yofuckreddit
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yofuckreddit
10mo ago
Did you read the Dark Tower series? I'm considering it
yofuckreddit
10mo ago
I think everyone being confused in this thread is strange. I don't act on the urges that Musk and Cannon do but I have the same ones. I think my genes are awesome, and the world would end up better with more people having them in the world.
The rules of society are my primary reasons for not sowing my wild oats. After becoming a parent, there's some FOMO. But that's it.
yofuckreddit
10mo ago
I think the Novella. Books have an advantage by default for me though it should be said
yofuckreddit
10mo ago
I'm finished up Different Seasons, four novellas by Stephen King. TL;DR: I very much enjoyed it.
King has a utilitarian style. So much of what I read is really not that. When you're so clear with your communication, there's less room for evoking emotion. He is still able to do that. Breaking the fourth wall a bit, the fact that he can when putting out so much content is undeniably impressive. This is the last time I'll connect the work with his politics, but it's just sad that he created art of this caliber just a handful of years ago, and now he's essentially an NPC.
The first Novella is essentially the Shawshank redemption. There's nothing crazy about the book, even "the twist", but it's a satisfying read that stays largely positive. I've heard critiques on this board that King focuses on the reality of prison with a bit of a sadists eye and would respectfully disagree. It's just well done.
The next is "Apt Pupil". Light psychological horror. One thing I really respected about this was that there was a focus on details and continuity.
Then there was "The Body" which turned into "Stand by Me". There are frankly dozens of important sections, but the one that stuck with me the most was when the boys were discussing precisely why they were taking the journey to see the body described in the title. It reminded me distinctly of how we would walk through the woods as kids, following the creek for hours with air rifles in hand and chips in backpack to make it to a spot minutes away by car. Some things deserve to be hard.
Last but certainly not least was "The Breathing Method" which was purposefully evocative of Lovecraft which I have always enjoyed.
All in all, a diverse set of stories with enough highs and lows to make it an even-keeled read. I very much enjoyed it.
Now starting in on "The Moon is a Harsh Mistress", "Conversations with Friends", and "Incurable Graphomania"
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
While that moment is an incredible memory, it's long ago been dwarfed by the rest of our relationship. I've been a hopeless romantic since I was very young. 99/100 times, it was just a way to get my feelings hurt, but eventually, it stuck.
The third I had a conversation with, and discovered she was not the kind of person I wanted to have a discussion with, much less live with. It was lust only.
Many such cases.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
Somewhat related: I loved the Redwall series as a kid. I remember my 1st grade teacher being skeptical and incredulous that my book report was on Mossflower given its length. This link is an image on purpose - I think that the cover art for that book is unbelievably good, and helped 6-year-old me power through it.
Contrast that with the new book cover. Holy fuck, is nothing sacred? It probably couldn't be any worse - it even spoils the end of the entire novel!
I suppose I have to drop $150 on an older print boxed set now even though I'm 2 years away from my kids being able to start it.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
Great book, one of the most surprising and enjoyable reads of the last 5 years for me.
I still remember being struck with what felt like a thunderbolt the first time I saw my wife. I had even been prepared, slightly. I knew her roommate, and so had seen pictures on Facebook. The only excuse I can muster is that the average resolutions back then were so low they gave you what I think is more of an idea of a person.
I was able to stabilize myself for the rest of that night and act normal, even if every conversation with her started with me being a little short of breath, or having the same palpitations you describe. Over the next year or so, I was struck by how funny and kind a woman with this much beauty could be. It didn't hurt that she was dating someone else, so the stakes were low.
When we both had to stay in our small college town over the summer, I brought her tea and aspirin when she was sick. She helped scrub the old green truck I drove that didn't match my personality at all, and we made trashy cheddar bacon fries with meat from the ag department she was part of. When they broke up, I swooped in.
More than a decade later, I still actively give my male friends opportunities to talk to her 1 on 1 in social situations. It's such a great experience that I think it would be selfish not to share it, even if I know firsthand it hurts a little when it's over.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
That's the gist. There's a whole website about it..
The tax is high, and there are prebates for the poor.
It appeals to me for many reasons, including that it incentivizes the creation of durable goods and consumer thrift.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
This is awesome and cool to see in the "grey" market.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
Yes, and an HSA. If you get lucky it's fine I guess, though premiums are outrageous. If you get unlucky you get super-fucked. Almost all of your money gets vaporized through premiums and creative deductible accounting to make you hit OOP maxes, even if you make 6-figures.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
Some have suggested going it on your own. That's possible. Having been the first employee at a company, I can tell you if you're looking for excitement, it's uh... there. It ended well for me, and I think it would for you, but be prepared for a roller coaster.
Another option is moving to a better firm that values hard work and creativity. Culturally, it seems like Accountants like sticking with their firms come hell or high water, which is an alien concept to me as a software engineer. I'm not saying a better firm is common, but would moving after busy season be something you'd be interested in doing? Using your expertise as a Consultant to make more money and do more varied work?
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
Unfortunately this is how insurance used to work. Now for a plan to be legal and widely available, it has to cover a huge swath of services, including preventative and elective stuff.
