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oats_son
1d ago
If kids were tattoos, sure! Instead, parents are generally viewed well by everyone except antinatalists, and responsibly having kids in a healthy marriage has got to be a good indicator of lack of criminality or impulsiveness. They also do a lot more than sit on you making a statement. People become parents by accident or they become parents for reasons other than signaling something. This provides pretty good cover for the people who are signaling something.
Getting more than one costly, expensive, loud, and permanent signal directly on your body, on the other hand, seems to correlate a lot with low impulse control and many other problems. Most of my arguments would not apply (as much) to a small, invisible tattoo, or a singular large one. I still would dislike them, though.
The_Nybbler
In the game of roller derby, women aren't just the opposing team; they're the ball.
1d ago
International law can require command authority all it wants; it can't make it actually exist. Hamas's leadership cannot surrender and retain command authority.
P-Necromancer
1d ago
Yeah, a real organization with rigid, non-democratic decision making processes can avoid this dynamic, at least so long as those processes hold. Japan's surrender in WWII is instructive, here: There was a cabal of officers who tried to prevent the surrender, but discipline held and they were rebuffed. The difference with amorphous groups is that there's just no one who can do the rebuffing; 'leaders' last only so long as the rest of the movement deigns to listen to them.
DradisPing
1d ago
Don't know your familiarity with coding, but Java isn't a good place to start.
Ok so coding is the part of this project I know, I'm just not super familiar with all of the Java tooling. Unfortunately Java is a necessity for Minecraft mods. The MCP interface stuff is in Python.
Getting a jar file with dependencies into a working Docker container was more of an adventure than I expected.
Do you mean Claude Code ?
Nope, Claude desktop is a thing with MCP support: https://claude.ai/download
Using an IDE with an open project to do things unrelated to that project seemed peculiar so I didn't go down that path. I tried out using the MCP in VSCode and it worked well, although the agent did try to re-write my MCP code when it couldn't initially connect. The downside to Claude desktop was that it didn't let me try other llms.
I wasn't aware of the VSCode support, so that's neat.
anon_
1d ago
First, on a normative level, this is why international law requires command authority. An armed force must be “under a command responsible for the conduct of its subordinates”. I'm sure I"m preaching to the choir here, but "We have constituted our armed forces to be incapable of X, therefore it isn't our fault if we don't do X" is a game theoretic self-own. It's invites the very conduct we seek to proscribe.
Second, I'm not sure that's right. Hamas is more than capable of butchering domestic opposition. They did it to the PLO, they can impose what they want at the tip of a bayonet and be obeyed. Perhaps though.
the_Culture_is_great
1d ago
they facilitate coexistence between different groups with divergent aesthetic values
Beyond just different groups, even just between individuals. Most people have a few preferences that are weird or non-conforming, even if they're otherwise very similar. It's just nicer to not sweat the little things in general, and I'd argue the vast majority of tattoos are in that category.
Nah, I agree with the others below: If you need to gamify something to enjoy it, then you don't actually enjoy it. It's like people who get gym memberships on January 2 with the goal of trying to lose that stubborn 20 pounds and finally "get into shape". But the goal is more important to them than the exercise, which they find sucks, and they have to force themself to get to the gym and quit by March. the fit people who go to the gym aren't there because they have exceptional self-discipline; they're there because they like going to the gym. It's not something they have to force themselves to do; it's something they look forward to doing. I'm an avid cyclist, and I regularly go on long rides on the weekend. But I'm not putting in 60 miles because I need to tick some box that says I have to do 60 miles today and maybe I get some kind of reward for doing it. I ride the 60 miles because that's the length that corresponds to the amount of time I want to spend riding. And if I get sick of it and turn back early I don't care, because I'm not trying to force myself to do anything, or unlocking any achievement.
I feel that this is a problem of box tickers and speed-runners in general, and especially in the outdoor scene. About a decade ago I was hiking on the Appalachian Trail in Massachusetts when I came across a through-hiker eating lunch at the saddle between two mountains. I told him I was surprised that he was so far north about a month before most hikers would get that far. He excitedly told me that there were people who had finished already. I continued up the mountain and was enjoying the panoramic view at the top when he passed me. He plowed forward without even looking at the scenery. What's the point of doing a hike like that if you aren't even going to stop at the summits? It was clear that he was eating at the saddle so he could carb load before the climb and make better time.
