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Forgotpassword
6mo ago
He's pretty clearly being sarcastic about how the majority of Wikipedia spend seems to be on bloat and random political efforts.
Wikipedia could run the entity with about 10% of it's incoming cash and everything else is a bureaucracy and progressive fundraisers. Whilst they shake down users for donations like their $10 is going to be the difference between a 404 error and Wikipedia next year.
Forgotpassword
2mo ago
It is a six-hour miniseries and at least 70% of the show is filled with boring relationship drama (the remaining 30% being focused on the actual…criminal investigation).
I feel like this is generally an issue with miniseries. There's this relentless need to take the half of the show that's about an interesting topic (Mindhunter particularly galling for this) and then wedge it against the protagonist's personal relationship issues, especially if it's a period piece with period vibes for the main concept and yet the protagonist is living their personal problems through 2020 norms and cultural memes. I understand the actual core stuff is what costs money and is hard to write, but the amount of shows where it has to be wild pingponging between 'here is the thing the show is about' and 'here is his girlfriend feeling neglected' is ridiculous.
Forgotpassword
6mo ago
Having lived in Darwin for a while, there was an essentially never-ending loop of 'Nice new accommodation is built for local indigenous, indigenous move in, Indigenous culture around extreme sharing within groups and territorial violence between groups leads to nice new accomodation becoming teeming slum, nice new accomodation is built'
Forgotpassword
1yr ago
From a lot of random errant 'Me as a single late-twenty something talking to married forty-something coworkers' conversations, I feel like the longterm married/coupled POV can be dissatisfied with their sex lives on account of rather misunderstanding the current moment in singledom.
I've had way too many chats with schlubby 45 year old middle-managers who seem to be convinced that Tinder is a cornucopia of casual sex for everyman and/or that they'd be able to be a 'chad'. Admittedly I've also seen the same play out more than a few times with younger longterm committed friends who've tried opening relationships and/or breaking up with their SOs to sample the market and found themselves deep in the shit.
Forgotpassword
5mo ago
There's a difference between adapting an ancient story to better suit your immediate geographic & cultural mores and constructing a beat-for-beat remake of something that's like 30 years old where the only difference is that the cast is made up of the right suite of POC.
It's also a matter of tone. A lot of modern race-swapping feels more deliberately combative to the source material.
Forgotpassword
1yr ago
However, most nerdy guys I know who suddenly started getting laid easily - myself included - played the field, like a normal guy in that position.
I feel like a huge amount of this is the sheer grind required to 'ascend' and the rejection along the way, especially in the modern dating app sphere. IMO the majority of both gender rock up with more-or-less good intentions, but it only takes a little bit of exposure to the current culture to reach a state of Fuck You.
Forgotpassword
5mo ago
They way I see it - if you were a jewish person with SJW opinions you don't have a right to complain about the lack of lube on the dildo of consequences that the people you supported and allied yourself with are inserting right now in your asshole.
This is essentially how I feel.
I'd rather have Israel than an Arabic region, since I think the latter wouldn't really be especially productive, whilst the former's been able to provide a bastion of a culture that's somewhat similar to mine and be economically productive. I also feel that the ADL has provided a lot of the blueprint for the modern anticolonial woke movement, and that it is very funny that suddenly the Zionist diaspora is getting hoisted by the petard that they've been condemning the rest of the West for.
Forgotpassword
1yr ago
Anecdotally, detransitioning does seem to be more common among ex-transmen than ex-transwomen
Completely spurious reasoning but I feel like a lot of this would be down to transmen having more to lose by opting to be a male and thereby losing out on 'the sisterhood'/social connections versus low-status men essentially going from nobody giving a fuck to a built-in social network when they opt to transition. I also feel like men are more likely to actually achieve something approaching what they want out of the transition, whilst in my own experience of Transmen there's a lot of very garbled logic about essentially wanting to be a top 1% guy to experience those perceived advantages without realizing they're renouncing female privilege and moving onto... petite feminine male non-privilege.
