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One missing, but important piece for judging B according to content of his character: when he killed himself, he left behind his 11 years old daughter.
Sorry, but when you have children, your life is no longer your own, that's the point of the whole enterprise. If your "twu wuw" is more important to you than your kid, you are, in technical terms, piece of shit.
This is the kind of post that scares people away from having children.
Sure, when you're a child you're subordinate to your parents and your teachers, then in college you're supposed to be subordinate to your instructors and subordinate yourself to the goal of finding work post college. Then when you're working you've still got to be subordinate to your bosses, but at least that's part time... then someone comes along and tells you you have to also subordinate yourself to your children. When do you get to be you? Never.
This attitude, despite being a 'conservative' one, seems to be new to the generations which grew up after WWII. Earlier generations did not maintain that the parents lived for the children.
On the other hand, the idea that living for oneself is a bad thing is not new- the old style expression of it would have been that you lived for the community, and having children was part of meeting obligations to those around you.
A sort of primitive fascism, where everyone is basically a cell in the communal body. As E.O. Wilson said in a slightly different context, "Wrong Species".
Only insofar as "fascism" has become a generic sneer-word for any philosophy that makes leisure class liberals uncomfortable.
Historical Fascists had a very clear and specific idea of what thier movement was about.
Yes, that's why I called it a "sort of primitive fascism" rather than actual fascism. Of course, sweep away the high-sounding language and everyone being expected to act as a cell in the body (or a cog in the wheel) isn't really such a good thing. And if you were to look at such a society, you'd probably find, as always, that there were a few people who were doing the directing of what the rest were doing.
Sweep away the high-sounding language about emancipation and radical individualism and what's left is a intellectual, moral, and biological dead-end.
You are alive, posting on this forum today because when you were small the people around you cared for you. They fed you, they clothed you, they taught you to read and write. If you really view this as "slavery" then perhapse they should not have done those things.
My paternal grandparents, who did not in any way, shape, or form, consider themselves subordinate to their own children, had six children.
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