Years later I was hiking Mt. Harvard in Colorado when I came across a guy from Kansas City who was trying to hit all of the fourteeners in the state. We hiked together for a while until he decided that I wasn't moving fast enough for him, but he did talk about how his wife was very supportive of his mission. I never would consider a hobby something that required suport from my family unless it was some kind of obsession that kept me away, which it appeared to be for him. When we got to the top we ran across two guys who were hiking together. From the summit the trail continues across a ridge to another fourteener, Mt. Princeton. It was a clear, warm day, and while the trail looped back around to the trail we hike in on, it looked like a long, hot, sunburned, high-altitude slog. The guy from KC and one of the guys decided to do it, while me and the other guy hiked down to the parking lot together. The thing about it, though, was that the guy from KC was staying with a friend in Denver who was getting him into a show at Red Rocks. If he had hiked straight out to his car from Harvard it would have been about the average time you'd leave to get back to Denver and change before heading to the concert. The guy acted like he had to get back to the car by five if he wanted to make it and thought it was possible, but he was effectively skipping the show. And since there was no cell service there, he was leaving his friend high and dry. Skipping an activity to do something else is one thing, but the guy seemed so concerned about bagging an extra peak that he was willing to risk pissing of a friend who gave him free passes to a band he really liked.
Gaashk
1d ago
I may have underrepresented how much I tried getting into it, though it's been most of a decade. I bought and read a book (not sure which), had coffee with a neighbor who was a certified counselor and used it in her work, who also lent me a book, and put probably about 20 hours into it, with no results, just confusion. Meanwhile, MBTI people say things like "use your second function more," which is much more actionable.
GBRK
1d ago
So I just ate an automated 3-day reddit ban for saying we should bomb the tigrayan militants responsible for their genocidal strategy of raping and genitally mutilating women. I can't really complain about that: I was knowingly in violation of reddit's "no advocating violence" policy. I have been before, and I will be again, probably until I get permabanned, because sometimes violence is the solution. Thomas Aquinas will back me up there.
But what's interesting to me is the "automated" part. Now, I've faced my fair share of human disciplinary action before. Sometimes it's fair, sometimes its not. But either way, the humans involved are trying to advance some particular ideological goal. Maybe they blew up because Ii contradicted their policies. Maybe they developed a nearly autoimmune response to any kind of NSFW post becauseof prior calamities. (Looking at you, spacebattles mods.) Maybe they genuinely wanted to keep the local standard of discussion high. But reddit's automated system is clearly not designed for any of that. Rather, its most fundamental goal seems to be the impartial and universal enforcement of reddit's site-wide rules to the best of its capability.
I agree with yudkowsky on the point that an "aligned" AI should do what we tell it to do, not what is in some arbitrary sense "right." So I'm also not going to complain about how "cold and unfeeling AI can't understand justice." That would be missing the the forest for the trees. It's not that AI aren't capable of justice, it's that the reddit admins didn't want a just AI. They wanted, and made, a rule-following AI. And since humans created the rules, by their impartial enforcement we can understand what their underlying motivations actually are. That being, ensuring that reddit discussions are as anodyne and helpful as possible.
Well, really it's "make as much money as possible." But while AI are increasingly good at tactics-- at short tasks-- they're still very lacking at strategy. So reddit admins had to come up with the strategy of making anodyne discussions, which AI's could then implement tactically.
The obvious question is: "why?" To which the obvious response is, "advertisers." And that would be a pretty good guess, historically. Much of reddit's (and tumblr's, and facebook's, and pre-musk twitter's) policy changes have been as a result of advertisers. But for once, I think it's wrong. Reddit drama is at a low enough ebb that avoiding controversy doesn't seem like it should be much of a factor, and this simultaneously comes as a time where sites like X, bluesky, and TikTok are trying to energize audiences by tacitly encouraging more controversy and fighting.
Which brings me to my hypothesis: that reddit is trying to enhance its appeal for training AI.
Everyone knows that google (and bing, and duckduckgo, and yahoo) have turned to shit. But reddit has retained a reputation for being a place to find a wide variety of useful, helpful, text-based content. That makes it a very appealing corpus on which to train AI-- and they realized that ages ago, which lead to them doing stuff like creating a paid API. This automated moderation style isn't necessarily the best for user retention, or getting money through advertisement, but it serves to pre-clean the data companies can feed to AI. It's sort of an inverse RLHF. RLHF is humans trying to change what response strategies LLMs take by making tactical choices to encourage specific behaviors. Reddit moderation, meanwhile is encouraging humans to come up with strategic adaptations to the tactical enforcement of inoffensive, helpful content. And remember what I said about humans still being better at strategy? This should pay out massive dividends in how useful reddit is as training data.