Some things I know:
- You can find a GP and dentist who will let you pay a flat rate per visit or year to cover preventative healthcare.
- You can use sites like mdsave.com to get massive discounts on things like MRIs etc. - basically by paying upfront you can get an MRI for $600 that would be a $2,500 walk-in.
- Catastrophic health plans are only available if you're under 30 or poor. Even then they're required to cover preventative junk.
My opinion is that you're better off being uncovered and negotiating that ER visit if you get in a car wreck, but if the hospital comes after ya and you have a fat savings account maybe they're going to take it all anyway.
Very frustrating that a DIY approach is so barely viable.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
Fuck. I must have missed the end of the auto money market rollover part - that really does suck. I also didn't know about the 2% card (I just use a Citi Doublecash right now).
TY for the heads up.
I won't rehash too much of my Friday Fun Thread comment about cars, but some points to consider:
Buying new still kind of sucks from a value proposition. You'll almost always regret the equity you drop for a car being new. That feeling lasts 3-6 months and you pay for it for 3 years. Buy something fresh off lease instead. This is one of the most extreme examples you can think of, but getting a Panamera for $40k (compared to what would be a $238k sticker today) is amazing.
If you want a car to not spy on you, you'll have to get an older car. I have not seen communities to lobotomize modern cars, it seems difficult and would disable features that you only get with new cars. It's much more likely to find communities that modernize older cars with newer features.
I find the nannying and eco/safety features of modern cars infuriating. It's like watching commercials on TV; they almost make me physically sick. However, there are some killer new car features I lust after:
- Radar Cruise Control
- Apple/Android Car Play
- Heated Steering Wheels
If you go after those, I don't think you can go wrong. Getting something with enough space to put stuff in is important.
I know you view these as just an appliance but any other detail at all? Do you go on long drives? Do you go camping? Do you care how it looks? Any brand preference at all?
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
I'm lucky my wife is reasonable about these dates. We sometimes have to have discussions about what I would consider to be common sense: Stuff suspended in olive oil and in the fridge is going to be OK to eat for a long time, a sauce that's almost all vinegar and salt is the same way, etc.
Over the years I've discovered some manufacturers are too aggressive with these dates, but the vast majority are too conservative. I would get frustrated quickly at someone throwing out food that's still good all the time.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
I also use Schwab. Out of all the brokerage platforms, I think it has a decent application, good customer service, low fees, and provides access to a cheaper/more feature-rich Amex platinum.
Their checking account is always free with unlimited ATM reimbursement and no foreign transaction fees. It's a gateway drug to the brokerage and it works.
I moved my rollover retirement accounts to Robinhood to make 3% on all of them last year and will move them back once I can.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
At Krispy Kreme, you can and should request an unglazed donut. Combine it with a glazed one and it's the perfect level of sweetness.
I suspect we hail from the same state. My relatives produce better deviled eggs and bacon, but equally bad coffee. I'm disappointed that your best burger was from Denny's.
I wish I had read this when you posted it to better participate in the conversation but oh well.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
I can see why it's exhausting, but you must admit he often just says dumb shit pretty often.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
Best case scenario is that they're just used as threats to receive other concessions
Mexico capitulating this morning suggests your analysis is close to the money. My follow-up is: What do we want from Canada that's equivalent to 10,000 troops at the border?
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
I think a German Shepherd is a really strong choice for the reasons you've mentioned. They're also great pack carriers - I have a friend who backpacks with his. A pitbull isn't going to be able to travel long distances with you as well, and border collies / Austrailian shepherds just aren't vicious and powerful enough as a defensive weapon.
I'm a huge dog guy, but it sounds like you got lucky with good cats. Cherish it, the best of them are super cool.
As to the gender coding of pets, consider that dogs are physically bigger and can be used for masculine pursuits. A dude wearing camo out with his Irish Setter or Retriever is one image, a Pitbull straining at a chain link fence to rip out your throat, or a shepherd wearing NVG.... There's no equivalent to a house cat.
Everyone else has mentioned compelling other reasons. I very recently have thought about the doggification of the internet as a symbol of it being September as @WhateverHappenedToNorman points out. I find cats to be temperamentally unpredictable while moving with a delicate sensuousness - obviously female-coded. It all adds up!
Edit: Car typo fixed >:(
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
I'll tell ya that you can be right, but I wouldn't hang your hat on it.
The difference between guys who have a "piece of shit" reputation and those who don't is that the latter are better at figuring out when women, for some reason or the other, are not acting in their best interests when it comes to the relationship.
You can be banging a woman you see no future with, she'll be down all the time, but her friends will let you know she needs commitment or bust.
I've been in shoes much like yours. I've broken up with people I'm really into, that I sent mixed signals to, but it wasn't a permanent thing. Better late than never - and y'all should definitely formally break up.
yofuckreddit
11mo ago
May reply more substantially later, but maybe you just leave this typo (?) up:
Plato wrote that a state ruled by such "democratic men" is on the brink of descending into tranny.
I am furious that I have lost the source but there is ample evidence of concrete IQ-testing results dropping post-lobotomy. Like, ~15-20 points. So without regulation forcing culture-war transformation there's free performance for those who choose to buck the trend.
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