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Society (not some extreme progressive niche) definitely considers the latter promiscuity.
No, it doesn't. Society thinks of relationships like jobs; it is perfectly acceptable to hop around looking for a better deal as long as you give two weeks notice before you actually start. Even marriages work like this now, though the divorce might take a little longer than two weeks.
Doesn't matter how long you were with your old partner and how much you promised to love them forever, you can just wake up one morning and say "I just don't feel that way anymore" and as long as you wait a whole week out of respect for the heartbroken it is totally kosher to start a sexual relationship with someone else.
It is now totally normal for a girl to have a high school boyfriend who she breaks up with when she goes to college, a college boyfriend or two who she breaks up with when she graduates and relocates for work, and another boyfriend or three before she is ready to settle down in her late twenties to early thirties. Toss in a handful of hookups and you are expected to be OK with a woman having half a dozen sexual partners before you marry her.
I hate it.
What experience do you base this on? Because it's certainly not true in any bubble I've ever been in
There is no source I can cite for something like this; all I can do is report what I see with my own eyes.
Well, if you say everyone you know has relationships like that, I guess I'll believe you, but that sounds sad and tragic to me. Maybe you are not surrounding yourself with the best examples. I mean, certainly breakups happen and some of them are shitty and people can be heartless, but it is not my experience that most people are that casual and callous. (Except the part about sexual histories. Having to accept that you probably won't be marrying a virgin - yeah, that part is true. Live with it or take the shahada, I guess.)
I have seriously considered doing this, but the fact that Islam is polygamous plus the fact that I would be starting out as a random outsider with no social capital to speak of gives me pause. I would probably just end up as one of those surplus males that are forced to fuck dancing boys for lack of women, which is not what I want.
Rather, I want white sharia.
What would that look like, exactly? I know it's Dread Jim's obsession, but that sort of social control is unlikely to happen without an onerous religious regime that would place additional restrictions on you that you probably wouldn't like; it won't just be "You get to choose a young hottie wife who isn't allowed to say no to you."
I’ll notice that these people advocating for trad sexual mores don’t seem to join the many existing Christian fundamentalist groups out there. Few are hostile to converts and a they invariably have better gender balance than secular right wing circles(low bar to clear, I know).
They don't actually want trad mores. They're mostly just resentful and sexually unsuccessful men who'd like the rules to change so women can't reject them.
You know that old joke about how feminist journalists all write articles about how, come the revolution, they will be considered hotter? I consider Dread Jim and much of the redpill crowd to be the male version of that.
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