Forgotpassword
1yr ago
I am a black professor, I directed my university’s black-studies program, I lead anti-racism and transformative-justice workshops, and I have published books on anti-black racism and prison abolition. I live in a predominantly black neighborhood of Philadelphia, my daughter went to an Afrocentric school, and I am on the board of our local black cultural organization.
It is kind of hilarious how badly this statement would come off if you substituted prettymuch any other ethnicity or word for Black.
Forgotpassword
9mo ago
I honestly feel a lot of the COVID hawks just assume the vaccine was a lot more effective than it actually is, and thus happily just kind of said 'Oh, vaccine's available, back to normal life' whilst simultaneously overrating the impact of COVID & the vaccine by a major factor.
Also I've got friends who are still habitual maskers, but the majority were germophobes & borderline OCD-types even before the pandemic who've now got license to indulge their pre-existing instincts and interests.
Forgotpassword
7mo ago
Why don't we teach young women 'please never send mixed signals to men about your sexual interest as ambiguous coquettishness muddies the water around consent'? Why is it 'No means no and if you don't have a yes, it's a no' in the face of all observed human mating practices? All the responsibility for miscommunication around consent is placed onto the shoulders of men by the groups advocating 'education'.
A lot of female sexuality operates around plausible deniability and genuinely being a lot more 100-0 with potential romantic partners than the male mind can really conceive. I've got a lot of female friends, and the amount of times a prospective paramour has gone from 'I think he's my soulmate' to 'it icks me to even be somewhat near them, they are physically and spiritually repulsive' off a single tiny moment/misplay is way too high. Being a proactive communicator of sexual intent doesn't work when you're wired like that, as the light switch can flip at any moment
Forgotpassword
1yr ago
2.) Men and women's definition of relationship are different. So, yes, the dude that has a FWB he smokes pot with and watches Netflix before having sex isn't a relationship, but she isn't dating anybody else, and they hang out regularly so...
I think that's compounded by dudes having multiple 'semi-committed' relationships on the go at once, in which he considers himself single (as he's continuing to keep dating new girls and nobody's formally clarified the relationship) whilst his partners might consider themselves on the girlfriend track.
Forgotpassword
1yr ago
Sidebar but was recently on /r/combatfootage and it's insane both how much HQ video is coming out of the conflict (especially the drone bombings which are, frankly, grim as hell) and how partisan most people are on random gunfights between Ukrainian and Russian young men with no particular power over their own destinies.
Forgotpassword
4mo ago
"Me Too" may have had its overreaches, but it's bad when women are sexually coerced in the workplace. It's bad when false accusations destroy an innocent man's life, but it's also bad when a woman is genuinely taken advantage of. The balance of type 1 errors to type 2 errors has shifted - and while I'm not sure it's worse to be a female victim than a falsely accused man, I would expect that the deterred male misconduct is much greater in frequency than the corresponding rise in female misconduct. Similarly, many jurisdictions have consciously made it easier to convict men for rape - and again, while this is a double edged sword, the fact that more bad guys are getting punished and others are being deterred from doing bad things is good. Additionally, the type of conduct that is not rape but may result in an increased likelihood of being accused of rape is conduct that I think is bad - so even if it sometimes gets punished unfairly harshly, I don't mind men being disincentivized from e.g. getting women drunk to make them more pliable.
I think there's been a lot of pro-social behavior that's been thrown out with the bathwater, though. The proportion of people meeting their partners at work has dived off a cliff, and like that's generally good sort of assortative mating that produces solid outcomes for everybody. I don't think you can just purely say it's 'falsely accused men versus molested women' when there's a ton of social behavior that has been modified.
Forgotpassword
6mo ago
There was sort of this weird rhetorical loop between 'The Voice is a symbolic powerless body with no legal force' and 'The Voice will action real meaningful change due to its power' in which the former is probably more accurate but it never got firmly nailed down.
