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HereAndGone
4m ago
hypermasculine alpha nerds
Asking for a friend, can you steer me towards any pictures of these hot chad nerds? Because the photos* of real life guys in that scene I've seen, I'm sure they have lovely personalities š
*Such as the ones attached to dating docs, quite a few of which have made me draw in my breath and go "Oh dear, why did you pick this photo?"
HereAndGone
6m ago
Demisexuality should really be confined to those instances where the usual sexual attraction/arousal/hormonal impulses are lacking or very muted, and only arise after the emotional bond is formed. Unlike the general run of sexuality for both men and women, where libido, desire and arousal are independent of being attached to any one particular individual and can be experienced before any attraction to a particular person is experienced (e.g. going out on the pull which both men and women engage in).
HereAndGone
10m ago
I'd point out that a belief that "all women want sex, they just act coy about it" is going to get you straight into the old path of "no doesn't mean no, it just means she wants you to push harder to make her say yes" which will get you, and any young men you teach about 'what women really want', into trouble.
There are women who act coy about it. There are also women who genuinely don't want sex, or not casual sex, or who don't experience "oh my god I'm so horny right now I need to jump on the first guy I see" at all. Asexuality is a genuine thing for both men and woman. Agreed, not everybody who claims the label, but we can say that about autism and ADHD and the rest of such self-diagnoses, which does not mean that autism is not a real condition.
we should expect mothers to ...sabotage their sons romantically by failing to explicitly point out how and why female sexuality works.
Well, when you figure that one out, tell me because I've been a woman all my life and I'm damned if I can work out why some women do what they do when it comes to men. If you mean the simplistic model of "women want meat, men want sex, swap one for the other" good luck there honey. "Your meat is not good enough" - harsh truth or women just being bitches?
HereAndGone
17m ago
Before everything had to be broken down into sixty-seven degrees of "this is the label for my set of special circumstances that fits me and only me", I think 'demisexual' was a useful term. There are asexuals who have no sexual attraction or arousal at all. There are those who generally are not interested in sex but who are interested in romance, and if they are in a romantic relationship may engage in sex (mostly as part of what you do to keep a relationship going, and to make their partner happy, and they may even enjoy it but not necessarily want sex or initiate it otherwise) once they have that close emotional bond and only after that close emotional bond is established.
Then like all somewhat useful terms it got over-used and flogged to death and now means "yeah I have sex like ordinary people but being straight isn't cool enough, you have to be some variety of queer nowadays, so labelling myself demisexual works for me".
(The irony being that I remember the fights over "are asexuals queer enough, or indeed queer at all? if you're not also trans or gay, you can go to hell straight invader of queer safe spaces" in the early days. Apparently we're all queer now, Father).
Pynewacket
25m ago
How are Christians being "limp wristed" because they're taking a stance about helping the poor?
a refugee is someone in danger in their home country, not someone that is poor, isn't he? where are you taking this conflation of refugee with poor from?
e.g. the parable of the good samaritan, Matthew 19:21:
Jesus said to him, āIf you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.ā
No, it's totally on-brand and correct for anyone that follows the teachings of Jesus to care about the poor.
Here the Episcopal church is taking a stand against the refugee resettlement program (resources allocated for the poor) being perverted to help those that are actually not in need (Afrikaners are generally not very poor); to the detriment of refugees actually in need:
Isn't that referring to your neighbors and people like you?. And that tidbit about "resources allocated for the poor" should be "to the persecuted". I think, your whole line of argumentation falls apart when we take that into consideration.
You're just using "based Crusade Christianity" as a political tool to bash your enemies with, without any regard for the teachings of Jesus.
In fairness, this comment is itself arguing against my political opponents with Christianity, but at least I actually respect its teachings.
2 Corinthians 6:14 "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"
sun_the_second
50m ago
If you want to take the argument towards this direction, killing one person is worse than killing multiple people because one person was the only representative of their specific genotype.
It falls apart because no one cares about one person's specific genotype except possibly that person. A few more people care about a tiny no-name village's distinction. A lot more people care about the Jews as an ethnicity and culture.
hanikrummihundursvin
1hr ago
These ideas are destructive to communism, which is a collectivist ideology. Christians are saying that you should love each other, and that people are all, each, valuable individualsācommunism says you should love each other insofar as it serves the emergent gestalt that sits on top of it.
I think a communist would say that the opposite is true. To that extent the dichotomy of individualism and collectivism is just wordplay.
Every communist values the individual. That's why they want communism. More freedom. More liberty. More happiness. They see the individuals freedom impeded by capitalism and, outside of catholic communists, religion. If love for our fellow men were elevated above love for money or our preferred rendition of Abrahamic religion, then we could much sooner get together and work towards a global change for the betterment of humanity.
