Joyful
11mo ago
I take the burns depression index and log the score every month, that might be a good addition to your metrics:
I'd also agree to just do it in a spreadsheet. Apps get too annoying as health trackers because they all want to push coaching and subscriptions over data entry and display.
Joyful
11mo ago
I can't stress how little importance the exact way you ask someone out has.
As a girl, this. She knows you. Either she would like to see more of you or she wouldn't so the wording won't really matter. If you have her number feel free to just text her if you don't want to do it in person.
Joyful
1yr ago
My guess is that it is a way to notice there might be a problem. As a teenage girl it would never have occurred to me to tell anyone if my period became irregular. How horrifying to raise the topic! Most teenage girls have not yet seen a gynecologist (btw, who ask on their intake forms the date of your last period, for this very reason.) Their individual coaches should be aware of this but I can see how specifically asking would seem intrusive and weird.
Joyful
1yr ago
I hate that Lindsey Ellis gave up on her interesting public work (making youtube videos) because of stupidity on twitter. Just leave twitter!
Joyful
1yr ago
I'd practice concentration by 1) mindfullness meditation and 2) reading things you enjoy. When you can read a book you enjoy for 3 or 4 hours at a stretch, you'll find it a lot easier to focus on work for an hour at a time.
Joyful
10mo ago
Mike is small and unthreatening. No one looks to "clock" a transman because he's not winning Man of the Year Awards, male olympic medals, or scaring anyone with his genitals in a bathroom. It's not that somehow Mike just is a man, its mostly that people don't care because his identity doesn't revolve around forcing other people to acknowledge and validate his fetish.
Until it is, and then people are just as angry at Mike as Dylan. When Mike yells at gay men on twitter or tries to cancel them because they say no to vaginas, or where Mike's family finds the idea of calling their daughter "he" ridiculous, the screeching is just as loud.
Joyful
1yr ago
I really wish Lindsay Ellis had quit twitter rather than youtube over that idiocy.
Joyful
1yr ago
Yep. One of my friends was a standard fat gamer programming nerd until the pandemic. Funny, if a bit incel-y in personality (he made some occasional sexist comments that were annoying but not fatal to our friendship). During the pandemic he finally lost the weight and I was thinking "Hey, maybe we can finally get this guy a date. Funny, decent job, tall enough, starting to look like a viking" I wouldn't date him myself for a couple of reasons, but get some good pictures for an online dating profile and we can improve his quality of life a lot (he's prone to depressive episodes and loneliness).
I brought up the topic and he said "actually, I'm not thinking about dating at all right now because I've been seeing a gender therapist for a year." We've hung out five or six times since then (over two years), with each hang out getting more uncomfortable and creepy, and now I'm dodging his calls (I'm not misgendering btw, he's never formally asked me to change names or pronouns). Somehow "man wearing a dress" freaks me out less than "man wearing a dress and boobs." It's much more 'it rubs the lotion on its skin'. He did finally (briefly) date someone (an older woman) during this process, but broke up with her because she obviously saw him as a man.
So yes. We're not close enough for me to suck it up and lie and not distant enough for me to just be polite. Hence the avoiding.
Joyful
1yr ago
I question whether obscure Canadian sitcom counts as mainstream (although I enjoy it).
Joyful
1yr ago
Not a lot outside of reality tv which is about their weight but This is Us comes to mind (just to give an example because you didn't, not disagreeing).
Joyful
1yr ago
I prefer genderspecial. Probably because I've lost all patience with being expected to play along with the games of random people I don't know or barely know but who demand I agree to pretend I believe their version of reality on pain of social ostracism.
Joyful
16d ago
This comment made me think some about how I specifically see the civilizations/countries of the world.
I probably would say 1st world (anglosphere, rich europe), 2nd world (poor europe), developing, won't develop.
For many contexts thinking of the islamic countries as a group also occurs. I'd say to me China counts as the most important developing country (although with their current problems that economic position could easily backslide for the rest of my life) and india somewhere in the middle of the developing countries. Not a "can't develop" like most of SSA but not of special note. Something like indonesia.
Joyful
1mo ago
The risk of high protein is that you are eating enough protein to convert it to sugar, screwing over your ketosis. I'd suggest using ketostix to track whether your ketones are behaving correctly on the high protein before you try it.
Personally I capped my protein around 66g a day for that reason, but people vary.
High protein just... isn't keto. Better to call it low carb.
Joyful
6mo ago
Local bay area coding jobs are seeing 150-650 applications. I'm not even looking at remote jobs at this point.
Joyful
9mo ago
Yeah, so I'm listening to it and it is much worse writing wise, boring, than the two other similar songs it makes me think of. Beer for my Horses (https://youtube.com/watch?v=o1JOFhfoAD4) and the rah rah 9-11 song, Courtesy of the Red White and Blue.
Joyful
10mo ago
Including wears skirts on this list is silly. Clothing is different across cultures and generations. Removing it from the list would strengthen your argument. I'd also change the first to female reproductive organs, actually, because of certain intersex conditions.
Joyful
11mo ago
Part of it is a content moderation solution. At one point I remember reading that they assessed if a person was likely to be bullied and if so they limited their reach to their home country to cut back on complaints.
Joyful
1yr ago
I'd rather it start with 10% dischargeable and then work up to 50% over the course of a decade or so. (with the amount discharged transferred as debt or as reductions caps on annual grants to the given institution the discharged debt came from). 100% dischargeable makes a masters in theater more appealing not less.
Joyful
1yr ago
People like jake gyllenhal and heath ledger. Not so much the annoying voiced sommelier from Parks and Rec.
Joyful
1yr ago
https://qz.com/574693/americans-working-less-than-ever-before/ From 2016 but shows that the lowest income quartile works less than 30 hours a week and the highest three all more than 40.
Joyful
11mo ago
otherwise women with endocrine conditions wouldn't be barred
That's usually a euphemism for XY intersex individuals.
equestrian sports
Are not divided by sex of the human participant. There are medal winners of both sexes across equestrian sports. Some are divided by the sex of the horse (although horses have less sexual dimorphism than humans, it is some).
This would put my back up, as a woman. If she cancelled because she doesn't want to go out with you, then nothing you say matters. If she was genuinely busy and does want to go again, the word "owe" is going to strike a sour note.
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