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FCfromSSC
Nuclear levels of sour
14m ago
What do you want exactly, in concrete terms?
Common knowledge that the Sexual Revolution was a catastrophic failure, on its own terms and according to its own values. Common knowledge that sex has immutable consequences deeply rooted in human psychology and instinct, and that no amount of social engineering is going to change that. Past that, I'm just here to watch Truth emerge from her well to shame the world, and to gather useful examples for teaching my kids and my nieces and nephews about how not to ruin their lives.
The_Nybbler
Does not have a yacht
24m ago
As I recall, Trump had to use Customs and Border Patrol to do it.
non_radical_centrist
29m ago
And I think we should move our cultural navigational aids more towards being anti-hook up culture without moving all the way back to purity culture.
non_radical_centrist
32m ago
Does she earn a lot?
I believe so, I don't know her exact numbers but she happily took an OF career over a law career.
You think a good outcome for a young woman is being a 24 year old amateur porn actor/producer?
If she's making good money off of it, then yeah, all the power to her. I'm more concerned about the men who pay for it tbh, I'd expect most of her subscribers are lonely men who aren't able to get any consistent romance in real life so they pay to get a scrap of personalized sexual attention from her. But I think what I interpreted to be her proposed solution, that woman be more selective with who they sleep with and avoid hook ups with fuckboys(aka Chads in incel lingo) and that they hold out for relationships, would lead to better outcomes for men too.
Gaashk
33m ago
I was admittedly both rather low agreeableness and not particularly hot, and also unlikely to be friends with Ms. Khalidi. But it doesn't take all that much willpower to not invite a man into your dorm room on the first date after getting burned a couple of times?
non_radical_centrist
35m ago
I've never been a fan of condemning someone's solution without offering your own alternative.
non_radical_centrist
36m ago
Why can't we? For the entirety of human history aged out hookers were likely to be STD ridden and have low human capital, that's no longer true.
non_radical_centrist
37m ago
It seems like eventually the college girls would learn to say things like "I want a romantic relationship, not a one night stand" and hold out against the "why's" with their experiences of disappointment?
That does happen, but is also impeded by men putting a lot of effort into deceiving women they want more than hook ups, then not doing hook ups. And some women also being horny enough at times to go along with it even if they regret it later.
hydroacetylene
57m ago
Uh, you can’t change society in that way. Aged out hookers have been socially disgraced and impoverished for the entirety of human history.
hydroacetylene
1hr ago
It seems like eventually the college girls would learn to say things like "I want a romantic relationship, not a one night stand" and hold out against the "why's" with their experiences of disappointment?
It seems like they don’t do this because teenaged girls(which is what they are) aren’t capable of regulating their own emotions well enough to say no to a guy their interested in.
hydroacetylene
1hr ago
There’s a few comments below calling the article time wasting for its obvious triteness. That’s basically true, but it does serve a valuable function of reframing obvious but inconvenient truths for an audience that does not want to hear them.
The motte is not the intended audience for that article. Nor are tradcons. Progressives who deeply believe there is nothing wrong with casual sex are, that sex isn’t a big deal, that it certainly doesn’t need to be reserved for anything in particular.
Now this has to reconcile with the facts of biology, which is that a negligible percentage of otherwise mentally healthy women desire casual sex while a large portion of young men do, that teenaged girls are, on average, simply not competent to make their own relationship decisions, and that many young men have no real desire for a relationship or emotional bonding.
What all that adds up to is that a culture which considers casual sex normal and acceptable is bad for women, not in the sense of being rape culture- although sure, that’s probably pretty close to the Bailey definition of rape culture- or devaluing women or whatever- although you can make a case it does devalue women, I’m not doing that right now, and this Muslim virgin stripper(only one in the world, I presume) definitely isn’t- but in the sense that it’s choosing who gets the short end of the trade off between male and female preferences, particularly in scenarios like college campuses where very closely age matched and very young men and women interact unsupervised. And feminism is a class interest movement for upper class urban educated women, so you can expect them to turn against casual sex when they have an opinion on it.
2D3D
1hr ago
why doesn’t social justice have a credible competitor
Because social justice women put out.
Social justice is a religion, and followers of competing religions have a mild form of chastity nominally attached to it. Social justice has female empowerment and reclaiming sexuality as available tenets, so men signalling their adherence to the religion have a vector to get pussy. High ordered religious/cultural societies relied on sanction of elders to curate mate suitability, but in social justice men have easy access to female curated spaces by just doing performative self abasement.
