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Wellness Wednesday for September 21, 2022

The Wednesday Wellness threads are meant to encourage users to ask for and provide advice and motivation to improve their lives. It isn't intended as a 'containment thread' and any content which could go here could instead be posted in its own thread. You could post:

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Might have to make a hasty escape across the border. The plan to emigrate "properly" was the wrong one, in hindsight.

My current employer is going to protect me against mobilization, but that doesn't mean I want to end up locked inside the country.

Do it. If putin keeps marshalling all resources of your nation for his bloody charade, you’d inevitably become an accomplice by providing them in one form or another.

I had no idea you were Russian, thought ilforte was the only Russian poster. Best of luck.

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Where are you fleeing to? Relatives abroad, a hotel booked in advance, or just straight across the closest border and see about where to stay afterwards? How do you strategize? And are you even willing to post about that or would that violate OpSec?

Well, my old strategy was not decisive enough. But crossing the land border has become practically impossible in the last 24 hours, with gigantic queues that won't clear in the next four days, so I am staying put for a while, as I have enough savings for an emergency plane ticket. Gotta use this time to establish something of a foothold somewhere.

I’m sorry to here that, practically speaking if your employer can keep you out isn’t it a lot more dangerous and uncertain to just flee?

Yes, kinda? Fleeing is super uncertain, but it's an upfront lump of uncertainty taken when I'm ready to take it. Staying at my cozy job means it can be introduced into my life rather unexpectedly.