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ControlsFreak
3hr ago
You might have the causality reversed. Average age of first marriage rose significantly after a societal push to embrace ubiquitous premarital sex.
The far-right (which includes most people on this website)
I'm gonna go one step further than Amadan on this and actually give you a (mild) warning here: bring evidence in proportion with your partisanship, but be particularly careful about how you characterize "this site," as doing so tends to fall into the problem of consensus building.
It has been a while since we had a thorough demographic poll, and "far-right" is probably a moving target, but the mainstream meaning is something like "identitarian right" or "authoritarian right"--white nationalists, especially, though probably not exclusively. I do think there are some white nationalists who post here, but they are a small minority. All the demographic information available to me suggests that the site 's userbase has a "grey tribe" plurality, which is tough to classify but most often shows up in approximately "centrist libertarian" land over on /r/politicalcompassmemes.
It's possible that you have fallen into the same trap that many blue tribe institutions have fallen into, basically using "far-right" as a sloppy shorthand (or outright smear) for literally anything to their right, or even just anything that they don't like. I don't know whether you have used the term purposefully, or incorrectly, or sloppily, which is why you should consider this a mild warning, but in general you're better off just not characterizing the userbase here at all: address individual arguments, then individuals, then specific groups if necessary, then general groups only with extreme care and much evidence. "This site" is a place for people who want to move past shady thinking and test their ideas in a court of people who don't all share the same biases.
ControlsFreak
3hr ago
Notably, this was not part of the original violinist argument. It was pretty clear from the original violinist argument that they were positing a cabal of music fans kidnapping someone in the middle of the night and attaching them without consent. This version is getting close to my preferred analogy - rock climbing.
When two people go rock climbing, they intend to have a little fun. They 'hook up', using the best safety equipment possible, intending to make the probability of an issue be as low as possible. But Murphy's law happens, snake eyes come up, and your partner ends up dangling at the end of a rope attached to you. Maybe that rope is causing you a little discomfort; maybe it's threatening minor rope burn; maybe it's threatening one of your limbs; maybe it's threatening your life. Lots of possible variations to handle a variety of scenarios people want for abortion. I don't think people are nearly as likely to say that you can choose to pull out your pocket knife and intentionally cut the rope, knowing that it will surely lead to your partner's death, completely regardless of what the danger is, all the way to the case where there is literally no real danger, just that they are relying on you to not cut the rope.
More generally, the idea of prospective consent exists elsewhere in the consent literature. The classic example is Odysseus asking to be tied to the mast. It would normally be objectionable for his men to tie him to the mast (or to keep him tied) against his objection. He had reason to believe that his future self would protest profusely, demanding to be untied, but we respect his original consent to overcome his later objections. A related example is the skydiver example. A new skydiver might know that they have a fear reaction to actually jumping out of a plane. It is normally not allowed for someone to just strap their bodies together and throw them out of the plane. But the new skydiver can prospectively consent, saying, "I know that I'm going to protest when we're standing on the edge, but I still want you to pull me off the plane with you."
Nearly all of contract law is an attempt to enforce prospective consent to things that you might not want to do at a future time. Even the most basic, "You give me stuff now, and I'll pay you money later," when at a later time, after having received the stuff, one might protest and want to withdraw their consent to paying the money. But there are clear responsibility laws/rules/norms in gobs of different situations. Commercial passenger pilots, for example, are known to have taken on a responsibility to stay in their airplane and try to save it and the lives of their passengers, even when they might want to just grab a parachute and leave the passengers to somehow save themselves. I think many people would also consider that to be literal murder.
Botond173
3hr ago
the victorious British (if they were lucky) or French (if not) troops
Care to explain the distinction?
fmac
Ask me about bike lanes
3hr ago
Brother, I saw the words "emotional damage" in your initial post and combined with the fact you haven't even had sex?
This isn't worth it, this isn't worth it at all. Run, run run run and put your energy (and newly learned lessons) into someone who you can actually see/smell/touch, also also hopefully who generates less emotional damage
fmac
Ask me about bike lanes
3hr ago
I mean yes? I'm not sure what that has to do with this but it's true
anon_
3hr ago
Bring James Carville back in some very visible fashion.
[ Unfortunate given his made-for-radio face, but oh well ]
sun_the_second
4hr ago
I see no shortage of conservatives assuming their opponents are stupid, insane, satanically evil or all three.
If your definition of "basic self-respect" is "take advantage of everyone in any way that the authorities tacitly allow (or don't punish hard enough to matter for you), and if they were weaker than you they deserved it anyway", then I suppose you're correct by your definition.
The way I remember it is that he did it utterly regardless of whether or not they did anything to wrong him, he only didn't take all their money so that it wouldn't completely invalidate the allowance the academy was giving (and thus invite harsh measures), and while he went unpunished it wasn't something that was regularly done by the biggest kid on the block.
Your logic is confused.
The majority of US states are (still) allowing underage marriage (age 16 or 17) if a parent or other legal guardian consents, but that doesn’t mean that parents can legally force a marriage against the will of their child.
Or if in a restraining order a judge forbids you to get near someone, that doesn’t give the judge the power of an “anti-restraining order” where you must stalk someone.
