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Culture War Roundup for the week of October 13, 2025

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Related note, it seems like women are less comfortable using AI in general,

Half of all ERP use is women, at least. Seems they're quite comfortable with that.

How many would happily admit to that if pressed, though.

Yeah, self reports are worthless. Look at what people do, not what they say.

Consider this screencap of the trending tab (the number is chat msgs in last 24h) on one of the less degenerate chatbot sites.

It does blow my mind that women seem to be able to get 90% of their sexual gratification from text alone, with some visual accompaniment.

Proof is in the pudding, but my male brain pretty much demands that I get some sort of visual and audio stimulation and ideally it be physically present, so its hard for me to grok how it feels to get aroused from text without some accompanying expectation of actual physical contact later.

Can you not... visualize the action in your head?

As a man, my problem with female erotica is that the content sucks, not that the medium does.

I can visualize, but I guess my point is that if its a sexting session, I'm visualizing the other person and anticipating a future experience and its the anticipated experience that I'm really fixating on.

I don't think the mere words are technically what I'm responding to.

Like, I have made some attempts to do erotic roleplay with LLMs, and they get the idea but its hard to feel like the tease is 'real' without the promise of some fulfillment later.

So... it doesn't work for me. I can visualize the acts, but with an AI there's zero chance of it going anywhere. Its words on a screen, and they don't promise a payoff.

Its also what makes Onlyfans a little perplexing to me. Its all the emotional distance of a stripper, none of the skin-on-skin contact.

This also makes the digitally-intermediated dating environment a bit of a hellscape for me by default.

Going by the level of literacy and apparent age of people who write these chat cards, a median user of LLM ERP has probably never had actual sex and if he or she were honest with themselves, would admit that it's over because all they know is the digitally-intermediated dating environment hellscape.

It kind of blows my mind that people can't get it from text alone. Then again, since I grew up relatively pornless, maybe it's just an adaptation, or I'm so used to holding myself back in key ways [i.e. the reasons for that state] that I've accidentally become transgender just kind of stopped trying to prefer the strictly visual.

Perhaps I'm just more comfortable externalizing the whole thing, which as I understand it is also not exactly stereotypically male. Or maybe it's just because you can't masturbate cuddling, I dunno.

I think that there are tricks to make porn that's strictly visible gratifying in the text way where you... basically just show the emotional effects (or rather, fail to neglect them), but to do that requires some intentionality and most of it is just trying to show off the largest examples of certain anatomy possible. (Text can do that too, but if it does this poorly, things throb harder than humanity's collective mass of stubbed toes.)

It kind of blows my mind that people can't get it from text alone.

Same, although TBF I'm old enough that my teenage years largely predate the world wide web, so there's definitely a generational component to that for me. The dirty stories and smutty books had all kinds of good stuff that could push a lot more of my developing buttons than the stock "three flavors of provocatively posed naked young ladies" that made up the majority of pornography back when Shelbyville was called Morganville and you couldn't get a white onion because of the war and all you could get was those big yellow ones.

"Throbbing," "dripping" and "devouring" are, to me, inherently un-sexy words, yet literotica seems to consider those the best damn words in the whole thesaurus.

And here I was, thinking we had phased out "devouring" with the more succinct "voring".

Honestly, half the problem with trying to use sexy words in this type of literature is that they just come off as... kind of ham-fisted. If I have to read "wow, you're inside me" and "I'm cumming" one more fucking time I'm going to moan extremely loudly scream.

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