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Wellness Wednesday for May 13, 2026

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New Year's Resolution check ins:

  1. Work. Submitted manuscript last Friday and hoping it makes it through review quickly (it's a revision, so it should).
  2. Fitness: Did 2x tempo sessions last week and hit 50 miles. Weight is still mid 170s, but I'm in a mild (300-500) calorie deficit every day, so this should start to change a bit in the coming weeks.
  3. Intellectual Stuff: Haven't been meditating as much as I would like. One more meeting for After Virtue. Also fallen off the wagon a little on blog posts and language learning. I blame work.
  4. Finances: We found a third roommate to start in September. Europe travel will be a big expense, but it'll be nice not to skimp super hard for most of the rest of the year.
  5. Dating. Date went really well on Sunday and am seeing the girl again on Friday!
  6. Tarot. No session this week
  7. Socializing: feeling a bit overbooked with social events, so aiming to cut back a little bit. I've had a dinner or hang out every night this week and it's just been way too much.
  8. Screen time: 1.33 hours phone again. Definitely noticing a very strong relationship between screen time and energy levels.
  9. Mental health: feeling very tired but also very wired which is not good.

How goes it @FtttG, @self_made_human @birb_cromble @falling-star @Tollund_Man4 ?

The Paper B gave me enough cardio for a year, once you account for exam anxiety, the fucking fire alarm going off, and the long, long walk back home.

You know what? I'm going to do a bunch of push-ups. Right now. T-5 minutes. I'm going to be worked to the bone this week, but if I don't go to the gym next week, I should be yelled at.

Current spending is $665.18 lower than it was on the same day last year.

I have two big expenses (car insurance and the second half of my home repair bill) coming up, so I expect to overshoot again in the next eight weeks. In the meantime, I'm going to try to keep spending down to mitigate that.

FYI it's birB_crombLe. And I assume you meant to post this in this week's thread.

  • Had an idea for a blog post which I intend to write the first draft of this evening.
  • Went to the gym three times last week. Yesterday I did a 5k run on my lunch break, then went to the gym in the evening. I intended to do deadlifts, but found my lower back was bothering me too much, so I did bench press instead. After years of my herniated disc bothering me on my lower right side, the pain now seems to have migrated to my lower left side. Then on other days (like today) it returns to the lower right. Very strange. I need to get into the habit of doing lower back stretches several times a day even when I really don't feel like it. Can deadlift 1.84x my bodyweight for 3 reps, squat 1.22x for 8 reps and bench press .87x for 6 reps.
  • Have not consumed any pornography since waking up on January 1st.

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