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I agree. And i think more men in my age cohort need to hear this. I know a number of single men in their 30s. I cant point to any character defects, but I agree that there must be something there.
Maybe you should be looking for character defects in the women of their cohort.
If the men aren't married, but the defect doesn't lie in them, then by process of elimination...
This seems like the Principal Skinner meme brought to life. Sure, there are plenty of defective women as well, but if they all seem defective, that would suggest faulty evaluation. I am confident that there are plenty of high quality, marriageable women on the basis that many women are, in fact, married and stay married. My confidence is further increased by knowing quite a few of them.
I think this line of reasoning does not demonstrate what you think it demonstrates.
If 0% of the men are defective and 60% of the women are insufferably defective, then the 40% non-defective women get married to 40% of the men, leaving 60% of the men who can't find a woman that's not insufferable.
So you'd still get unmarried men despite there being no problem with them.
The sense that I get is that this can't possibly work that way, because women are the ones who define what "defective" means. By definition, 0% of women are defective, and X% of men are defective as determined by the judgments of the women which play out in whether or not one of the women chose to marry the man. I think this underlies most of the discussion on this topic, and trying to reason why those X% of men might have negative character traits is just a long-winded way of trying to avoid recognizing this. Those men are defective, by definition, but for whatever reason, people in our society don't like to think of ourselves as judging people as "defective" based purely on their romantic success, and so we come up with other reasons to justify this judgment that avoids the obvious answer.
For how long have you been a committed champion of the longhouse?
Sorry, I think this must be a reference to something, but I don't understand it. I had to Google what a longhouse was and, as I had initially guessed, it seems to be a house that is long. But I'm guessing you're referring to something more specific.
Longhouse, as you said, is traditional dwelling used by many tribal peoples, independently invented many times because it is highly practical.
"Longhouse" in internet alt right speak means modern degenerate and unmanly society where women and homosexuals rule and real true manly men are oppressed and persecuted.
"I do not want to sit in office all day, I want to loot, rape and pillage like my ancestors did! I want to collect enemy skulls, not funko pops! They do not let me live like real man, this is so unfair :'-(:'-(:'-("
Why they chose this name is unclear. One would imagine that online manly right that sees civilization as fake and gay would see life of Iroquis or Mohawks as the best life ever.
Would "Bronze Pervert" and his ilk advise the Iroquis to leave the longhouse and build tiny huts for each family separated with picket fences? If so, they wouldn't go very far.
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As someone else here who had to be enlightened on this topic, I wonder if maybe the Viking/other European nomad tribal longhouses were different than how the American Indigenous tribes did things, and that's where BAP et. al. are getting the concept from.
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