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Yeah, it sucks. Being a man in dating is literally the meme Its essentially akin to the job market: practice interview with a career coach, practice for the technical interview, get to the 100th round, and then receive a rejection email. Not to mention the 1000s of resumes to each job posting. Just to find one job that pays $7 an hour.
It used to be that people met at church or through friends of friends, but because friendship & socializing is on decline, the above is essentially the path to success going forward until we can find a solution to lack of socialization. Its the major thing that exemplifies the issue (that and the economic circumstances mentioned)
If it makes you feel better, 1 in 4 people over 40 never get married so you arent alone, if you dont find someone.
This women does
I just wonder how other men that aren’t doing as well handle it. I think about that Elliot Rodger kid or like the sino-cel subreddits. While the incel panic was overblown, the feelings that come from rejection and disillusionment are strong and upsetting. Worst is that I don’t think there’s really a healthy way to deconstruct it except to just keep pushing on.
But status is a good cushion. I would really, really hate to have these feelings and also feel less than other men who went to college and got good jobs etc. All things considered, I’m doing alright and things will fall into place.
I know this Indian guy who got banned from a bar for creeping out some of the female guests, and bro insisted on defending himself instead of, you know, deleting his socials and hopping to the next city over with a new name. He went years prior to this tanking probably a 100 rejections. Talk about persistence. Anyway, about 6 months later, he posted an Instagram reel with a gorgeous Japanese broad celebrating their engagement. They seem to be going good as a married couple almost 3 years on...
Not that I'd rec his strats or try them out personally, but if there ever was a case that persistence really does reward after all (coupled with a massive stroke of luck obviously). Not letting the rejections and shaming to knock his self esteem is deadass a superpower.
Based persistent Chadpreet. “No way! Why should I have to delete socials and change cities with a new name? The barthots are the ones who suck!”
It’s easily worth offending the princess complexes of a hundred barthots if it lands you a cutie 3.14 Japanese waifu in the end. Can’t make an omelette without breaking a few eggs.
Given female passivity, a lot of dating success for men is driven by the numbers game. You miss every shot you don’t take.
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Ways that deconstruct it are not natively compatible with [human] biology.
You are supposed to get laid or die trying, you are supposed to kill other men and take their wives if there are not enough of them for you.
It's not supposed to be tolerable; organisms that can tolerate it are either malfunctioning or engaging adaptive responses to hopeless situations, generally through a quasi-hibernation process, typically called "depression" when it misidentifies successful conditions as hopeless. This summarizes the self-replicating feature of the organic process called 'life'.
Fortunately for modern civilization, we've done a pretty good job of killing all reason to desire things and provided reasonable simulations, to the point that most people don't notice and as such conditions are generally stable.
This is a caricature, it's biological determinism on meth. What's the "supposed to" here? Cro Magnon rules? I balk at a lot of what I read, both here and everywhere, but this seems as if it were written by an AI writing about humanity after having trained wholly on the meager, repetitive opus of PUA gurus. A human society that normalized homicidal competition for sex would not long survive.
Rising above savagery may seem to some as an impediment to getting laid, or whatever the goal is in this case. But come on.
That's what "instinct" means, yes. Is it perfectly adapted at all times, particularly in modern post-scarcity environments? Well...
Human societies normalize this all the time; it's just usually directed towards the tribe over the hill there. It's also not necessarily this way,
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