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As a recovered simp, I can kind of comment
Dating is an extreme act of delayed gratification. Many men do not really enjoy the act of seducing women, which requires enormous investments in time and effort, and generally putting on at least a little bit of act rather than just being comfy and normal. Many men enjoy the thrill and payoff of a successful seduction but that is different from the act itself.
In irl seggs is good and all but with the latest gooning technology I would argue that hardcore gooning actually gives more seggsual stimulation than the real thing. As a result, the majority of single men do not actually have a lot of pent up sexual desire, because they are able to satisfy most of it with gooning. Incel types are different but their real problem is mental and not directly related to the physical act.
The remaining hole in these single men is therefore almost entirely social and barely physical. That makes them extremely susceptible to parasocial forms of entertainment. For lazy men, there is soooo much parasocial content available at the tip of their fingers. For free, you can listen in realtime to a girl whisper in your ear for hours, play games, talk about various topics, and depending on how popular the influencer is, even humor your messages, also for free. For a trifling amount of money - one dollar or less - you can buy her time to real your name and message, though not necessarily buy a thoughtful response. And of course, the big one, is that depending on the person, you can cheaply buy a certain level of girlfriend experience, either explicitly or unspoken. DMs, good night messages, even voice calls are all on the table. And for small time creators, it would actually be them, not paid chatters like is popular on OF.
For the content creator, it's pretty scalable, as it's relatively easy to simply manage chatting with a bunch of paypigs a few times a week to keep them on the hook. Creating the content to get them interested in the first place is relatively the harder part. For someone who enjoys creating the content, and doesn't mind listening to stinky old men ramble about whatever nonsense, it's actually quite an ideal gig.
For the simp stuck in the trap, it's extremely hard to get out. He already has gooning to satisfy physical needs, and one or several 20s women with perfect voices and decent intellect talking to him and giving him all the internet attention he needs. Even if he did want to go on dates, which he doesn't, he would likely be disappointed and disgusted by the women he meets. And don't forget that he's the one expected to do the seducing, which is something that he egirls don't need. From the logical intellectual perspective, the simp is a loser, only leaving the house to work and otherwise wasting away in his goon cave. But to the simp's reptile brain, he is living the ideal life, with constant seggsual stimulation and female attention.
I agree, but I think this is mainly a result of our modern techno-dystopia. No one enjoys swiping right on hundreds of profiles just so we can "take whatever we can get" from the bottom 1% who swipe back at us. No one enjoys being the orbiter/reply-guy on social media. No one enjoys fighting for the attention of the one semi-hot woman at a party/bar/club when she's surrounded by men jockying for her attention, with a 10:1 ratio of men:women. Noone enjoys doing our best to make witty conversation while she just stares into her phone (or even worse, texting her while she takes 48 hours to reply "lol") . Noone enjoys going into some women's space like a yoga class/book club/knitting circle and feeling the suspicious stares and closed-off body language. Noone enjoys awkwardly shaking our butts to shitty hop hop at the generic dance clubs.
What I do enjoy is if I can actually meet a woman IRL and have some sort of real connection. It could be dancing, a good conversation, sharing a meal, anything really, as long as I can tell she's actually focusing her attention on me and feeling something from it. But modern life makes it so damn hard to get even that... one time I was a cocktail bar talking to a woman who was not very conventioanlly attractive, but she was still fun to talk to. I was having fun until she mentioned that she was surprised how many men were trying to talk to her, including much younger men. I was like... "look around, you're the only woman here, and there's so many single men here. Of course we all want to talk to you!" The single women are all at home hiding out on social media and I have to pay them if I want even digital attention.
All that said, I still kinda like paying women to hang out with me and give me attention sometimes, just to have that kind of "great date" experience even if it doesn't lead to seggs. They're just way better at entertaining men than any normal woman. So maybe it makes sense for this to be the modern division of labor.
Saw a tweet that made the specific argument that men aren't really competing to be more interesting than other men for a woman's attention at any given time (sometimes they are, of course). He's competing to be more interesting than her phone. Which is a difficult lift. She's got a dozen apps on there for various forms of communication, another dozen for feeding video slop, and then probably a half dozen games to fill in the gaps.
Up against that much dopamine-hacking technology, what can a given guy sitting in front of her do or say that will actually get her to stop thinking about her messages, or her latest instagram post, or make her want to engage in conversation instead of scroll tiktok.
You might as well ask what a given woman can do to be more appealing for an average 2D aficionado than his endless, effortless, potentially AI-enhanced harem of 2D waifus.
Oh, that's easy. Blowjobs.
The respective answer for faceh's question would be "just buy GFE from her onlyfans".
A girl with OF isn't going to hold my hand while we walk into Home Depot to pick out supplies for our weekend project.
...well, not unless I pay her an obscene amount of money.
I'd assume a companionship service to go to a specific public location would be not much more expensive than a regular escort (which seems to be the original source of the euphemism). But maybe handholding is just too weird for modern whores.
Yes, Escorts provide GFE-stuff. Of varying types, of varying lengths. I've checked. The point I was trying to make is, such an activity as I described it involves a deep degree of investment on both sides of the fence and a level of intimacy that just doesn't boil down to 'these two fuck every so often'. It speaks of two people actively trying to keep together a household and the long time-horizon that implies.
Can't really get that from an Escort, or an OnlyFans.
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