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Thuletide on Fertility
According to Thuletide, the age gap «pedophilia» moral panic, spawned by feminism and kicked into overdrive during the #MeToo era that began circa 2017, is a potentially civilization-ruining phenomenon. He is, of course, not referring to very real problems, like grooming gangs in Britain, but the fact that 18-year-old boys are frequently accused of being an "Epstein diddy blud" merely for talking to 17-year-old girls. If you wanted to vaporize our already plummeting birth rates, stigmatizing any age gap larger than that between identical twins is a great way to do it.
From Thuletide's Telegram:
From his Twitter, he cites the following. Older-male age-gap relationships produce more children, with total lifetime fertility peaking at +7 years (although the variation from +3 to +13 years is very small). The negative fertility effect of older wives begins immediately at +1 year and declines linearly; at +3.5 years, couples produce 0.5 fewer children, on average. Obviously, this is due to women's limited fertility window, which is much smaller than commonly believed: by age 31, around 10% of women are sterile and around 50% are subfertile (they have difficulty conceiving, decreased egg quality, etc).
He concludes on Telegram:
Sounds like a better plan than complaining about phones to me.
His argument would go down much better if he did not say this. It may be objectively the case, but holy shit does it make him sound like a pedophile. It generally reflects quite poorly on people when they sexualize those who are legally and popularly regarded as children.
"An 18 and 16 year old having a sexual relationship should not be discouraged" is one thing. "It is ephebophilia not pedophilia"is quite another and makes it sound like what he really wants is for himself to have sex with 15 year olds without risking punishment.
Is there a large cadre of people believing an 18 year old having sex with his 16 year old girlfriend is pedophilia? Sure the girls father hopefully discourages it but doubt many think of it as pedo behavior.
I would say it is not seen as paedophilic, but widely seen as unwise for other reasons. "Society should discourage an 18year-old bf and a 16-year old gf from having penetrative sex" is just normie.
"The age of consent should be 18" is comfortably inside the Overton window.
Where is that normie? Do teenagers not have sex in that normie world? Or are you claiming that they must be in the same year of school? Say, the guy is in the last year of high school, the other is one year lower but the guy is on the older end of his cohort and the girl is the younger end of her year. I think nobody bats an eye about this in real life.
Those small town cops that conservatives favor love busting teen boys for such things; this effectively ends their chance at a good life with a sex offender conviction. "Romeo and Juliet" statutes were made to make that a little harder, though there's still edge cases.
I see. Small-town conservative America is quite foreign to me, as I'm in Europe. Here it's normal that people around 15-16 start to drink alcohol, have parties, and at 16-18 it's very normal to have relationships that include sex, with the more adventurous "cool" partyface types starting earlier.
Exactly the same in the US.
Was. Teens aren't drinking, partying, or having relationships much any more.
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