The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:
-
Requests for advice and / or encouragement. On basically any topic and for any scale of problem.
-
Updates to let us know how you are doing. This provides valuable feedback on past advice / encouragement and will hopefully make people feel a little more motivated to follow through. If you want to be reminded to post your update, see the post titled 'update reminders', below.
-
Advice. This can be in response to a request for advice or just something that you think could be generally useful for many people here.
-
Encouragement. Probably best directed at specific users, but if you feel like just encouraging people in general I don't think anyone is going to object. I don't think I really need to say this, but just to be clear; encouragement should have a generally positive tone and not shame people (if people feel that shame might be an effective tool for motivating people, please discuss this so we can form a group consensus on how to use it rather than just trying it).
Jump in the discussion.
No email address required.
Notes -
Is it wrong to look at girls in the gym?
If it’s wrong then why do the all wear form fitting clothing or even more like a sporty bra? Why do some of their workout moves look a little like sexual movements (though they do have a legit exercise component)?
It’s not wrong until they start getting uncomfortable. The point of uncomfortableness depends on a lot of variables such as local/gym culture, your attractiveness, what you mean by looking etc. Assessing this somewhat accurately is a skill we call “not being autistic”.
Women work out their hips as it’s the only muscle group they can keep growing and contributes to their attractiveness. Women moving their hips in tight clothing looks erotic.
It’s not wrong if they start getting uncomfortable either. Your gaze, your choice. Look as much as you’d like, kings. It’s not like the modal gym thot would give the slightest of fucks about your comfort.
Men don’t have a duty to read minds, be attractive and not be unattractive, and police themselves lest chicks feel less than maximally comfortable in their forever quest to be sex objects and farm sexual attention. Freedom to wear skimpy outfits is not freedom from discomfort if a man wishes to look where he wants. Chicks can always just wear more clothing if they don't like the sexual attention they're getting.
I only police myself over checking out gym thots in case an opportunity pops up later to chat them up, and I don’t want to preemptively give them the Ick for no good reason. Or I don’t want to self-sabotage future approaches with other chicks in case a given gym thot might gossip about her remembering some time in the past where I gave her the Ick from looking at her. Additionally, I don’t like giving chicks the sexual attention they crave without me getting anything out of it. I’m not running a validation-providing charity for attention whores over here.
Usually when someone goes viral for ick guy was looking at me it’s some tatted up chick who’s not that hot.
Gym bros wear completely different clothing that doesn’t show off so I don’t think tight lulus etc are for comfort. It’s what they are socially allowed to wear to be hot and get attention and I think they like it.
I believe I have seen articles on female only gyms and they always fail and no one goes to them.
Really? That's interesting. Although consider one possibility why that might be.
More options
Context Copy link
More options
Context Copy link
More options
Context Copy link
More options
Context Copy link
More options
Context Copy link