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ToaKraka
Dislikes you
16hr ago
Just leave your car out in the rain, rather than letting it get dusty in the garage.
The_Nybbler
In the game of roller derby, women aren't just the opposing team; they're the ball.
16hr ago
The "ordinarily detectable woo" is classified under "shared environment" and has already been examined. Postulating spooky undetectable woo that is heritable doesn't weaken anything.
kky
16hr ago
If I were to put it from the point of view of someone who does not hate women, it would be: a woman who says no, rather than not right now, is a woman who has no right to her marriage.
It sounds like the rape enthusiasts have something else going on, but I think the above description is a pretty reasonable standard for marriage, leaving out the man’s parallel duties.
ulyssessword
16hr ago
Yes, routinely separating people from their from family and other support structures is slightly insane.
dr_analog
top 1% of underdog fetishists
16hr ago
I made the mistake of getting my car detailed once and I had no idea it could ever look so clean again so now I feel like a piece of shit if my cars don't always look sparkling factory new.
Been going down a rabbit hole of building a kit to do it myself which is fairly inexpensive and I'm getting decent results but I'm wondering if I'm becoming puritan housewife crazy and I should instead get a mobile detailer on a subscription basis or something.
Ecgtheow
16hr ago
Doctor's don't really do that much unless things are going wrong with adults. They do blood tests to see if hormone levels are within acceptable ranges every few months and check on liver and kidney functions to see if there's any indication of decline. Interpreting hormone levels and adjusting doses doesn't require much medical expertise.
George_E_Hale
insufferable blowhard
17hr ago
This is not at all unbelievable to me, though it mounts, frames, and hangs the idea that the modern era is as corrupt and depraved as any that has come before it, just in different ways. I wonder how common it is.
Anecdotally I know at least one extremely (to me at least) physically attractive girl (a dancer) who has had similar offers (though not from Arabs, or not to my knowledge) but has refused them (so far.) Once her currency as a burlesque "star" begins to go down as her age goes up, I wonder how it will all play out. She's a lovely person, actually, in her way. At one point in my life I would have been quite taken with her. I suspect large swaths of girls in Japan at least would be reluctant to be flown to wherever simply because of the language barrier. Very wealthy men in Japan aren't as desperate for sex as someone in a more sexually repressed culture such as those in the mid-East, but I suppose they could be training their kept-women up to Tokyo.
Tangentially related, but have you or anyone else heard the term "misyar marriage"? I hit the trending button and possibly because I am in Asia I was bombarded by a lot of tweets in Arabic. Because why not I had them translated by my phone, and they were mostly masked women advertising themselves for these arrangements.
ulyssessword
17hr ago
Can you be more specific?
How would social status vary more among fraternal twins than identical twins? Are there family dynamics that push fraternal twins apart (on whatever stats you use) while pulling identical twins together? Do fraternal and identical twins live in different climates?
quiet_NaN
17hr ago
Personally, I think at this point, it is easier to just wait until the patents of the GLP-1 drugs run out.
Generally, shame is a double-edged sword, because it can enforce norms which are pro-social just as well as norms which are net-negative.
I mean, sure, Japan has very low obesity rates, because most kids would rather kill themselves than being the fat kid in the class, and their shame culture might prevent casual sex, but it is not much use with the TFR, for example.
Rhiow
17hr ago
Emotional labour for someone that appreciates it can definitely be one of the appeals of the job. Emotional labor for someone that's screaming obscenities at you is crap and probably the worst part of the job.
Activists complain about the latter and don't talk about the former because they're activists. If they thought "yeah, everything's okay actually" they wouldn't be activists. People tend to complain when their jobs are bad and not say anything when it's good anyways, so I'm not surprised you don't see much talk about good emotional labor.
ToaKraka
Dislikes you
17hr ago
A female football player (perhaps not literally in a pro league), a female programmer, and a female scrawny person, of course. I don't see the problem.
ActuallyATleilaxuGhola
Axolotl Tank Class of '24
17hr ago
I'd subscribe.
rincer_of_wind
17hr ago
I really like your explanation as to why individual components of IQ correlate so much. It makes a lot of intuitive sense that its partially a selection effect. Surprised ive never IQ seen truthers mention it.
ulyssessword
17hr ago
Isn't the whole point of martial arts (at least some technical ones, like BJJ) to make this possible?
Same with sports, and yet regional U16 boys teams routinely beat world-class women's teams in hockey and soccer (at least).
Being better than every woman in the world at a physical activity isn't too outlandish for a man, and I'd bet that being better than every woman in a given city isn't uncommon among dedicated amateurs.
quiet_NaN
17hr ago
I agree with your solution, but I’m going to push back a little- sex creates the expectation of romantic exclusivity, so these ladies are entitled to Chad’s undivided attention.
I think that both Chad and the women would agree on that, they just differ on the time frame. In most cases, the women are not starry-eyed virgins who believe that sleeping with a man they just met will create a relationship which will last until death doth part them. They likely had some previous sexual relationships which did not last, so they have enough data to establish a baseline. They might also have been wooed by a PUA before, in which case they would have excellent real world data on the long term prospects of a relationship beginning with sex on the first date. Chad's idea of the time horizon might be more like refraining from swiping on tinder until the post-coital cuddling.
And statistically, most average women are in a relationship with average men.
The problem here is selection bias. You might be correct that the average case is an average man and an average woman happily forever (or until the man replaces his wife with a younger model 15 years down the road, or the woman dumps her husband after he gets burnout). But this majority is unlikely to star in the drama described above very often.
or should I say higher, considering how much of it is driven by BMI
My ad-hoc model of partner selection would have two scales. One is a rather absolute scale, e.g. "Would your evolutionary programming tell you to forgo sex for years if this one was the only possible partner?"
