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hydroacetylene
1d ago
Thé priest also will not spend time validating your objectively stupid decisions.
Quantumfreakonomics
1d ago
Is there a big spike in female dating app usage at 35? That’s about when “admitting defeat” becomes the rational thing to do.
TheAntipopulist
Formerly Ben___Garrison
1d ago
what is there to actually do here?
Stronger internal criticism, like what MAGA did when Musk implied we must have open borders for Indians back in December. That would at least be a good start.
JarJarJedi
1d ago
Yeah being "white" and openly supporting terrorists puts one in a very convenient spot to serve as a token prosecution target. "You see, we're not ignoring it, we're doing something!". Given the same guys also called for British MPs to be assassinated, it makes them even easier target to make an example of. Now when next 1000 people are arrested for tweeting about immigration policies, the police can say they are completely even-handed and fight extremism on both sides.
AlexanderTurok
Alt-MSNBC
1d ago
Disproportionately middle-aged and elderly women.
HereAndGone
1d ago
“If I make a Bumble profile, I am more likely to get a boyfriend”
I do wonder about that. How many people who are now on Bumble are looking for proper relationships, versus at the beginning? Dating apps may also be seen as the last refuge of the hopeless, or that men are using them to hook up/cheat while in relationships:
Shares in Bumble crashed 30% this month [August 2024] after a bad earnings report. Match Group, the Dallas-based owner of Tinder, Match.com, OkCupid, Hinge and others, has reported a decline in its total number of paying users, for seven straight quarters. According to Pew research, nearly half of all online daters and more than half of female daters say their experiences have been negative.
The same study found that 52% of online daters said they had come across someone they thought was trying to scam them; 57% of women said online dating is not too or not at all safe; and 85% said someone continued to contact them after they said they weren’t interested.
...Allie Volpe, Vox writer and author of a recent article advocating for finding romance offline, says her single friends in Philadelphia are burned out by online dating.
“People are sensing that it has become so impersonal, and such a numbers game, that people feel there are infinite options out there, we’re not really that nice to people on the apps any more,” Volpe says.
“People are looking for organic ways to meet each other,” she adds. Running clubs and sewing circles, for example. “At least in person you can tell them, ‘hey, I’m not interested’, but online you feel like you have no control on the other side, and they have the means to contact you, that’s kind of scary.
“It can be kind of weird on the apps to go from stranger to being potentially romantically involved immediately,” Volpe adds. “It can be jarring, and that doesn’t happen when you’re meeting somebody face to face.”
But Volpe volunteers that the situation is confusing. “The pandemic normalized the dating app experience because you couldn’t go places or meet them in a bar because they weren’t open. For gen Z, maybe their first dating experience was during the pandemic. So they’ve never dated except online, and don’t know where to go where there are people they don’t know.”
Skibboleth
It's never 4D Chess
1d ago
But if you drive through the rural parts of the South, it’s already happened, probably 2 generations ago, and these places look like the ruins of a civilization rather than a thriving one. Rusty, dirty, shabby, abandoned buildings everywhere. The people themselves live in poverty for the most part.
The rural South has always looked like that. The economic and social structure of the South has not historically been conducive to prosperity. Arguably, many parts of the South are doing better than ever, thanks to weak labor laws, cheap labor, and permissive planning/environmental laws making it an appealing place to build factories (and houses).
HereAndGone
1d ago
I think women do judge men more harshly when it's based on photos, because women are accustomed to "this is how you must look to be attractive in a photo" while men seem to go "I combed my hair, that's good, right?"
First impressions are unkind, but if you're trawling through hundreds of images, things that are small flaws in themselves build up to make choices harder.
FiveHourMarathon
Wawa Nationalist
1d ago
No, my goal is to assemble a list of "advice compatible" traits that a man can cultivate to put himself in similarly rarified air as a Good Man to match up with one of these Good Women. It's actually pretty easy: there aren't a million single men under 40 out there who make decent money, aren't convicted felons, attend church, work out, and aren't addicts.
We don't need to get into gambling or porn. Just follow those criteria and the Good Woman to Good Man ratio shifts from the GW:M ratios to slightly in favor of Good Men pretty quickly.
