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PaperclipPerfector  3d ago (text post)   2174 thread views

Friday Fun Thread for December 19, 2025

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I finally told her I love her. I probably could have said it weeks ago, but I’ve spent the last few years developing a very healthy respect for the kind of wreckage that happens when you deploy those words at the wrong time. When you’ve spent enough time losing, you start to treat your internal state like a high-stakes game where you’re terrified of overplaying your hand.

She actually beat me to the punch. We had been existing in a state of high-density clinginess for a while, just being generally ridiculous to each other, and she decided to try a stealth maneuver. She ended a conversation with "goodnight love," clearly hoping I’d just let it slide past without making a scene. But I’m tall; very little goes over my head (physical or metaphorical) without me noticing.

It feels good. It feels considerably better than I’m usually willing to admit things can feel.

I still had to give her a hard time about the timing, though. 1:30 in the morning after a grueling day is not exactly the cinematic peak I had envisioned. I had a whole plan involving chocolates and flowers and the kind of deliberate romantic effort that makes for a better story. Instead, I got a sneak attack at my most exhausted.

In the meantime, we’ve started "soft-launching" the relationship to our respective families. This feels like a significant escalation of the stakes. I’m really hoping this works out; my heart has taken enough hits lately that it probably deserves a vacation, or at least a very gentle training montage. Maybe this is just what it looks like when you finally put the muscle to work.

I still had to give her a hard time about the timing, though. 1:30 in the morning after a grueling day is not exactly the cinematic peak I had envisioned

I have come to the conclusion that women are incapable of discussing heavy topics with a man unless he is falling asleep on his feet.

Regardless, congratulations.

Wait which girl is this? Not the model hopefully?

It is very much not the model! I'm in love, not concussed haha.

You might have missed this recent update:

https://www.themotte.org/post/3416/wellness-wednesday-for-december-17-2025/392615?context=8#context

All I want for Christmas is Her

Ok lovely, and congrats. Love can take you all the way my friend. God bless you both. :)

Thank you!

Hell yeah dude. I'm happy for you!

It feels good. It feels considerably better than I’m usually willing to admit things can feel.

I know exactly what you mean. The first time my wife told me she loved me, it felt so good I was certain l could fly next.

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