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New year's resolutions check-in:
How goes it, @thejdizzler, @birb_cromble, @falling-star, @Tollund_Man4 and @self_made_human?
Generally drinking less because I don't have the ability to both speak French and learn a bunch of cooking techniques while hungover, though I did go heavy on Monday when the head chef brought us out to the family oyster farm supplying their daughter's restaurant and to a barbecue at his place after.
Still off the nicotine as it's impossible to buy here, although a friend of mine did sneak in a can of snus from Ireland and I did notice being able to work much better with it. I'm out again so it's back to sobriety here (smoking doesn't hit the same way) so hopefully my decent reputation in the kitchen holds up without 10mg pouches to help me out.
I'm not sure if I'm going to keep replying to these in future but I appreciate the mention. I find talking about ongoing progress doesn't work for me and it's better to keep it private until you've got something to brag about. For now my disciplined ideal is kind of almost there but I'm going to go back and forth for a while week by week as I move towards the target.
No worries, I won't ping you going forward if you'd rather I didn't.
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After all the medical expenses and surprise home repairs have settled, spending is $1,039.65 higher than it was at the same point last year.
It's a little frustrating. I've cut my discretionary spending pretty deeply, and I can't seem to get ahead compared to last year.
Unfortunately:
I guess all I can really do for now is keep it up and hope I don't get any more big surprises this year, so my attempts at frugality overtake those expenses.
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No gym this week, but mostly because I was traveling for 48 hours and just started a new, extremely hectic job. I'll give myself a pass for once, but I intend to go tomorrow.
What’s your new job?
@Throwaway05 is correct. New rotation, after a mercifully long vacation extended somewhat involuntarily by geopolitical strife. I've been enjoying it so far, for a value of enjoyment which encompasses and excuses being incredibly stressed. At least my colleagues seem nice: a cute Dutch doctor said I have a great voice. She suggested I should be a voice actor, a compliment I have carefully filed away for later. And here I was thinking that I only had the face for radio...
Pshh skip the meet cute hoss, I want to know what the rotation is.
Busy......Emergency?
Goddammit, I wanted to talk about cute but intimidatingly competent colleagues complimenting me. It's liaison psychiatry.
Oh there's no rush. Get well soon.
Several of my high-school English teachers complimented how good I was at reading books aloud, and suggested that I could be a radio announcer. Could this be another way to convince the feds that we are soul mates?
I was happier not remembering that textual exchange, let alone the sexual exchange within it. The ass-hair has grown back, but I still felt like an ass for shaving it and then getting stood up at the aisle.
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Oh no, I was guessing that ED was the rotation.
Why is your CL service busy? Do your surgeons not understand how capacity works?*
*This insult of European surgeons not guaranteed to match the medico-legal requirements of British healthcare.
Sir. You are getting slow in your old age, that was a joke :(
I'm not sure if the workload I'm experiencing is typical, but it's almost always safe to bet that the NHS is understaffed and overworked. I'd say this counts as hectic but not unbearable, the primary annoyance is running around a very large hospital, and I get very lost half the time.
(It is very rare for anyone outside of psych to understand how capacity works. I barely understood the UK version until several months within psych, I was winging it till then.)
The meme in the U.S. is that the majority of Psych (and to a lesser extent Neuro) consults are inappropriate. Both tend to get Delirium/TME consults for which the recommendation is "fix the underlying medical problem" (with a side helping of "no this 85 year old grandma does not have late onset schizophrenia). Psych also gets capacity consults - any physician can determine capacity and should be able to do so unless something weird is going on. You call Psych if mental illness is complicating things only.
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Hopefully he's just on a new rotation :/
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Skipped this year's first longsword tournament because it was too expensive. Second tournament coming up this Saturday, and I kinda maybe ruined my shoulder in advance by overtraining in an unfit state, and/or getting smacked too hard too often (blame my half-hearted parries). Third tournament is in two weeks. Let's see how much of me ist left by then.
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Hooray, you meditated (once!) as you said you would. Consistency is key.
Have been doing it more consistently these past few days.
How has it played out? What instructions have you (attempted to) follow?
I am following the mind illuminated instructions. In the morning sitting for 15 minutes and focusing on the breath. In the evening doing a walking meditation where I focus on the soles of my feet when I walk.
Have really noticed how off the rails my mind is while doing it!
Great. TMI is solid, though be aware that it appeals to + sorta traps the kind of detail oriented autist that populates forums like this one. Don't get too cerebral or strict about the whole thing.
To meditate is to discover the ludicrous chaos and insanity that 99% of humanity walk around enveloped in. They're locked into a box with a lunatic and what's worse, they nearly always identify with being that lunatic instead of observing it detachedly.
Think I've learned from endurance exercise that the most important thing really is just putting in the time. Details can be important, but what matters in this case is just sitting more.
Yup. There are no shortcuts. There may be some similarities between endurance training and meditation. Some distress tolerance and stick-to-it-ness helps.
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How long did it take you to train for a marathon? I was pretty proud of myself for even making it to the end of a 10k last year.
I got into running at the very start of Covid, and ran my first marathon in May 2021.
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I have been training seriously since I was 10 in various endurance sports. In high school and college this was about 10 hours a week with lifting and cross training etc. I do about the same now. Starting from zero, it would probably take a few years of this to be ready for the marathon.
That makes sense. I've been strength training for about that long and it's a lot easier than running.
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Congrats, always a huge accomplishment.
Just reading up and seeing that we were both at Boston! Congrats, even though it wasn't the day you wanted, that's still a solid bit of late race management. I was ~10 minutes slower, a shade over 2 minutes positive split, and my quads have never felt so awful during a race that actually went pretty well. They weren't kidding about those downhills eventually adding up to quite the tax.
Congrats! That's a real solid time, hope you auto qualified for next year!
I'm looking forward to Chicago in the fall where it'll be completely flat. Hoping to feel a lot better in miles 20-24 (miles 24-26 are always terrible).
Yep! I am sufficiently old that it's an easy and clean qualifier. I'm not sure if I want to go back straightaway or head somewhere a little smoother next spring. I'm coming off three marathons in 11 months and my current inclination is absolutely to shift gears for a bit and hit the track over summer. Part of me wants to go back to Boston immediately because it really is an incredible course, but the other part of me just wants something straightforward and fast like Glass City. Luckily, we don't have to make that decision till September.
Chicago's great! Have you run it before? The logistics are so much simpler than Boston if you stay downtown. Easy walk to the start line instead of a bus ride and meandering around for an hour.
I strongly dislike the "wait in line, take a bus to the start, meander around for an hour, race, wait in line, take a bus somewhere else" races.
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I have not, but the parents still live there so logistics should be much easier.
Boston is my default every year now because all my MIT alumni track friends do it so it's a good way to stay in touch. It is unfortunately at an annoying time of year (I wish it was a bit later or a bit earlier) which makes it hard to do other fast marathons.
Yeah, I think the Boston decision next year is going to come down to how many club friends I have going. If we have a solid group, I'd love to go again. If it's going to be largely a solo activity for me, I'd just as soon time trial something simpler and faster in the Midwest.
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Do you have a small ball to roll on?
Unfortunately not. There's probably one in my gym but I don't fancy going. Tempted to treat myself to a massage this evening.
You should get one. Even a tennis ball is good. I have a foam roller and a dumbbell-shaped foam ball that I use for massaging my erector muscles.
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