George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
The things you lean on / are things that don't last
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George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Look dude. I'll say it again, that's just the way I talk. There is no malice behind it, at worst it's a textual tic or an expression of mild exasperation. If you find it that unbearable, well, that's a shame. Take care.
I personally find your riffing and attempts at humor at the expense of your interlocutor (and/or his/her views) off-putting, and generally I avoid interacting with you for this reason. This is just a data point for you, of course you're free to act however you like. (Even here I expect some sort of snarky "Thanks for the permission" retort, when that is not the tack I'm intending. If I generally posted in a way that caused others to react badly I'd want to know.) Even here, you seem to apologize, then think better of it and your last two sentences are basically a fuck off. It's very un-Motte, though rests in the plausible deniability "Whatever do you mean?" territory.
But I'm a fucking Quokka, to use a Motte-term, so there's that.
As I have written here before, I think your takes are often insightful, if bitter pills. I also think your generalizations are probably too wide and confined to a subset of hot/mildly damaged women (all of us, men and women, are at least mildly damaged) and that your ability to calibrate/"read the vibes" isn't a particularly transferable skill. I also think what she wants and what is good (healthy if you prefer) for her (to say nothing of what is good for me/a man) are often not the same. In other words maybe in her secret garden she has a nice rape fantasy planted; that doesn't mean that I do, or that I'm interested at all in accommodating her.
I've been married 20+ years, I'm under no illusion that women are necessarily wonderful, but I'm also convinced that we're fundamentally different (male and female) well beyond simply plumbing, and that one aspect of our role as men is to be protective. I wouldn't want to indulge some girl's getting off on her own self-loathing any more than I'd want her exacerbating, for sexual kicks, my own (to what degree any self-loathing remains after 50 years of systematically eradicating it).
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Probably, though associated mostly with a mom who closely curates schoolwork, what schools to apply for, study time, juku or cram schools, etc. I understand the Amy Chua version as much more all-encompassing (i.e. never allow your child unstructured free time, period.)
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Also I'd argue kyōiku mama is not particularly derogatory but descriptive. Kyōiku simply means education. There are other terms like onibaba that refer to more fierce and literally demon-hags that nag their children about xyz. A woman might even describe herself as a kyōiku mama though no woman would describe herself as onibaba.
But this may have been added by a Japanese person with a different view.
edit: A lesbian friend of mine once said the term woman was often meant derogatorily. As in "That woman said..." This was only a few years after Bill Clinton's denials about sexual relations with Monica, so maybe that's what she was thinking of. I didn't ask what term she'd prefer.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
I'm also reading that close prolonged contact is typical, not just droplets across a conversation.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
I predict the media will make much of this, the CA will recover, no further clusters will be discovered, and the cases that do emerge will be quickly quarantined and contained. But the key phrase is that the media will regularly run insinuating, panicky articles until it blows over
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Always a pleasure, Sloot. Did you just assume the positive feedback beforehand? Or lucked into it?
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
She initially insisted that I wear a condom and that she didn’t like oral sex; however, after a few rounds of slapping, choking, and spitting in her mouth, guess who was enthusiastically sucking dick and getting rawdogged?
So to restate: She told you to use a condom and that she didn't want to fellate you, but you slapped, choked, and spat on her and then she acquiesced.
This sounds rather more like your thing than hers, though of course reported narratives are often misremembered and/ot relevant detail inadvertently left out.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
There you are, for some reason I haven't been seeing your posts recently.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
looks great
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Inspiring! Sounds great.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Best wishes to a successful remission. Never tried to make sourdough though it's a great sandwich bread.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Ham and green beans are solid. Green beans and purple -hull field peas were staple sides at lunch and dinner growing up
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
How's the ticker? While dietary cholesterol is apparently not the bugbear it was made out to be for years, saturated fats are still considered a cause of atherosclerosis. Then there is the metabolic/blood glucose issue. Truly you should be studied.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
The heresy part is my lack of enthusiasm for wagyu. The marbling, which is what is supposed to make it so good, is what to me makes the texture oddly surreal.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Damn. Any sides?
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Very true. I wish we could have peanut butter in my home, but my brood have allergies.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Big pastry and meat pie fan myself. I used to attempt croissants and pastry dough in my youth but I feel it's not worth the effort when you can buy premade.
Sounds good to me. Steaks also sound good. The 和牛/wagyu beef most often sold as high end steak here doesn't quite do it for me. It's not bad but it tastes like an Alien's version of what a steak should taste like. That's heresy here to say aloud, but the best steak I've ever had (outside some tournedos de rossini) was in Alabama cooked on a grill at my friend's house.
I would totally eat. Green peas get a bad rap in Japan for some reason, but Farfelle, peas and canned tuna with some Italian parsley and garlic is a great dish as well.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Sounds good! Any bread involved?
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Enchiladas sound amazing. So difficult to get good Mexican food here, although there appears to be a recent taco boom in Japan (they say メキシカンタコス/mekishikantakos to not be confused with タコ/tako or octopus) There's a place in Osaka that has a one-month wait to get in, but no taco is worth that amount of time for me. I'm biding my time for the interest to wane or Instagram to be glutted. And Oaxaca cheese! Couldn't find it for love or money in Kansai (possibly Tokyo?)
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
So in the spirit of small scale, what's for dinner tonight?
My wife was up tonight and made the following:
Regular onigiri with white rice
Pork-wrapped julienned carrots and green peppers with some sort of sour plum paste seasoned with salt and pepper. Sautéed so it was like a little roll of meat with vegetables inside
Some sort of kimchee vegetables that included celery sections. Was surprisingly good
miso soup (tofu, green onions, spinach)
tofu (kinugoshi or soft) in squares topped with thin sliced onions, sesame oil, and her family's soy sauce, which I'm told is noticeably different than that you can buy in stores
cucumber medallions and daikon radish and carrots pickled in some way
udon noodles topped with some meat and baby leaf lettuce seasoned in some way (I think the noodles were the main?)
I had all this with two very cold beers.
I imagine @Tretiak eating pizza topped in butter, how about the rest of you?
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2mo ago
Some good ones here. Thanks for compiling these, as always.
I wouldn't worry about it. To be clear, you do seem perfectly mannered in our interactions. It's like a kid (I'm the kid in this scenario) listening to the grownups talk at the dinner table, and noticing uncle Balasubramanian tends to talk down to those who argue with him. You think, "I think I'll avoid that." But he does tell good stories!
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