinion of therapy cultists that Mental Health is Important? There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.
It's actually the therapists who are telling me that I should accept living with anxiety and it's not necessarily a bad thing. However, I find the visceral experience extremely unpleasant, and I don't understand how to come to peace with that. It's like trying to convince myself that a headache doesn't hurt. That's the big stumbling block I have hit.
janeerie
1yr ago
The writing manages to be pretty straightforward without feeling dry. It’s organized around discrete topics, so there isn’t really a narrative, but it reads quite smoothly.
janeerie
1yr ago
Galileo's Middle Finger by Alice Dreger. Parts of it read like a good mystery story, and I appreciate that it doesn't retread the usual culture war arguments. It's been a great read!
janeerie
1yr ago
I'm not really sure what boobs have to do with anything, but yes, it's entirely consistent to be pro-choice and pro-surrogacy since both stances allow women to choose what to do with their bodies.
It sounds like your objection is the exchange of money for these services (assuming you think adoption is ok)? This seems similar to the objection many have to allowing people to sell their organs. It's an intuition I personally can't relate to, but there are legitimate arguments about the ethics of the practice.
janeerie
1yr ago
Agreed. Also, top level comments should not have the collapse bar on the left (we already have the expand/collapse icon). It's very difficult right now to find the beginning of new topics.
janeerie
15d ago
Oh, I'm so happy for you! I've always enjoyed your posts, and I'm glad you now have more time to dwell on other thoughts, rather than exams. It seems you get down on yourself at times, and I hope this gives you a boost of confidence.
janeerie
2mo ago
Oh yeah, the physical stuff is the worst. I blush at the drop of the hat, and when I was a teenager I would just start shaking when people talked to me. That's where the meds really helped.
janeerie
2mo ago
2 things: The first was realizing that I was approaching the world with the mindset that everybody hated me and thought I was a loser. I decided to pretend instead that everybody was my friend, and surprise surprise, people respond to that and I started to believe it myself. I flipped that switch when I was 17, and it still serves me well.
The second is less inspiring - an SSRI. I started taking if for panic and found it did wonders for my social anxiety also.
janeerie
3mo ago
I had a similar response to Shogun. I got halfway through (I have a two-volume set) and just didn't feel motivated to pick up the next volume. It wasn't boring per se, but there wasn't anything about it that particularly interested me.
janeerie
6mo ago
Oh I thought he had mentioned Alaska. Climbing a mountain in Washington doesn't seem quite so treacherous.
janeerie
9mo ago
That's exactly it. I have a terrible fear of eternity and the infinite. Makes my mind want to crawl into a little hole and shut down.
janeerie
9mo ago
I feel the same way, and so arguments like this are puzzling to me. I find the idea of an afterlife incredibly disturbing, and felt that way even when I was a Christian. At the time though, I did enjoy feeling that there was a God looking out for me.
I'm not going to assert that men or women had a great deal of liberty in the past, but there were still a much larger range of options open for men than women. Are you really going to argue that men and women had equal opportunity to higher education, the professions, property ownership, and elected office before the mid-Twentieth Century?
Yes, it's very nice that women didn't have to go to war and were allowed to donate their time to social movements, but they were the property of their fathers and husbands and had nothing of their own. That is the life of a child, not an adult.
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