Instead we get Christians with proclamations of moral supremacy because they believe in abstract logical concepts or capitalists with proclamations of factual supremacy since they can allege to best predict the outcomes of society. Neglecting to mention that these outcomes are derived from material conditions born from the system they support.
How are Christians being "limp wristed" because they're taking a stance about helping the poor? Jesus's teachings are very often about helping the poor and dispossessed: e.g. the parable of the good samaritan, Matthew 19:21:
Jesus said to him, āIf you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.ā
No, it's totally on-brand and correct for anyone that follows the teachings of Jesus to care about the poor.
Here the Episcopal church is taking a stand against the refugee resettlement program (resources allocated for the poor) being perverted to help those that are actually not in need (Afrikaners are generally not very poor); to the detriment of refugees actually in need:
It has been painful to watch one group of refugees, selected in a highly unusual manner, receive preferential treatment over many others who have been waiting in refugee camps or dangerous conditions for years. I am saddened and ashamed that many of the refugees who are being denied entrance to the United States are brave people who worked alongside our military in Iraq and Afghanistan and now face danger at home because of their service to our country. I also grieve that victims of religious persecution, including Christians, have not been granted refuge in recent months.
You're just using "based Crusade Christianity" as a political tool to bash your enemies with, without any regard for the teachings of Jesus.
In fairness, this comment is itself arguing against my political opponents with Christianity, but at least I actually respect its teachings.
erwgv3g34
1hr ago
I've used AI to write cover letters on job applications. One of those applications got me a teaching job which paid $20,000 more than what I was doing before, so if the cover letter made any difference ChatGPT Plus has more than paid for itself.
On the same job, I used it to generate a slogan which the administrators liked, and some images including the school mascot which had a very positive reception.
Sadly, it didn't save me from getting fired at the end of the year for failing to control the kids.
oats_son
1hr ago
That first link goes to the 2nd page of your most recent posts. Is that what you intended? It will mean that if the post you wanted users to look at was there, it won't be there later as you make more posts.
VIM
1hr ago
So if some tiny isolated but culturally/ethnically distinct village catches smallpox before being wiped out in a raid by another tribe is that worse than the Holocaust? By this logic America is guilty of countless Holocausts and isn't in a position to lecture Hitler, a man who ultimately didn't even succeed in wiping out his targets.
VIM
1hr ago
Alternatively, Hitler slowly escalated in a way that let at least some Jews escape before things got dire whereas Stalin went straight from business as usual to mass starvation. Not at all clear that slowly escalating is any worse than going full hog from the get go
PokerPirate
1hr ago
You're claim that liberation theology and the social gospel movement "remove the supernatural elements from Christianity" is straightforwardly wrong. These are not evangelical theologies---and it's fine to dislike them for that reason---but they obviously incorporate the supernatural.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
2hr ago
Why the snipe against anthropologists (the 'neurotic janitors'?) I get that many have lost all faith in academia but that seems like throwing out the bathwater, the baby, the soap, and the tub itself.
I think to design this study or studies you'd need to first sort out what you mean by "Asian." That may sound eggheaded but you would want as much precision and as little noise as possible, or you'd risk losing any statistical rigor and thus your conclusions would be suspect. Depending on how well you designed the study (accounting for as many other variables as possible besides however you operationalize the term 'culture') you'd still require replication, and replication across and into different cultures, to have any definitiveness in your conclusion.
There's a term åø°å½å儳 in Japanese referring to children who are taken abroad by their parents when very young, and who then must return to Japan when dad gets transferred back home, or whatever. There's an entire system of schooling set up both in Japan and abroad to cater to these children, because of the impact of cultural norms and how the kids get thrown out of whack (as it's perceived here) in that process. The changes in behavior and attitude from before and after are often dramatic. This is individual level, however, not longitudinal across generations.
Throwaway05
2hr ago
I noticed the water-to-flour ratio has changed, so I had it explain why,
I would love to hear more.
phailyoor
2hr ago
He got to 30 and people are calling it a good thing. If he started at this number people would shriek at it. If de minimis nuking is still there in the background overshadowed by all the other stuff, then he also got to kill shein and temu and aliexpress
Gillitrut
Reading from the golden book under bright red stars
2hr ago
So... Trump blinked? These are the tariff numbers we would have if Trump had just imposed the flat 10% rate on China he did on every other country. What benefit did the United States get out of this pause on trade with China? I guess Trump and his inner circle probably made a killing on insider trading this announcement.
