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Wellness Wednesday for April 22, 2026

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I am in my late 30s and I have discovered that I may be somewhat neurodivergent.

Posting on TheMotte

Uh, anon...

Kidding aside, I had my own realization in my early 20s before it was such a common thing, and it was when I read about Dr Asperger's "little professors" and thought "oh shit." Turned out to be more complicated, but unsurprisingly parents in the all-too-common autist/cluster B pairing managed to produce a bunch of weirdo kids.

And really, that would be my main worry about someone figuring it out later in life: that they would've already fallen into the cluster B trap. It sounds like you avoided that, so everything else that stems from your realization can probably be managed.

fallen into the cluster B trap

Been there. Learned my lesson. Never again.

And really, that would be my main worry about someone figuring it out later in life: that they would've already fallen into the cluster B trap.

Do non-diagnosed autists often become narcissists/antisocial/borderline disturbed? Is that what you mean by cluster B trap? If so, how does that work?

No, by trap I mean male autists entering a relationship with a cluster B woman, specifically borderline or histrionic tendencies.

So, why are the autists more susceptible for falling for these women? Because they are more isolated and worse at reading people?

I would suggest for, um, reasons, that Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a bigger risk. That thing where they decide that you are The Good Person and then chameleon-cloak themselves to appeal to you is super effective against quokkas.

This is why gatekeeping is super important. "Oh, you're telling me you're really into Curtis Yarvin after I mentioned him? Name 5 kings you'd grant absolute sovereignty."

As you describe it, that sounds more like BPD mirroring, but I'm not a doctor and don't even play one on tv.

The NPD version is more manipulative.

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