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I can't say I managed to find a way to verify this, but the word on the street is that the lesbian community has been decimated, largely because they failed to not include straight guys who self-identify as lesbians.
failed to include or failed to not include, this is confusing.
The latter. Failed to exclude, to make it clearer.
It's all anecdotal, but there's a demographic bitter lesbians, bemoaning the decline of the lesbian scene, because they couldn't keep trans women out. They could if they wanted to, of course - gay guys had no issues keeping trans men out - but despite all the talk of gender nonconformity, seems like even outliers tend to be closer to the behavioral average of their respective group, than to the other.
As a counterpoint there's also talk of lesbians going trans themselves, I think Katie Herzog had a whole spiel about that.
To be fair I don't think it's a similar category of problem, in the same way trans men trying to get into male prisons doesn't cause the same concern as trans women in female prisons.
I think being a biological female in, say, a men’s locker room is just unpleasant enough to resolve itself very fast.
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From the anecdotes I've heard about it, it seems that the primary problem is other women (or female persons who identify as not-women) who embrace the new trans religion and therefore consider it fundamentally immoral to try to maintain a penis-free lesbian scene.
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I mean, it seems to me a butch lesbian could become a transman just by switching which side the buttons on her flannel shirts are on.
In my experience, it tends to be trans women who go down the purely social transition route. I've encountered plenty of male people who put on a dress or makeup and demand that people call them "Lilith", but express no interest in medical transition (hell, I've met a handful of "Liliths" who don't even go to the trouble of swapping out their wardrobe or shaving their beard). For trans men, it tends to be a "go hard or go home" thing, wherein they don't bother to identify as such unless they're (at a minimum) taking testosterone - I don't recall ever encountering a self-identified trans man who was wearing makeup, six-inch heels and a pushup bra. Female people who want to maintain their femininity but still gain oppression points tend to just call themselves non-binary.
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This is why I'm relatively convinced that LGB and T belong together, because the most obvious examples are mismatched-brain things. You can see it in some gay men if you see a couple of them; it's very obvious that one of them has a "female" brain and one of them doesn't (the former may or may not have a lisp, but the latter won't).
Of course, this is all hidden by the discourse and the letters, and it also tends to run into being really insulting to tomboys and tomgirls which are only described by "must have received the wrong brain" in action, but not in thought (or perhaps, if privately in thought, they're reasonable enough to keep it to themselves). But I haven't found a better way to describe this effect.
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