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Maybe you’re just in a bad spot. I was pleasantly surprised by the Hinge algorithm. It seemed to figure out what I like pretty quick.
I've never run into a torrent of the like on Hinge either - I have a few deal-breakers, obnoxious politics are one of them, and after hitting X on a number of people the app seemed to figure out that I don't want to see more of them.
I've never used dating apps. It would be pointless; since I'm in the DC area, white women who aren't the type to put those "HATE HAS NO HOME HERE / NO HUMAN BEING IS ILLEGAL" signs in their yards are damned few and far between unless you go way beyond the reach of public transit (I have no car).
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It never stops showing me queer leftists with BLM ACAB in their "Lets make sure we're on the same page about."
I fucking HATE Hinge prompts and the tone they enforce.
Let me just tell you from learning the hard way: These women are doing you a favor by making it clear this is a dealbreaker up front.
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