You can see social justice being unpopular in societies where elder curation is not a barrier to sexual availability, even for nominally religious societies. Religious southeast asian muslim women are notoriously promiscuous and sinic irreligiosity means there is no need for an alternative religion to attract females.
Social justice in the west is the defiled temple with vestigal nuns told to spread their legs for feminism. It sucks.
SubstantialFrivolity
I'm not even supposed to be here today
1hr ago
It’s honestly bad manners not to sleep around if large parts of society.
What? That's insane and I find it very difficult to believe. To be clear I'm not trying to accuse you of lying, but your statement is so incongruous with my experience of the world that I can't reconcile the two.
Gaashk
1hr ago
It’s honestly bad manners not to sleep around if large parts of society.
That seems like a reasonable enough thing to be pushing back against.
Gaashk
1hr ago
She was casting a great deal of shade on magazines for girls, probably produced by women. In general she seems to think that older women are failing to appropriately guide younger women, both going on about the devil and hell, and suggesting that anal sex and being hit with a riding crop are things girls are likely to enjoy.
hydroacetylene
1hr ago
Federal forces obeyed their orders to suppress BLM riots, there just weren’t very many such orders.
SubstantialFrivolity
I'm not even supposed to be here today
1hr ago
The reason I decided I'm not going to get a Tesla was basically like this. They updated the UI in a software update so that the defrost function was no longer on the screen, but in a menu. I already thought that having a touchscreen instead of physical controls was a horrible idea, but I was barely willing to tolerate it if the UI didn't change. But since they are willing to just push out UI changes like that, I'm never going to buy a Tesla. It is flat out dangerous to have to stare at a screen (because they moved shit on you) while operating essential features of the car.
Trivially it harms the person whose voice was copied, which is why she was going to sue. Surely you wouldn't like it if one of the world's most powerful companies used AI to make a porn with your likeness, for example.
But that's not really the point. The point is that pretty much everyone who has ever worked with Sam paints him as some sort of Machiavellian genius. Certainly the episode with Reddit played out that way.
Perhaps this person shouldn't be in charge of the world's most important technology?
In no particular order:
- Her college sex and dating environment does sound pretty bleak.
- Islam as represented by the people in her life also sounds pretty bleak in respect to women.
- She does seem to be perpetuating some of the bleakness with camgirl activities and inviting romantic prospects to bed then ejecting them again, rather than just not inviting them.
- As is sometimes said, it probably isn't to women's advantage that colleges are very female now. But it doesn't even seem cearly to men's medium term advantage, if the women come out jaded and thinking of men as basically beasts.
- It seems like eventually the college girls would learn to say things like "I want a romantic relationship, not a one night stand" and hold out against the "why's" with their experiences of disappointment? It doesn't seem like most of them care all that much for the sex in and of itself, or are all that carried away in the moment aside from the effects of intoxicants they're choosing to take.
Quantumfreakonomics
1hr ago
No one thing Sam Altman has done sticks out as evil. You have to have followed events for some time in order to get a feel for the pattern. I get SBF vibes from him. He does seem cleverer and more well-adjusted than SBF, but fundamentally he is making the same kind of gamble. Sam Altman thinks that there is a non-negligible probability that AGI will destroy the world, but he is building it anyway.
atelier
Jimmys: unrustled
1hr ago
Which is great for about the top 2 standard deviations but leaves the other 95% of the people drifting with far too few navigational aids.
non_radical_centrist
1hr ago
I'm not at all convinced that that "pair bonding" is a super significant phenomenon. I think it's quite likely that instead those stats reflect that women who want varied sex will have multiple partners before marriage, and then will also desire varied partners after getting married, leading to her divorcing or leading to her cheating which leads to divorcing. Especially since a lot of women who don't have sex before marriage come from cultures where divorce is socially unacceptable.
What would be more convincing is instead of stats about divorce, since that's distorted by women who're socially unable to divorce even if they'd want to, is stats on how much women who haven't had previous partners like their spouse.
Speaking for myself, I didn't see any point to dating in high school or college, because I always knew that I would move states afterwards and didn't want to have to breakup. In college my Mom would tell me that I could be a little less practical.
Now that it's been 10 years I realize that the whole point of my Ivy league education was to meet people and that dating would have been a better use of my time than doing my homework. But at the time I didn't understand.
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