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Friday Fun Thread for April 10, 2026

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Getting married today. I suppose that counts as fun. We've been together for 10 years already, so I think we've a decent hand on this whole romance thing, but does anyone who can beat that want to chime in with advice for love and life?

A physical intimacy tip - "fancy back rubs": essentially the lazy dog position, but you should be primarily focused on providing a great back massage. Use lotion/oil every once in a while, and have a conversation, practice your technique, use your elbows and fingers as a professional would.

When everyone's tired at the end of the day, it's a low-stress and very even pleasure trade that can last as little as 10 minutes before sleep. Or it's great foreplay. Win-Win.

Almost certainly you are seeing this too late, but on the weird chance you do see it on time: many women do in fact believe that there is no such thing as too many wedding day pictures. Bribe your friends, even literally, to take some candid shots that they can share!

Forget small bad events that happen if they aren't a pattern, when you buy each other presents DO NOT get kitchen appliances/clothes/tools/fun gadgets that could be interpreted as a request to do some shit unless they make it clear they want said tools, and maintain seperate fuckaround finances.

EG, have a shared savings account/high yield account, but keep your fun bucks in separate checking accounts and keep the amount low, no more than 10-15k or whatever is low to you. If someone is spending too much money/gets scammed or hacked/whatever, trying to disentangle that shit after the fact sucks.

Congrats! That certainly is fun. May you have many more happy years.

Here's what I said to the last Motter who mentioned he was getting married, and since nothing's happened to cause me to reconsider in the 24 hours since, I still stand by it:

The advice that I always give people is that most of marriage is actually "roommate stuff." Be a good roommate, help with the dishes or laundry or whatever, keep your spouse informed of what your plans are and a lot of the other stuff will go smoothly.

I guess the other thing I would say is don't hedge, go all-in - be honest, invite honesty, be a good listener and understand that sometimes you will do best not to take things personally. And don't underestimate the value of physical intimacy as something that will keep a marriage sustained. Genuinely put the other party first, not because you are a doormat (and you may need to hold them accountable because you are seeking their good) but because you love them and want what is best for them.

God bless!

Hell yeah. I got married last month after a similar dating period. Even though I didn’t really expect it to change anything, I keep finding myself grinning like an idiot.

Congratulations!

Congratulations!

I'm coming up on my ten year wedding anniversary, and we were together for two years before that. So not much longer of a tenure than you. But marriage is different than dating.

My general advice is to go all in. Mix finances, get a house together, have kids, etc.

Thanks! Well, we're 1 for 3 aiming for 2 of 3. We've had the house for a while, are planning on kids, but are pretty committed to separate finances. Both of us had parents who had disputes over money, hers more severe than mine, and feel better about a hers/mine/ours situation where we have a shared account for shared expenses. Having kids might change that, but I don't think it will.

Having kids might change that, but I don't think it will.

Famous last words :)

I jest (mostly). Congratulations!

Congratulations! Take some time to enjoy the reception, there's a lot of structure in many receptions, don't let that fill your time there.

Our whole event is pretty low-key, so I'll actually be spending much of the reception with my dad grilling lol.

Sounds like mine, have fun! Don't forget to click the tongs!

I don't have much advice, but I wish you both the best

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