The other is relative. "How does sleeping with that person affect your status in your group?"
Unsurprisingly, I think that men are mostly filtering on the absolute scale and women are mostly filtering on a relative scale.
As a thought experiment, consider a group of people of one gender partying. One of them is hitting it off with a person of the opposite gender who has a much lower SMV than the group, say overweight, and they leave the party together. The next day, they meet with their group, and are teased about the night. The group member says "oh yeah, we ended up banging, turns they are really great at oral sex".
If the group is male, my expectation of the response would be something like "congrats on getting laid, bro", with some more mild teasing.
If the group was female, my expectation of the response would be "that bottom-feeder will literally fuck any man with a pulse".
As a corollary, I think that giving all the overweight incels GLP-1 antagonists and bringing them to normal weight will not help them much getting into relationships. Their SMV is a result of their relative status, and while some fraction of women prefer (as in "revealed preference") to share a smaller group of hotter men, there will be an imbalance.
roche
17hr ago
It's not to say that randomness can't get you all of those things, but the likelihood of it randomly doing this is so small that these options need to be deweighted in your world view. If it has a 1% chance of happening, it shouldn't occupy more than 1% of your mind.
BurdensomeCount
—Your em dash is showing...
17hr ago
Agreed. If you want to own a gun to keep at home as you please you should be required to pass a certain standard of shooting exam at your local range. The test should be at a level that the average person would manage to pass after 3 months of training once a week, no different to how driving tests work.
PutAHelmetOn
Recovering Quokka
17hr ago
It's not even clear to me how that fantasy is supposed to work. If I'm a pro football player, who is the female equivalent? If I'm a programmer, who is the female equivalent? If I'm scrawny, who is the female equivalent?
hydroacetylene
17hr ago
Uh, I’m pretty sure women go into nursing because it pays very well and is female gendered:
hydroacetylene
17hr ago
Not when you include fatness-related suffering. Obesity is essentially a disability, after all.
PutAHelmetOn
Recovering Quokka
17hr ago
The purpose of inventing the term "emotional labor" is to justify why nurses etc. deserve more wages or more status. It would be strange for them not to be complaining about it
hydroacetylene
17hr ago
And my point is mostly that the guy has been waiting for sex will get some on his wedding night and honeymoon, and if the woman doesn't give it to him in short order I'd say that's grounds for annulment
‘We never had sex’ is grounds for an annulment in the RCC. Famously came up in king Henry VIII’s case, where it had been used to posthumously annul Catherine of Aragon’s marriage to his older brother, which otherwise would have made the marriage invalid on incest grounds. The original annulment remained valid and thus Henry didn’t get his.
Coolguy1337
17hr ago
I suffered from insane chronic pain for over 10 years. It's largely gone now by simply troubleshooting the problems the same way one would fix a computer/program (and not listening to moronic doctors and woo woo people. "oh man we can't figure out what's wrong, have you considered it might be a mental problem?").
Arthritis is caused by something. It's basically a sign that your body is breaking down in some way. Your body is probably just not producing enough lube for your joints. This causes pain. It has real causes, even if they are difficult to figure out.
Hypermobility is just a catch all term for the body failing to upkeep structures that depend of collagen. Might be purely a genetic defect with no known cure, but is more commonly (in-part) impacted by a broken methylation cycle. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10122021/
In case TMJ is still a problem this has a high probability of helping. https://www.ouh.nhs.uk/media/qcxidm43/69966tmj.pdf (case study) https://old.reddit.com/r/ChatGPT/comments/1k11yw5/after_5_years_of_jaw_clicking_tmj_chatgpt_cured/
CPTSD is largely a fancy word for the mind being unable to cope with a stressful event. You need energy to deal with stress, lack of energy makes smaller problems overwhelming too.
The reason doctors have not been able to solve this is because their system is build on reducing symptoms. Not solving anything. Not understanding anything. This was fine 50 years ago, but now science has advanced without them. And they don't care because they are making the big bucks. Public knowledge advances a funeral at a time.
If you're eating the SAD, stop doing that. It's basically poison. Eat food that contains nutrients.
Try fasting for ~48 hours. Obviously don't start with 48 hours, but work yourself up. Maybe 18, 24, 36, 48. It's very possible that you are reacting to the food you're eating and this is an easy way to test that.
Try a mitochondrial cocktail. Tends to boost energy production short term. Good way to see if something global is broken.
Take bloodwork for common nutrient deficiencies. But also realize that this might not be enough to catch the problem. https://old.reddit.com/r/B12_Deficiency/comments/1lfyftj/the_problematic_philosophy_behind_b12_serum_tests/
However please note that none of these things are guaranteed to work, your body might just be unfixable, but the odds are high it might be improved somehow. So take your health in your own hands and start learning how the body works. Do some experiments, and see if anything has an impact.
ThisIsSin
Cainanites and Abelists
17hr ago
By noting that "childish" isn't "immature" and "gay" isn't "faggotry".
As the post demonstrates, things are just simpler when you're inherently on the same page, but it's also [weirdly] a conservative thing; either of you could have had a more conventionally attractive relationship, but instead you chose this.
It's why the childhood friend never wins in coming-of-age stories.
Agreed, but I'd also say, unless you are having some other severe marital dysfunction going on, if your wife is saying no all the time, wouldn't you want to... have a conversation about this? Figure out what's going on? As opposed to just "asserting your rights."
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