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As I will never get tired of explaining - the fact that something is racist doesn't make it wrong or false.
The implication that a "ghetto boy" is a member of a "virulent invasive species" is both literally false, and metaphorically wrong.
I shouldn't have to explain why it's literally false.
The metaphor is wrong because in the typical understanding, the actions we should take against "invasive species" should be extreme, up to and including eradicating them from the "invaded" area.
You can make a nature/nurture point just fine without bringing these kind of implications into it.
The metaphor is specifically telling you not to put yourself in a position where you would have to take extreme measures to remove the invasive species. Have you ever read an account of an adoption gone wrong? In the worst cases, it sounds like the stuff that makes family annihilations seem understandable. And just to get ahead of the obvious criticism, the worst such story I've ever come across involved adopting a pair of Eastern European girls, who proved to be violently uncontrollable wrecking balls on the lives of their adoptive parents.
I feel so gross for asking but could you please share some especially-lurid ones?
There are sad cases of people adopting a kid as though selecting a pet from a dog shelter, then not being able (or willing) to cope with the work involved in "this kid is going to need a lot of help" and dumping the kid the same way they'd dump that dog out on the side of the road.
One lurid tale, from way back when during the Anglican Wars that probably didn't get traction outside of the religion news/religion discussion blogs, about a pair of nice liberal gay men (can't remember if they were married if gay marriage was legal then) in a particular Episcopalian church, members in good standing of said church, one at least of them very active in the work of the local church, who adopted a young black boy. Much praise from all around and a hell of a lot of back-patting in the community about how superior they all were with their liberal values as opposed to the nasty conservative church members fighting over LGBT rights and gay clergy and letting gay couples adopt and the rest of it. Then it turns out one of the nice gay dads, the active in the church one, was sexually abusing the kid (and probably had wanted to adopt a kid for that specific purpose).
There's horror stories whenever you turn over stones everywhere.
So to be entirely fair, while horrific, this isn’t the kid’s fault. I think what TitaniumButterfly is looking for are times when an adoption went wrong as a result of parents being unable to deal with the kid.
Although you alluded to this in the post, I think the specific examples would be more useful for what was requested.
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