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PaperclipPerfector  3mo ago (text post)   2795 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for January 26, 2024

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Has anyone else gone through a period in adult life where you realize you've kind of forgotten how to actually have fun?

I'm not talking about just zoning out to a video game, but joyous laugh-out-loud relaxing fun. For me I feel I've gotten so bogged down with job issues, health issues, and planning for the future that even when I carve out 'free time' I never fully relax and just have fun.

Anyone relate? Or have stories on how they got out of such a mode?

Me since age 16, I am 23 now, co-founder of a startup and I am stuck in my room all day. I want to move back to Gurugram where I can occasionally visit nightclubs but even that feels futile, I feel empty when not working and that makes me less likely to work, its a vicious feedback loop. Everything feels empty, I never have enough energy to work and cannot feel happy whenever I am back in my hometown.

Even going to nightclubs is now hard since I recently discovered what STDs are and feel bad. It is a strange phenomenon, I would greatly appreciate if anyone had any advice on how to feel fulfilled when working on a long-term goal or being an adult, is it just meditation or what?

Seconding @ares that exercise is most important. Just going for a walk can help a lot.

It's easy to get stuck in the loop of

  1. I need to work
  2. I don't have the energy to work
  3. I need to engage in an energy-building activity like exercise or seeing friends
  4. I don't deserve to spend time on that because I need to work
  5. I still don't have energy to work
  6. I'll do a mindless energy-draining activity like videogames instead
  7. Repeat

Very important to recognize and break that loop. If you're not working enough then you have time to not work for another 2 hours and do something actually refreshing.

Ouch. Hopefully an STD that can be relatively successfully dealt with with antibiotics.

I would rather use condoms, avoid girls with a high likelihood of them and get vaccines. I do not want to get one ever. Feels scary.

Ah I misunderstood your post I suppose. When you wrote you "discovered what STDs are" I took it as euphemistic, not literally that you had never heard of STDs until recently.

That sounds like regular old depression. There's plenty of info out there about how to deal with depression. For me, getting some sunlight on my skin every morning and working out 4x/week for 30+ minutes does more for my mental health than anything my psychiatrist recommended.

I know, I think I am depressed, I do not know what happiness feels like, I always feel like I have not worked enough.

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