Forgotpassword
10mo ago
“Asian romantic preferences are morally permissible.” Pro
As in preferring Asian women? I feel like there's a lot to unpack here in which men may prefer Asian women for certain attributes that aren't necessarily racial.
Most of my dating has been WMAF and it's more due to wanting a petite, intelligent, agreeable socially-conservative woman without somebody else's kids. 90% of that stock in my area happens to be Asian and therefore I date a lot of Asian girls.
Forgotpassword
1yr ago
Also the question of what is meant by adaptation?
I've seen plenty of men adapt to maximize their chances of casual sex in the current environment and thereby get laid a bunch, but the alternate adaptation path that leads to actually reproducing seems a bit nebulous and confusing at this point.
Forgotpassword
1yr ago
I do find it amusing that people on social media are acting like Jan 6th invented the storming of the capitol.
Forgotpassword
6mo ago
The thing that strikes me with the decolonization rhetoric is that so many people espousing it don't seem to recognize the position of intense historical privilege they live in. Yes, there's issues with 2023 society, but the vast majority of people with access to Twitter live in comfort unimaginable even 60 years ago.
The entire 'Indigenous Voice referendum' in Australia discussion has been providing so many examples of this, in which there's a ton of focus on 'English colonization bad' coupled with an unspoken assumption that the Indigenous would otherwise have been left completely unmolested by anybody else and somehow emerged as a Western Multicultural democracy via process of Wakandization by now. It makes a coherent argument difficult.
Forgotpassword
11mo ago
The Gaymaleification/Sex-in-the-city of single women hasn't really produced much in the way of longterm happiness, from what I can see.
Forgotpassword
1yr ago
The only really open public arena are bars, but they generally aren't much better than tinder, just more time-consuming.
I feel like even the crowd of 'people who are not bar people who are actively going to bars to mingle' is kind of dying out, similar with clubs and stuff. 50 years ago just hanging out at the local pub was far more of a mingling opportunity due to lack of options, but now for most people the clubs are a very infrequent thing or only a rite of passage for a year or two.
I do also agree on the male/female interest thing. I believe the genders are far more self-segregating than they were in recent history, meaning that organic meetings are just harder to come by. I similarly managed to grind online apps to the point of doing okay on them, but if the apps were to shut down tomorrow I'd have no idea how I'd happen across a girlfriend with any consistency. Workplace fraternization has a horrible risk/reward and I'm senior enough it's very unlikely I'd run into a female coworker who I wouldn't be doubly-barred from by relative rank/power dynamic. Vast majority of my hobbies are sausage fests, and whilst 'alright go pick up a girl-dominated hobby as a tribute' is a thing, it feels disingenuous.
Forgotpassword
1yr ago
Yes. Incredibly fair. Especially economic gains which were essentially illusory inflated 2020 ones which people are now endlessly crying about giving back to the market.
Admittedly I work in Crypto-adjacent fields and the amount of people who seem to feel that 2020/1 was pure inborn skill and that 2022 is somehow totally unanticipated..
We're also barely touching the tip of the iceberg of the lockdown fallout. Education disrupted, cultural shifts and all for... what, exactly
Forgotpassword
9d ago
Also to be frank I'd expect interspousal transfers to skew male -> female in terms of who created the funds. For every Mackenzie Scott there's hardly a counterbalancing force of... I don't know, Travis Kelce deciding to donate future Taylor Swift's money to the NRA.
Forgotpassword
11d ago
I think games have just scaled as a project to the point that there's too many cooks in the kitchen. Also credentialism likely trends more formulaic compared to when even majorish projects would prettymuch be 'somebody's cousin + moderate drug use = Elder Scrolls mythos'
'Get jacked, get confident, get bitches' is more of a solution than anything being offered from the other side of the fence, though.
Is it One Size Fits All? No!
But atleast it's a suggestion compared to either 'Be Yourself' in a dating scene that is beyond warped or 'Long screed about how bad and evil men from before your time acted poorly etc etc etc'
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