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Culture War Roundup for the week of January 23, 2023

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Last week, Luke Pollard, the UK Labour MP for Plymouth Sutton and Devonport, yet again called for a "national incel strategy". According to him, it's vital that we do this to prevent another "incel terror attack" like the Keyham shootings.

I think the first time I actually heard the word was around the time Todd Phillips' Joker had released. What I don't understand is this extreme alarmism of progressives surrounding incels, when they say the exact opposite of Islamist terrorism. An internet subculture of terminally online, socially disabled men who find themselves unable to order a Big Mac without feeling butterflies in their stomachs are such a big threat to our society that we need a national strategy to combat them? This to me seems like it's completely tarred by alarmism surrounding white supremacy and racial animosity. Granted, incels do hold on to ethno-supremacist views, such fringe ideologies always find purchase among those on... the fringes of society, often young, single men with no social life and no job/ a dead end job and having nothing to lose. They spew all the vitriol online because they tend to be non-confrontational in real life, they might claim to support violence but almost never have the stomach to commit violence themselves. They've locked themselves inside their heads, no one's allowed inside and they view the world, society and women through a tiny keyhole into the sewer that is the most toxic spaces on the internet. They aren't hurting anyone but themselves. But why are the "basement dwelling gamur incels" among the most reviled subgroups in the culture war? Is it simply because they spew the most bile against every 'vulnerable' demographic (women, minorities, LGBTs) online?

It's because they're men who don't fit into the far left nu-male mould. Masculine men are reviled for the same reason; they refuse to perform the gender role that is now expected of them by society; that of the spineless cheerleading doormat and ATM.

Women have been largely freed of their gender-based responsibilities and expectations, however those on men only evolve and grow more constricting. Society as it is seems to have a vested interest in controlling and neutering male energy. Allowing it to flourish, as in masculine men, or fester into hate, as with incels, is unacceptable; it must be channelled to the benefit of everyone but the man himself (and, indeed, men as a class). In the same way there is a concerted effort to prevent white racial consciousness (while kindling it in all other races), so too is there an effort to suppress men's consciousness about the reality of their social station.

Incels and traditional men both reject that men should be subservient to the interests of women, therefore both must be vilified, marginalised, and destroyed if at all possible. That's all it is. The same way all the furore around Andrew Tate never focuses on his actual crimes of sex trafficking and his dodgy scam empire, but is instead endless hand-wringing over his effects on the next expected crop of browbeaten and whipped males -- sorry, "young boys".

Masculine men are reviled

Wait, what? By whom?

The 80's level of worship for roided-out athletes and action stars was a high-water mark, not the norm.

I think masculine men have lost market share to trendy social movements, but it's the same sort of benign neglect that hits everything reaching a certain level of cultural cachet: it becomes the default. Movie stars are still fit white dudes. Truck ads are still laughably gruff. That doesn't change just because the media coverage for Rings of Power decides to lean on representation. There's no alpha in headlines about traditional masculinity--but that's not the same thing as reviling it!

I don't know where you're getting your news about the "furore" of the day, but I think you're being sold an unrealistic narrative. Everything I've seen about Tate does, in fact, focus on the sex trafficking. Everything about the Liver King leads with mockery that he didn't really live up to his image. The dregs of Twitter are not representative of normal, functional society.

Your counter-examples are all cultural figures, which are also not representative of normal society.

I think masculinity is thriving on YouTube and social media as well. Outside of twitter, masculinity finds a large, receptive audience.

I would say that kowtowing to something you don't agree with just to avoid the social shaming is fundamentally unmasculine behaviour, and partaking in some masculine hobbies and even having a wife (plenty of weak men have wives) doesn't make up for that flaw any more than wearing a dress makes you a woman when you've got an Adam's apple. I don't think I need to argue the case that there are big social consequences to men who don't hold their tongue in the face of absurdity. There's an inherent friction involved in being a man, but you're not supposed to hide from it.

And isn’t power pretty masculine?

Not necessarily, there are neutral and feminine forms of power, and the aristocracy were often ridiculed for being effeminate.

how much social criticism does a masculine man who lifts, is heterosexual, has masculine hobbies like fishing and woodworking, has a few kids, a stay-at-home-wife, is the breadwinner etc but who kowtows to the dominant ideology in public (like many ‘masculine’ men throughout history) actually face?

With a grand total of 7 stipulations put on his behaviour, how is that not exactly the "controlled and neutered male energy" that was being described?

"Just make sure all your hobbies are prosocial and you support all these hangers-on and you vote the right way and never think anything wrong and don't have any oddities..."

With a grand total of 7 stipulations put on his behaviour, how is that not exactly the "controlled and neutered male energy" that was being described?

Because those are mostly traditional, masculine things, and that was the original point of contention?

You seem to want to argue that there is some disjunctive set of conditions that men have to fulfill to be esteemed. That's right: it has ever been thus, and long may it remain so.

That's just a disconnect between human nature and the party line. It's kind of the inverse of fat women, officially approved of but actually low status. Liberal women who date chads are like Catholics who eat meat on Friday: they know they shouldn't but it tastes too good.

That seems like a bad example. I have never heard anyone refer to Trudeau as manly. He is "Prime Minister Bieber", the substance-free, effeminate pretty boy.

But even setting that aside, what you're saying seems like the sort of "do as I say, not as I do" intentional sabotage from Western elites. Maybe someone should slip esteogen and SSRIs into the water at Davos.

My understanding is that one of the things that put Trudeau to his path to current power was this boxing match, where he defeated a far more "macho" figure in Canadian politics.

The same description applies to plenty of middle class people.

Yeah you'd think Trudeau was a silly child the way talk radio describes him. Not the paragon of masculinity according to conservative gen-x talk show hosts.

But even setting that aside, what you're saying seems like the sort of "do as I say, not as I do" intentional sabotage from Western elites. Maybe someone should slip esteogen and SSRIs into the water at Davos.

So, I'm someone who would be an Incel, probably not one of those angry political people, but one none the less, if it wasn't for a big stroke of luck on my behalf. And there's absolutely a "do as I say, not as I do" element to it.

Incels are people who have taken the nu-male model and actually take it seriously, internalizing and actualizing the teachings. I think people just don't want to grapple with the idea that their ideology/aesthetic/politics can actually harm people, combined with the "ick"/low-status factor. That's my take based on my experience.

Those angry Political Incels, as I call them? By and large, they want those nu-male actualized traits to be lionized and considered high-status in society. That's generally what the complaint comes down to. And I mean...it's not going to happen, right? Self-improvement is the way forward and out. But that's often seen as a reactionary thing in and of itself.

Incels are people who have taken the nu-male model and actually take it seriously, internalizing and actualizing the teachings.

Many of them have been hearing it from their single mothers all their lives.

And all-female teachers