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Dang, advised a buddy to shoot his shot with a girl in a discord he was into. Apparently as soon as he admitted he had feelings she immediately blocked him and left the server.
Not sure how this guy asked her out, but generally he's a pretty socially competent guy. Not autistic or anything, has been married before and dated a good bit so not an incel type. It's just nuts that ladies by and large can be so neurotic when it comes to getting propositioned. Now his whole status in this server with folks he likes is in question.
Idk, obviously I don't understand the female experience here, but it really strikes me as a lack of maturity to react this way!!!
Anyway to make it fun, what's your best story about getting rejected and/or rejecting someone romantically?
Years ago, I was in a bookstore, and I realized I had forgotten to put my watch on that day. I asked the woman standing at the same shelf if she had the time. She looked me dead in the eye and said "don't talk to me".
She literally would not give me the time of day.
Fast forward a few years. I'm doing a particularly raunchy musical. I've lost a lot of weight, put on muscle, and I'm down to about 7% body fat. Part of the performance involved working the audience, and at one point I realized somebody had their hands down my pants. Looking down, I realized it was the same woman from a few years before. I pulled her hands out of my clothes, gave her a finger wag, and moved on.
That is what I call immature and asshole behavior.
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Daily reminder that women can be selfish scumbags too.
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LOL this is a wild story. Really is crazy though. It's kind of overblown sometimes in trad circles, but I do think that women being bitchy nowadays and having no manners is a huge part of the decline in marriage and fertility crisis etc.
Becomes way harder to shoot your shot as a man when women are willing to act like this to you. It stings a lot more when you're younger as well.
ETA: also grats on getting swole my ninja.
In the old days women would be socially ostracized for shooting down men who were trying to respectfully interact in this way. Loose social networks or anonymity facilitate this kind of behaviour. Guys also use it to ghost, pump and dump etc, so it is what it is.
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