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Culture War Roundup for the week of March 2, 2026

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It's no secret that having status, charisma and being attractive gets you far in dating, and in life in general.

You'd be shocked at how many deny these basic realities.

But outside of that, you have a good point. As i mentioned before lack of socialization is really killing us here, but this post is geared slightly toward what an individual could do to max out his chances in the context of the current state of affairs (though i would like to see boys raised with these 4 things in mind)

You'd be shocked at how many deny these basic realities.

Eh, I would agree with you if we had this conversation 8-10 years ago (height of body positivity era). With rise of looksmaxxing, glp-1s into mainstream even the slowest of the bunch are admitting the obvious.

but this post is geared more towards what an individual could do to max out his chances in the context of the current

fair enough. You made a decent list. I do think it's important to not tie self improvement to getting into a relationship. Going out to dance, while hating it as an activity on its own, is an easy way to start hating yourself and life if expectation of getting a girlfriend out of it is not met.

Also dancing/bar scene has bifurcated a lot more into 'people who love clubbing' than it would have been a couple decades ago when there were less entertainment options.

I have an objectively hot female friend who would be a total catch for any guy. Very confident, green flags around being able to fit in with guy-groups, heaps of hobbies, etc. She's single at 32 and doesn’t seem to have had meaningful relationships, and isn't hooking up or anything.

Got to talking about her dating life. I asked her why not go to a bar. She said "do I really want a guy who does bars and clubs at 32?"

I do think she's holding out for a top 5% earner who's tall and handsome.

She's done a recent round of dates off apps. Nobody got a second date. She's seriously disappointed with the type of guys she has available to her. And my thinking is that most great guys (ha) are probably locked down by a great girl (ha) at that age.

She did the career thing, and has somewhat waited out the pool of guys that she considers worthy of a relationship. She's probably going to settle for somebody at one point and be somewhat quietly disappointed.

She's seriously disappointed with the type of guys she has available to her.

If she had planned to start looking seriously for the love of her life in her 30s and expects that she'll have the same success, as measured by the "quality" of the man, as the women who make this their top priority from the time they're 19, she's in for a bad time. The really good ones--both men and women--are locked down early, as you've surmised. By prioritizing career, she's made a tradeoff, whether she realizes it now or not. There is no "having it all".

Of course, there's always black swan events. If, against all odds, she finds her doting 6'4" doctor with the chiseled abs and jaw, she'll be on reddit's r/askwomenover30 in a few years giving really bad advice to people who will then be in the situation she's in now.

It does need to be said- focusing on becoming a normie housewife(after all, you basically cannot be a career oriented woman without college first, which is going to last longer than that) starting at 19, or in the right circles perhaps 16 or 17, has fairly good odds of working out.

But this woman does not want that. They want a ‘high value’(they and I may disagree on the definition/relative importance of terms here) man. That 6’4 doctor is not going to marry a woman without a college degree. If she’d focused on this at 23(I don’t know how she would do this, but assuming she did) rather than on career advancement, sûre, she’d have had better odds of landing the high-powered husband. But wealthy men do not marry waitresses.

That 6’4 doctor is not going to marry a woman without a college degree.

Male doctors mostly marry other doctors and other healthcare professionals, probably for reasons of availability. I'd be surprised if they cared whether their partners have a certificate, a 2 year degree, or a 4-year degree. (less surprised if they had some preference for or against other doctors)

Medicine's particularly tricky to get with normies due to a combination of relocating a lot during peak years and absolutely brutal hours. Most top tier earning/educational professions don't have the same risk of being banished to the middle of nowhere for 3 years in order to get residency or specialization requirements out of the way.

But if you are a doctor, no matter where you go you are going to surrounded and outnumbered by nurses, most of whom are female, the younger ones in their early 20s; it's the ultimate target rich environment. Combine with the high status and high pay of being a doctor and I'd call it easy mode.

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