There are many (state) law exemptions making underage drinking legal when provided or in the presence of a family member. But that doesn’t mean your parents can legally force you to get black out drunk.
If my rent contract specifies that I am not allowed to paint walls black, that doesn’t mean my landlord can force me to paint the walls white. That would need to be another term in the contract.
Terracotta
4hr ago
If this is a TikTok/ Twitter/ Insta thing, have you considered that the algorithmic video influencer mechanic is also what brought us mukbang, cinnamon challenges, contour makeup, Lil Tay, faking your own death for clout, etc. etc.?
The bad guy in a pro wrestling match is not actually trying to kill anybody with a folding chair, the monster truck with the teeth decals is not actually trying to eat the cars. The crazy infuriating shit influencers say (or their followers parrot) is not actually representative of what sane people act on in their personal lives.
Dean
Flairless
4hr ago
You're probably thinking of the time Justice Jackson claimed that black children are nearly twice as likely to survive if they have a black physician. This was part of her dissent in the Harvard admissions case, in which her dissent was in favor of Harvard's racial discrimination practices.
She was making an argument that racial admissions are a matter of life and death, because the lives of black children hinge on racial preferences getting black doctors into schools like Harvard, with the proof being the (bad) study.
MaiqTheTrue
Renrijra Krin
4hr ago
I think it’s the narrative liberals tend to tell themselves in which the only reason someone disagrees with the liberal position is that they have a defect, either moral, intellectual, or in cases where they feel charitable, educational. You didn’t, according to this narrative, study the issues and come to a different conclusion. You came to that conclusion because you’re stupid or uneducated unless you just somehow get off on hurting people. So when white wine moms talk to you about why you came to the wrong conclusion, they assume that they’re talking to a lesser being not as evolved or educated as they are.
Conservatives don’t have quite the same narrative. They don’t assume that their liberal counterparts never studied the issue, they assume that they’re perhaps sheltered and get their information from biased sources. But that doesn’t make you stupid or uninformed.
yofuckreddit
4hr ago
DO: Help single parent families with money and support structures (without actively incentivizing the status)
So much easier said than done. By helping, you incent. Hell: People grift Foster parenting, which is the worst way to get gubment money you can imagine. In comparison SNAP, TANF, and Section 8 seem like goldmines.
HorthyMiklosKatonaja
4hr ago
Other than losing my hair and having to urinate every hour or so, no. I guess I got lucky in my genes.
zeke5123a
4hr ago
There was the time she made a basic mathematical error in one of her dissents in a college discrimination case if memory serves.
thrownaway24e89172
naïve paranoid outcast
4hr ago
Much of the motivation for abortion comes from women not wanting to be single mothers. You can respond to this in two ways:
There's at least one more possible response:
3. Bring back shotgun marriages. Make impregnation result in an automatic marriage and enforce much stricter rules for divorce in such marriages.
Mantergeistmann
4hr ago
The temple's gates were open in times of war, and closed in times of peace. The formal declaration of war and peace was a superstitious, religious matter for the Romans.
Weren't the gates open for something like a 400 year stretch at one point? AKA longer than the USA has been in existence?
zeke5123a
4hr ago
Isn’t the right story: get married and then have a bunch of sex — indeed you’ll have more sex compared to being single and ready to mingle?
MadMonzer
Temporarily embarrassed liberal elite
4hr ago
actively chosen a celibate life (be they clergy or otherwise)
My understanding of Catholic (and even more so Orthodox) teaching is that everyone is either called to marriage and family or to a religious life. "Religious life" includes lay and clerical members of religious orders (monks are only ordained if their work as a monk includes ministering the sacraments, and nuns are obviously never ordained) as well as the (for Catholics only) celibate parochial clergy.
TwiceHuman
5hr ago
My memory is a bit hazy, but I think that:
1: They deserved it
2: He didn't take all their money
3: He was more or less following the established rules, which had/would have been used against him when/if he was weaker.
Anyway, my taste are a bit special I guess, I like Disgaea (JRPG with maximum level of 9999, which one has to reach many times if they want to maximize their stats). I play games with big modpacks (Minecraft tech modpacks and such) so that there's a big progression system which takes weeks or months to get through, and I've enjoyed incremental games since Orteil made Cookie Clicker (and before then I was playing other games with unlimited growth and stress-testing game engines, for instance I figured out how to make Sim City 4 regions much larger by changing an imagefile). I remember inventing hyperoperators (asking my dad if you could multiply something with itself as many times as that number itself, and keep applying this concept recursively) while I was still in kindergarten, so I've just always liked big numbers and things with growth potential.
I'm a pretty weird person. What confuses me more is that I'm simultaneously "a sensitive person" and disgusted by how mentally weak society has gotten. I enjoyed reading these three novels by the way: Against the gods, Grand Ancestral Bloodlines, Rebirth of the Nameless Immortal God
All three are really long, and they're basically just power-fantasies, but I enjoyed something about them. I'd describe the main characters as "pretty based most of the time" but I have no idea what other people may think about them. I might read more chapters of RI to see if it gets better.
fmac
Ask me about bike lanes
5hr ago
Great point re: average age of first marriage, never considered that
Anglo-French relations are 1000 year hereditary bromance. If you don't get it, it can't be explained.
Rudyard Kipling tried and I'm not aware of anything better.
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