HereAndGone
1d ago
Why is 3/4 terrible but 6/7 is average? I admit, I have no grasp of numbers.
Average guy on here, if you had fifty women throwing themselves at you, would you pick the top ten most attractive ones or would you sleep with all fifty?
I'm asking because I see a certain amount of resentment in comments (not necessarily on here) about women being too picky and they get loads of matches on dating apps and they only reply to the most desirable ones. Well, if you had a selection of possible sexual/romantic partners vying for your attention, would you reply to Number Fifty on the list as well as Number One, or would you just select out Numbers One Through Ten of the ones you personally find hottest and ignore the rest?
I'm not trying to gotcha anyone or point fingers, I'm honestly curious.
This is the plot of basically every harem anime out there, or at least the plot of every harem anime made after the realistic social, legal, religious, and economic constrains that forced the protagonist to choose a single girl to wed gave way to the pure wish-fulfillment fantasy of polygamy. And the revealed preference of men is, overwhelmingly, to keep them all.
FCfromSSC
Nuclear levels of sour
1d ago
Every time the Motte begins discussing dating culture, my reaction is to go and hug my wife and children.
Yeah, I can't imagine who sees that line and thinks "exactly my type!" though there may be matches from girls just looking for some fun but nothing serious. Nikola, for instance: that would be fun if intense but short experience, but definitely not long-term boyfriend material, much less husband. Much too aware of how good he looks and poses like a romance cover model. He'd be kissing your hand and handing over a bouquet of thirteen red roses while at the same time setting up a date with six other women for the rest of the week 😁
Niko seems like a nice young man but he badly needs advice on "not a polo neck with a blazer with jeans, dear, and clear the paper bags off the table before taking the photo, and don't smile so hard, you look nervous not relaxed".
aldomilyar
1d ago
Oh I'm married and with child now, having finally struck gold with the 60th but I did a ton of field anthropology along the way.
I live in a majorish metro, managed to work my way up from a 5/10 to like a 7/10 through weight loss + trial & error and essentially didn't turn down a first date with anybody who was open to get a coffee and not obviously a hard no.
OracleOutlook
Fiat justitia ruat caelum
1d ago
If a woman is downloading an app, she's saying, "No guy in real life wants me." Or, "I don't care about being loved, I just want to fuck."
Women want to have a man fall for them naturally, just by being in her presence. Going on a dating app is admitting defeat.
erwgv3g34
1d ago
This, but unironically.
(It's been noted that talking to a therapist about your problems is just the modern version of going to a priest to talk about your sins, but at least the priest doesn't ask to see your insurance).
OracleOutlook
Fiat justitia ruat caelum
1d ago
As a woman, it's hard to figure out who his "incest, cannibalism and John 3:16" blub is attracting. Finn looks pretty average, kind of douchy.
My advice in general would be for guys to take photos from below, girls take photos from above, maybe seek a professional photographer if it's that important.
Post repo, if gpt's solution doesn't work. Might take a stab at it when I have a moment.
Edit: oops, didn't see your edits when posting.
TheAntipopulist
Formerly Ben___Garrison
1d ago
They're smuggling because they have a chip shortage, and the smuggling isn't meeting all their needs.
Quantumfreakonomics
1d ago
I had about 60 first dates in 2022
Uh, what? Are we even talking about the same concept at this point? How does one both have the opportunity to go on 60 first dates in a year and also none of them go well enough to terminate the process? Is this some poly thing?
WhiningCoil
1d ago
Well, more problems on my chairs.
Some fucking how I cut the stretchers an inch short. Which required me to buy more walnut. Good news, the lumber yard was having a memorial day cook out, and I got to stuff myself with free cheeseburgers before I made my purchase.
So anyways, I got the stretchers remade to the proper length this time. Cut the angled tenons in them which was new for me. Added another mortising guide to my leg making jig to put the mortises for them into the back legs. Things are back on track. I have 6 more mortises to clean up by hand, and after that all the mortises and tenons are done.
Next up are the seats which I think I'll do with a template again. Then comes sanding, finishing and assembly.
That was what jumped out at me, too. Frankly it makes me think that I really ought to try Tinder again with some better photos, if this is all it takes.
I'd have assumed most men throughout history have had access to prostitutes.
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