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Wellness Wednesday for January 24, 2024

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I'm a bit curious, how are the rest of you stacking up against that chart?

I've never been above a 2 and I'm a bit of a slob. I don't even think I've been in a home that's at a 4 and I can count the number of threes on one hand.

1, occasionally reaching 2 (when unpacking after trip or in a big hurry)

but even 1 is horrifically depressing room, not for trash reasons

I never seen trash on floor like 3 or worse. I seen paper pile like 4.

(OK, I seen 9 but it was in a service room for garbage dumpster that was emptied too rarely)

I consider myself a terrible slob, and I'm probably a bit below a 2. Even the worst of my friends don't get close to 3.

If you swapped the newspapers for cardboard boxes I have a box room that's at roughly 3 and that's after over a year of using it as a staging area for de/cluttering projects.

I clean the house to floor level roughly once a week and leave the kitchen clean every night.

In a kitchen? Never anything above 1.

I will say my basement and garage can get towards a 2 or a 3, maybe, when I'm getting lazy about it or for project reasons or because I rapidly moved a bunch of stuff out of the upstairs to make room for something. But the kitchen/living room/bedroom floor of my house (essentially a 3br apartment) is always a 1.

Same, 2 at worst. I could go weeks without cleaning anything at all and still not reach 3.

I'm willing to bet that chart is used to diagnose hoarders, and it gives that much variation to trick people into being more comfortable saying, "I'm a six," because six is towards the middle and there are worse options. My grandparent's house had rooms that were between 5 and 10. My grandmother had Alzheimers and would purchase things for her 'baby' (all her children were grown adults) and stuff them in one of the vacated bedrooms until you couldn't enter the room, then start over again in a different bedroom.

Somewhere below 2. I would not describe myself as tidy, I definitely do a crappy job keeping my floors and counters as clean as my neater friends, but I can't imagine just casually leaving pants in the middle of my kitchen. I admittedly do that in the bedroom, but... well, it's the bedroom and the containment of things is just a bit different. I do have a few books and some mail on my desk that I could stand to clean up. But again, there's some measure of containment that I settle into where those are still in the range of "where things go" even if it's not as tidy as it really should be.

Having literal garbage just laying around is, to me, a sign of a slide into complete degeneracy. I am well aware people live that way and yet I still can't believe people just live that way.

Same here. Glad OP is doing more chores, but I can't imagine living over a 2.

There's something about smaller apartments and longer term tenures though.

That chart actually shocked me. I've always been a huge slob, noticeably more so than others I've lived with except my parents who were also (lesser) slobs. And the worst I've lived is a 3, occasionally flirting with 4. To be honest, I feel like 4 and up all fit in a small range of 2 or 3 tiers, and 1-4 there could be expanded to be more like 1-6 or 1-8.

Probably a 2 myself.

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