Coda:
As my bans escalate, I'm probably going to be pushed off reddit. That's probably for the best; my addiction to that site has wasted way too much of my life. But given the stuff I enjoy about reddit specifically-- the discussions on wide-ranging topics-- I don't see replacing reddit with X, or TikTok, or even (exclusively) the motte. Instead, I'm probably going to have to give in and start joining discord voicechats. And that makes me a little sad. Discord is fine, but I can't help but notice that I'm going dow the same path that so many repressed 3rd worlders do and resorting to discussion on unsearcheable, ungovernable silos. For all the sins of social media, it really does-- or at least did serve as a modern public square. And I'll miss the idea (if not necessarily the reality) that the debates I participated in could be found, and heard, by a truly public audience.
Firstly, and probably the most important thing to say: I'm sorry. Both for you, and your daughter. That is a shitty situation to find yourself in.
I will preface this by saying that I'm not a child psychiatrist. I'm not any kind of psychiatrist at all, given that I'm still in early training. Caveat emptor, or perhaps caveat curator and you are best served by contacting one with the full set of credentials.
As magical as this all is, it's not like it's in her genes. A Western European did not evolve the need for an extract from an Asian plant in order to avoid running off the nearest cliff.
Were it that simple. The process by which humans impart their genes to their offspring, and by which genes then assemble a whole human being from very rudimentary code, is amazing, yet imperfect.
Even if you, and your husband's genes are immaculate, de novo mutations sneak in all the time. Or there might be recessive traits in hiding, which have evaded generations of selection against them only to strike seemingly out of the blue. In other words, bad things can happen to good people, or at least their blameless children. And then there's environmental factors.
Nobody evolved to need expensive chemotherapy medication for their aggressive childhood leukemia, but alas, it happens nonetheless. That line of thinking isn't productive, the question is what works.
In my case: Two of my grandparents, my father, and even my mother, were all top of their class in med school, and have the awards to prove it. Didn't stop my brother and I from having ADHD, and benefiting heavily from medication to help. My mother might have mild ADHD, but it's usually less bad in women, and it didn't really ruin her life.
(The genetics of ADHD are complicated, and not worth getting into right now. What's done is done, and your daughter's diagnosis fits the bill.)
First, I looked up supplements to calm a kid down. If most of her misbehavior is caused by improperly triggering her fear response, lets turn the dial down on that. I found L-Theanine and thought it looked interesting. Lots of people who take it say they don't notice anything - it's not a relaxant or a downer. But other people who take it say it makes them more resilient to downward spirals, which is what I'm looking for. It's pretty safe - you can take grams of it without ill effect. Doesn't build up in the system either.
Anecdotal evidence: I have ADHD. I drink green tea to curb the negative effects of my ADHD medication. I think it helps, a lot, but I've never taken refined l-theanine supplements. My optimism regarding l-theanine took a significant hit recently, but the more important question is:
Does it work? If the answer is yes, then don't change it. It's the opposite to that joke, where you tell the doctor that it hurts if you poke yourself somewhere, and they tell you not to do it.
Medicine is not nearly so deterministic, nor the human body not so, that we can predict in advance if certain substances will reliably cause/not cause certain effects. At most, we can give probabilistic answers.
If you think l-theanine helps.. Well, it's a safe chemical to ingest, even for children. It's not doing any harm, and is safer than most prescription anxiolytics. I would absolutely not prescribe her benzos, and I'd be scared to consider SSRIs.
The headaches are concerning though, and you're right to worry. While L-theanine is generally very safe, any substance that consistently causes side effects in a 7-year-old deserves scrutiny. It's possible she's getting rebound anxiety as it wears off, or there could be something else going on.
Now, the MTHFR rabbit hole. Oh boy. Here's what we know: MTHFR mutations are real and fairly common (about 40% of people have at least one copy). They do reduce the efficiency of folate metabolism. And yes, there does seem to be some correlation with ADHD and autism spectrum conditions, though the effect sizes are generally small and the mechanisms unclear.
But the Reddit methylation community you found... that's where things get genuinely scary. These people are essentially conducting chemistry experiments on themselves with minimal supervision, often at doses far above what you'd get from food or standard supplements. Some claim miraculous results, others end up with severe side effects. It's the supplement world's version of DIY hormone replacement therapy.
