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Closeted men is perfectly valid, but bisexuals? That's not risk management, that's bigotry (pun intended?).
I think that can be the case if they're applying to everyone, but a lot of people who call themselves bi are like barely bi. Heck, a lot of people who call themselves bi are basically not bisexual at all outside of "shrugs, I'd do a guy/girl if I found them attractive I guess" types who also can't name a single same sex person they've ever found attractive. I imagine a lot of them are way less comfortable with sexuality and a lot more "boring" to sleep with.
But definitely going after a straight guy to see if he's down for a lay as well comes off as an odd contradiction here.
Popper-inhaling, incontinent, promiscuous people who go to bath houses and have sex in the corner of a bar where anybody can come in and have a drink, well, I have little defense of that beyond my general liberal principles.
Eh, I think a lot of that is just because it's two men involved and they tend to be a lot more openly sexual in general. Women complain all the time in a similar manner about straight guys, so it tracks that two guys together are gonna be pretty nuts.
phailyoor
8hr ago
My understanding is that the physical release is generally controlled by physical stimulation, while visual and fictional materials can provide a massive dopamine hit without it. This allows consooomers to easily consume more and more material without experiencing a sudden and messy end to the process.
I don't have any direct evidence but expect that regular users will tend towards longer and longer sessions as a result of Pavlovian conditioning.
urquan
Hold! What you are doing to us is wrong! Why do you do this thing?
8hr ago
phailyoor
9hr ago
They can act as a multiplier for someone who already has game but really isn't a method with high returns.
TitaniumButterfly
9hr ago
I end up a philosopher-king-monarchist because I don't think most people have an impulse to liberty.
Amadan
Enjoying my short-lived victory
9hr ago
Do not use edits to argue with a banning. You may send us modmail if you want to plead your case, but normally post-ban edits like this are grounds for a permaban.
I concur with @FCfromSSC that regardless of how you "intended" it, this post was clearly a direct attack on @thejdizzler, and it did not strike me (nor him, apparently) as good-natured at all.
Quantumfreakonomics
9hr ago
I'm pretty sure the ejaculatory metaphor came first, and then the donut application became the SFW go-to because, uh... I think you can figure it out.
Quantumfreakonomics
9hr ago
I initially thought the move was a mistake, but it was a sizable quality-of-life improvement to not have to worry about the sub being banned every time I saw a particularly spicy comment.
Hieronymus
9hr ago
Yeah, I feel like epistemic uncertainty is still the right state. Some percentage of those accidental discharges will be negligent, but whether it’s 5% or 99% – who knows? And Sig’s P.R. team has not exactly earned a lot of trust here, either.
urquan
Hold! What you are doing to us is wrong! Why do you do this thing?
9hr ago
The thing that seems to be missing in your description of physical and social needs is essentially non-sexual/quasi-sexual physical touch. I could probably go without sex in life, but not being able to cuddle, or romantically kiss, or hold someone as they fall asleep, or just sit on the couch, or caress someone's back or arms... well, I'd find that hard to bear.
hydroacetylene
9hr ago
Welcome from China! Feel free to answer my questions or not:
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is pinyin/use of Chinese characters a culture war flashpoint? If so, how so?
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what’s the state of Chinese gender relations?
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is china’s education obsession driven by straightforward economic factors, or is it entirely cultural? What’s the delta between high skill blue collar and average white collar salaries?
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what’s the great firewall like in practice? Is it mostly focused on keeping news sources state approved? Or is it very block heavy? Obviously there’s some keywords(tianmen, June 4), are there some odd or unexpected ones? What’s the whispernet/samizdat situation like?
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does China see itself leading the world as hegemon, or is it more of a place of honor thing?
sun_the_second
could survive a COD lobby and a gay furry discord server
9hr ago
If it worked, it would still persist. Clearly it does not work now. You go on and on with intellectual historical arguments in favor of de-emancipation, yet those are not enough because there is no more hard physical dependency of women on male physical labor. Inb4 "what if all male power plant workers quit": they won't. The dependency of society on strictly male labor has grown too abstract to leverage or to bellyfeel.
Given that civilization ran in the same ways for 5 thousand years, you should expect whatever broke the cycle to be a pretty fucking good reason to break it. You act like it was just a whim, a momentary lapse of men to free women and if they just Rise Up and Retvrn, the toothpaste can be put back in the tube.
I expect the societies that do not go full Amish to crush the ones that do before the latter can outbreed the former, or in spite of it. As to what happens to them later, maybe they will start killing womanizers or otherwise solve the equation of the sexes infavorably to men. No one said that personal physical strength and long distribution tails is going to be king forever. I do not expect the intellectual desire to not go extinct to be sufficient to revert all existing societies to Amish mode.
hydroacetylene
9hr ago
To be completely fair, lots of societies have policed cads. It’s not some drastic never before tried policy.
hydroacetylene
9hr ago
Pair bonding is not a thing for guys.
That’s… definitely not true. Just because you have never been in love before doesn’t mean other men haven’t.
hydroacetylene
9hr ago
Boats, nice cars etc can absolutely bring the ladies.
hydroacetylene
9hr ago
The other point of going to work is to have money, and potentially social status. People like the things money brings. As the old saw goes, a woman makes a house better- but it still beats a cardboard box under a bridge.
erwgv3g34
9hr ago
One possible solution I've been considering recently is forcibly marrying and then if that doesn't working, castrating these men. Of course I would like women to shape up too, but that seems like a tall ask.
I’ve been inwardly giggling at you and @faceh’s recent comments matter-of-factly talking about castrating or even executing “Lothario” men.
Like the state of affairs is so bleak, the cultural inertia too powerful to reverse, that such a practice is more realistic and further within the Overton window than marginally but directly limiting or inconveniencing the FUN or freedom of young women in some way to increase the protections afforded them.
Indeed. The wars of the sexes, and the resulting fertility collapse, have gotten so bad that people are willing to resort to literally anything to fix them: killing womanizers, paying women to birth orphans, anything at all...
...except the one thing that we know works, and that kept civilization running for the past 5,000 years. De-emancipate women? Never! Better to go extinct.
hydroacetylene
9hr ago
Uh, how common is gooning really?
Like regular masturbation, sure, real common. But I was under the impression gooning was some technologically driven different thing.
Under the logic that winning and losing can only be defined in relation to criteria and the criteria of being successful in life are subjective. Yes, even the criteria that have to deal with reproduction and Darwinism and so on. These are all parts of the same reptile brain that makes the simp happy with his lot.
If you want an explicit ruleset that would define the simp as being better than the player, then "don't waste time and effort on getting the approval of others when a simpler lifestyle will do just as well for physical needs" is one. If only hunger could be sated merely by rubbing the stomach.
astrolabia
9hr ago
I agree a whole pack at once might do it, but I don't expect that the whole pack would explode at once.
hydroacetylene
9hr ago
Location, word of mouth, I assume.
This is, on one level, my actual impression of many places. I live in a blue state, so casual pride flags happen. But once you get above a certain threshold of rainbow density in a nominally public place, it’s clear that there’s a dynamic of deliberate hostility to those of us with other convictions.
Still, I’d not open with that phrase on the Motte. Mistake theory is not altogether dead here, the way it usually is there.
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