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Speaking from experience, this is all just a post hoc rationalization and confirmation of your preexisting incel worldview. Just because you were able to put the words in an AI's mouth doesn't make it any more impartial or objective.
Irregardless of AI, the "ratio" calculated by your fermi analysis is highly highly variable on small variations on the input data, especially if these data were collected in different studies or with different methodology. Even if your data comes from the same study, you have to also know that self-reported data is biased based on how different genders respond to questions.
If you want to talk about society and not just yourself, then your entire analysis is is premised on the wrong idea. You're deliberately nignoring all of the people who are happily married or at least in a relationship and only zeroing in on the miserable few who are not. Think about this alternative question: what percentage of women in each age bracket has whored or otherwise destroyed her marriage value? This is a much better look at the societal issue.[insert aislop here if available]
More pressing I think is the increasing number of single people even controlling for socioeconomic factors, as well as the decrease in the number of children per married couple. And besides that, the steadfast trend that educated professional people are more often single and have fewer children than the underclasses. Obese Laquisha is over there having 5 kids to that many dads, has $50k in debt, and probably has an STI too, so maybe your criteria aren't hitting at the root of the correct problem.
Friend, if you're going to write off any woman agéd thirty rounds of the sun as An Hag and Crone and thus not marriageable, you're cutting out a lot of potential spouses given the trends towards late marriage and divorce. Nay nay, I shall only wed with a virgin bride not less than twelve nor more than fourteen years of age, the prime times of a woman's life before she becomes a jade, when I myself am still a sprightly youth of five-and-thirty - the Roman Empire sadly no longer exists to accommodate you.
See 0.15 of this relevant movie.
The figures you quote for competition for mates ("said women will have somewhere upwards of 5 men, possibly near 27 who will be competing for their affections") are in large part because of the limits of male attractedness (not attractiveness but who they are attracted to); whether the man is 18, 28, 48, or 68 he still wants that 18 year old hottie. If thirty to forty year old men are writing off women with "oh my god she's thirty she's got one foot in the grave" then that ratio is not going to improve.
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Never expected a Foil Arms and Hog link here. A fellow Hibernian?
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This number is going down very fast. There are fewer people in relationships AROUND THE WHOLE PLANET. It's not a 'miserable few' anymore.
That's as objectively true and readily observable as possible.
Was this something you were aware of?
I'm trying to figure out why.
And what can be done about it.
People just want to quibble around definitions and criteria or claim the numbers HAVE to be wrong, without bringing their own numbers.
Gotta be honest, I've thought of every single objection you guys keep bringing up, and when I do the barest amount of research it actually makes the overall picture look WORSE than I thought.
So no, I'm not 'confirming my pre-existing incel worldview.'
My attempts to REBUT it keep making my worldview worse, every time.
And nobody has been able to provide any actual data or reasonable argument to the contrary.
Of course the fact that relationships and childbirth are dropping is true.
But your claim that the reason is because too many women are fat ugly whores who are not worth marrying is a very incel coded conclusion.
You use the word "incel coded" (and "incel worldview" above) as if said modifier implies, or is synonymous with, "incorrect." It's a sneer masquerading as argumentation.
If a conclusion is true, then it is true regardless of how "incel coded" it is.
What does it add to the conversation, except as a verbal "boo light"? I mean, at best it's Bulverism — "You only believe this because…".
It's not a reason why OP is wrong. It's pointing out that OP's incorrect conclusion is shared with a significant number of other people who share in this flawed ideology.
The claim that the reason childbirth is dropping is because too many women are fat ugly whores who are not worth marrying has been thoroughly rebutted in my initial response as well as by nearly every other commenter in this thread, and it's not worth rehashing again.
It's an objective truth that people have gotten fatter, not just women.
It's an subjective one that women's fashions have trended to the blue-haired and side-cutted. Androgynous, maybe. I would say 'less aesthetically feminine'.
Although on average, people are having less sex, the ones who are having it are having a lot more of it.
"I want to start a family with a woman I find attractive and young and who isn't the town bike" isn't the end of the world.
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What does incel actually mean? He considers himself likely to be successful with women and is lamenting the plight of his fellows.
Maybe incel isn't the correct word stricly speaking. It's just coded in the sphere of ideologies such as red pill, mgtow, mra, pua, etc.
The fact is that OP claims he could be successful with women, but is still single, has been looking for years, and feels that worthy women are rare.
Again, what does that have to do with whether it's true or false, correct or incorrect?
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