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I might be out of the loop there, but does this term actually have a more specific meaning or is it just "woman" with a layer of incel sneering ("woman (gross and stupid in the way women are)")?
Paragraphs like this make me think that if you want to really understand your outgroup, talking to someone like a divorced elder millennial woman is a fundamentally misguided approach, for you in particular. Your story could be more or less glossed as "this person believes things that are diagonally opposed to what I believe. I don't see a coherent way that anyone could arrive at this, but well, she is a primitive, pathetic creature that is not at all like me. I figure she believes those things for some primitive creature reasons". You are making it entirely too easy for yourself, and wind up with a conclusion that is largely useless. What you should instead be doing is seeking out people that are the most like you, who you will not be tempted to explain away as motivated by feelings or daddy issues, and still come to the same conclusions. There is no shortage of male contrarians out there who also sympathise with the DSA, find Elon disgusting and think Trump is an asshole. Try to talk to them, and understand why they believe those things.
My understanding is that it was originally a disparaging term for a woman in online incel culture, a contraction of femoid. But then the very online relative normies started using it as ironically faux-self-deprecating humor – the joke being on the poster for using incel slang, not on the woman under discussion. In many online spaces today it's a playful and informal term for a woman, the way I might use dudette, with no disrespect intended.
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Yeah, it's basically the gender flipped version of chud. Which means it needs to be used almost 1000x more often to achieve parity.
What’s also funny is that terms like “foid” and “roastie” still make internet women and white knights seethe, and now even “female” too when used as a noun.
In contrast, “chud” has been reclaimed by wrongthinkers and the attempted revenge terms of “moid” and “scrote” never really struck a chord, as moids and scrotes were unbothered, laughed them off, or adopted them to use ironically. And, of course, males don’t get butthurt about “male” being used as a noun.
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I didn't realise we were running a DEI program to increase right-wing representation in tribal brainrot here.
If we do it too hard, the betrayal will be great when it inevitably comes out that our latest 3x AAQC awarded MGTOW knuckledragger faked his CV and is actually secretly a stay-at-home husband for a muscle mommy female CEO.
I didn't realize there was another kind of MGTOW internet personality.
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