Actually, I think the nuance is lost. Social justice warriors werenāt simply inspired by Christianity. They donāt have similarities by coincidence. They are a direct evolutionary branch of mainline Protestantism. There is path dependency.
ArmedTooHeavily
2hr ago
I think phrasing it as "Progressivism is atheistic puritanical christianity" captures some nuance that "it came from protestantism" doesn't.
Hieronymus
2hr ago
āYou shall love your neighbor as yourself,ā is the second greatest commandment. The greatest is, āAnd you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.ā The two commandments are not the same, and the order is important. You canāt just swap out the gospel for any old cause, not even one that preaches love.
If you remove the supernatural bits from Christianity, you are not left with a new kind of Christianity; you have a new movement wearing Christianity as a skin suit. There have been plenty of these. Off the top of my head, liberation theology, the social gospel movement, and the preaching of John Ball seem to be pretty straightforward parallels.
The command to love your neighbor does not imply that you are to love everyone to the same degree and in the same way. Christians disagree among ourselves about the details. I personally find the first epistle of John to be helpful here, but I also consider it one of the most difficult books of the New Testament. A lot of people read John talking about love, have fuzzy feelings, and ignore the things he says that make it complicated.
I donāt know enough Aristotelian (I assume) philosophy to speak fittingly in terms of essences, properties, and qualities. But I can point out that in Christian belief all men possess the image of God, which gives them value in itself and may resolve your dilemma.
Pynewacket
2hr ago
While my first impulse is to deny and defend the church, with examples like these and seeing lady bishops and whatnot in some denominations, I can't really deny the reality that there is truth to that statement. Always a disappointment to see the religion of the Crusades being so limp wristed with statements like
As Christians, we must be guided not by political vagaries, but by the sure and certain knowledge that the kingdom of God is revealed to us in the struggles of those on the margins. Jesus tells us to care for the poor and vulnerable as we would care for him, and we must follow that command.
BreakerofHorsesandMen
2hr ago
Speaking just to the specific question of how one understandās Christian love, I tend to take Brandās stance on it.
What the world calls by that name āLoveā,
I know not and I reck not of.
Godās love I recognise alone,
Which melts not at the piteous plaint,
Which is not moved by dying groan,
And its caress is chastisement.
What answerād through the olive-trees
God, when the Son in anguish lay,
Praying, āO take this cup away!ā
Did He then take it? Nay, child, nay:
He made him drink it to the lees.
Never did word so sorely prove
The smirch of lies, as this word Love:
With devilish craft, where will is frail,
Men lay Love over, as a veil,
And cunningly conceal thereby
That all their life is coquetry.
Whose pathās the steep and perilous slope,
Let him but love,āand he may shirk it;
If he prefer Sinās easy circuit,
Let him but love,āhe still may hope;
If God he seeks, but fears the fray,
Let him but love,āātis straight his prey;
If with wide-open eyes he err,
Let him but love,āthereās safety there!
Godās love is infinitely more than our human conception of love, and it is bundled up together with his righteousness and wrath and holiness. The same God who says āLove one another as I have loved thee,ā is perfectly, rightly capable of wiping out peoples and places. Failure to grasp this is how you wind up with āLove winsā and āHate has no home hereā churches that would never tell anyone they are living in specific sin. But it is clear from Scripture that whatever else God is, he is not what is conceived of in the modern understanding of āGod is love.ā
I hate, I despise your religious festivals; your assemblies are a stench to me. Even though you bring me burnt offerings and grain offerings, I will not accept them. Amos 5:21-22
I make the argument that when Christianity, taken as a whole, was most adherent to Godās commands and intentions, is also the time it was riding high in the world in terms of temporal power. It was the time when it had made itself strong enough to resist outside conquest and to, from that base of operations, eventually evangelize the world, however imperfectly. At that time it was confident in itself, assertive, and had not yet fully fallen under the sway of the āThe only thing that matters is loveā heresy.
Similarly, the interpretation of agape gives the pre-arranged conclusion away from the beginning. Agape isnāt just for comrades in the cause, it is meant, in varying degrees, for everyone.
In theory, I should have agape for Slavoj Zizek, just like I should for a fellow parishioner. It has nothing to do with comrades in the Communist or cause-oriented sense and I would argue demonstrates Zizekās extremely weak understanding of or an intentional misrepresentation of the concept in order to bolster an otherwise weak argument.
But it is a requirement for ruling China. The communist party knows that its mandate comes from being able to "Keep everyone at a reasonable standard of living" ; in fact, the mandate for anyone ruling China, communist or not, is to fulfill that need.
If they can't guarentee reasonable standards of living, then revolution and uprisings are on the table.
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