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Friday Fun Thread for December 19, 2025

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Dang, advised a buddy to shoot his shot with a girl in a discord he was into. Apparently as soon as he admitted he had feelings she immediately blocked him and left the server.

Not sure how this guy asked her out, but generally he's a pretty socially competent guy. Not autistic or anything, has been married before and dated a good bit so not an incel type. It's just nuts that ladies by and large can be so neurotic when it comes to getting propositioned. Now his whole status in this server with folks he likes is in question.

Idk, obviously I don't understand the female experience here, but it really strikes me as a lack of maturity to react this way!!!

Anyway to make it fun, what's your best story about getting rejected and/or rejecting someone romantically?

Let this be a lesson for your friend, and anyone reading this, to never ask a woman out on Discord, of all places.

People meet in all kinds of weird places. But discord probably not ideal - you'd at least want to know how your potential mate looks like, not?

In fairness, my buddy met his wife on Discord. (Although, counterpoint, she suuuuuuucks, so be careful what you wish for, I guess.)

Discord is not the place to find a long-term, healthy relationship with the opposite sex.

Nah I think it's still the best move to just shoot your shot.

Admirable, but mistaken.

Are you successful with women? Telling you, if you aren't willing to shoot your shot you never get anywhere.

Telling you, if you aren't willing to shoot your shot you never get anywhere

You'll never get anywhere "shooting your shot" with a woman on Discord, who, for all we know, could be anyone. You have a better chance asking a woman out, to their face, outside the computer.

Idk, I'd say it's actually far more risky shooting your shot offline. Going for ppl you know via internet communities at least has a gated downside risk.

people you """know""" via internet communities

Didn't we just have a discussion regarding how, on the Internet, no one knows you're a dog?

Tell me you don't actually know any introverts without telling me you don't actually know any introverts.

Everybody has their blessings and their curses. I am sure your blessings are plentiful, but there are people for whom the chance of success cold-asking a woman out in person are exactly zero. It's just a fact. There are things that some people can do and some can't. Some can win a match with a professional boxer and some can't. Some can run a marathon and some can't. Some can bench press 2x bodyweight and some can't. Some can successfully charm women in person from cold start and some can't. Giving them advice "don't do shit you have - maybe small, but non-zero - chance with, and instead do shit which you have zero chance with" is strictly harmful.

Apparently things are different with younger millennials and boomers, but introverts have been courting each other for generations. They just invite each other out for coffee or a book club or some such tepid thing. I (a millennial who remember an analogue household) and the few but not none men who have asked me out (in person) are introverts. If things continue this way I feel like I'm going to have to send my son off somewhere less neurotic when he comes of age.

I admire your resolve in standing your ground here. I also dislike the term "shoot your shot" which brings unwelcome images of weird subreddits to mind.

I'd also suggest that like everything there are right and wrong ways to go about (it), with the latter far outnumbering the former.

It's a bad idea to shoot your shot when a (lets be honest, very likely) rejection leaves you worse off than saying nothing.

This is why dating apps are so big. The cost of rejection is zero.

Its also why asking out women from work is usually a bad idea. Massive downside risk.

Eh I disagree. Some table stakes can at least let the girl know you are serious.

I met my now wife at work. And she was the third person I "dated" from a work environment. (The other two might not count for different reasons).

I was aware while dating my wife that if things in the relationship went bad I'd have to leave that organization. She is/was well liked and well known there.

Life has trade-offs. You gotta decide what finding love is worth. If the answer is it's worth "nothing" and you'll take no negative tradeoffs in the search then I think you'll be searching for much longer. (All else equal of course)

You'll never get anywhere asking girls out on discord.

Maybe, maybe not. But I think @ThomasdelVasto has the right of it here. Assuming that the girl in question isn't someone you know through other means (i.e. you don't have better chances to ask her out), you get the best chances by shooting your shot. I'm not saying you should make Discord your primary means of meeting girls, but you also should take your opportunities when and where you find them.

The broader point here is that if your opportunities are coming from discord you're in trouble.

No, if your only opportunities are coming from Discord then you're in trouble. If it's just one source then you're fine. But either way, that doesn't mean you should disdain the chance to take a shot if it comes up. The guy who has other chances loses nothing by seeing what happens on both fronts. The guy who only has a chance on Discord should cultivate better chances, but still should shoot the best shot he has available to him.

Disagree! Many people find relationships online nowadays. It is definitely possible, hard and fast rules in dating are for suckers.

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