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Culture War Roundup for the week of October 3, 2022

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Man, I really don't know where I fall on that. On the one hand, it reads like a copy-pasta or meme. But more boomerish. Like that "300 confirmed kills" one.

On the other hand, it also pretty accurately describes a lot of insecure, vindictive, attention seeking women I've known or seen. Only in the real world they lack the self awareness or courage to ever write a letter like that.

Which raises a fascinating question. How do you meme the meme-sex?

Is...is the "meme-sex" supposed to be women?

I've never really understood the expression, so I'm hoping this thread provides some elucidation.

I have absolutely no context on it, and I'm interested to hear what others say, but I thought it might have to do with women being the arbiters of social acceptability, women determine what ideas get passed on what ideas don't. Men tend to look to women for moral guidance on what is okay to think, okay to talk about, okay to do.

I think the idea that women are the arbiters of social acceptability is itself a controversial idea, but it's one that I believe is true, nonetheless.

It's less of a steelman, and more actually sexist than that. Imagine some bit of boomer humor, the sort where the punch line is "Women! Can't live with 'em." And the joke is that you stopped before adding "can't live without 'em". "Meme sex" and "woman moment" are the Zoomer version of the same thing, eyerolling or sneering (depending on how mean-spirited the speaker is being) at an instance of a woman acting in a stereotypical way.

It's kind of hilarious reading all the Mottizens in this thread explain their interpretations of the term that are way more intelligent and charitable than the truth. It just means "women are a meme, lol".