On PDA: You're right that it's not recognized in the US, and there are good reasons for skepticism. I've never encountered it even in the UK, but once again, I'm just a first year psychiatry resident, and there are many things I haven't encountered. The diagnostic criteria are frustratingly vague ("pathological demand avoidance" could describe half the children I know), and the proposed interventions often sound suspiciously like "never ask your child to do anything they don't want to do," which seems like it would create more problems than it solves. But - and this is important - sometimes unofficial diagnostic categories capture something real that the official ones miss. Before ADHD was widely recognized, plenty of kids were getting labeled as "lazy" or "defiant" when they had a genuine neurological difference. The fact that PDA isn't in the DSM doesn't mean the cluster of behaviors you're describing isn't real or treatable.
So what should you do?
First, the good news: you've found something (L-theanine) that helps your daughter function better, and you're being appropriately cautious about side effects. That's already more than many parents in your situation have managed.
For the longer term, I think the psychiatrist you found is worth consulting, despite the quack-adjacent discovery process. If she has an actual MD and hospital privileges, she's at least operating within some bounds of medical accountability. The worst case is you're out some consultation fees and get told your daughter is fine; the best case is you find someone who can help navigate this mess with proper medical supervision. Before going down the genetic testing route, though, consider getting basic nutritional bloodwork done - B12, folate, iron, vitamin D, maybe homocysteine if you're really curious about methylation. If there are obvious deficiencies, addressing those is straightforward and doesn't require diving into the methylation rabbit hole.
I'm personally tempted to consider stimulants, which I believe are appropriate even at that age group, given severe ADHD. Alas, I lack the confidence to make that recommendation, and my usual recourse, asking my bosses, doesn't work very well when it's on behalf of internet strangers.
Go see a child psychiatrist, preferably one with a penchant for learning or behavioral disorders. Maybe see two. Or three. Do what they say, and don't listen to anything I have to say beyond this very point.
I wish you, and her, all the best. ADHD sucks.
HMK2
1d ago
When I visited Boston in the summer of 2016, i was looking forward to doing some girl-watching at Revere Beach, accessible by the T.
Almost everyone there was Latino, though, and it looked like a rough neighborhood. I guess the area's white residents had long since abandoned the place for some beach you could only access by car.
the_Culture_is_great
1d ago
You just...you don't do that! That's your skin! It's not a piece of paper!
Those aren't actual reasons.
Do you want to look like the kind of person who gets tattoos?!
This very much depends on what kind of people around you have tattoos, and what kind of tattoos they are.
Getting a Bible verse tattooed on a discreet part of your body seems like the most innocuous kind of tattoo you could get,
Only if everyone around you is Christian. In my circles having a tattoo is whatever, but a religious tattoo is trashy
istinetz
1d ago
Tattoos are expensive and painful to get and permanent
Having children is expensive and painful and permanent. Does that mean that you consider having children to be antisocial/unaesthetic, by the same token?
2rafa
1d ago
It doesn’t apply to them. It only applies to those who convert to (and in practice openly proselytize) another, in reality another Abrahamic, religion.
NullHypothesis
1d ago
I agree with the general sentiment, yet I'm not sure how much room for nuance your argument with the other party had, since you haven't mentioned it.
Are all tattoos the same? Is a full body tattoo equivalent to a tiny flower on a wrist you could barely see? Perhaps you would consider all tattoos to be negative, but surely there would be varying levels of how much of a negative impact a tattoo could have on your perception of a person based on what that tattoo is and/or how large it is.
I find both sides taken to the extreme a bit absurd. If one were to think all tattoos are bad and/or reflect poorly on the person and all tattoos are superficial fashion choices - I would think someone defending either position would have to start granting exceptions or resorting to logical fallacies to maintain their position. It's possible neither side actually has this black and white position, but the post certainly gives off that impression.
Perhaps in your personal experience, every person you met with tattoos gives off the quality of the type of individual you don't want to associate with. While on the other hand, the person you were arguing with might have a lot of friends that have tattoos (or even have tattoos themselves), so they don't associate negativity with tattoos as much, if at all.
Personally, I think both sides of the argument you presented are pretty weak.
First and foremost, they're ugly and I don't like them
This does technically support your position of you personally finding tattoos distasteful but will do nothing to convince others of why they should find tattoos distasteful. Also, beauty is subjective. Is there not a single tattoo you could find any artistic quality in? If someone drew something that wasn't ugly on a piece of paper, what is it that makes it ugly once it's put on the human skin? You need to expand on this point.
Anyone who gets a tattoo is comfortable with associating themselves in this way
It's likely many younger people with tattoos aren't even considering that. Tattoos are becoming more common in the United States. This Pew survey from 2023 found 32% of Americans have a tattoo. That's 1/3 of Americans. 41% of people aged 18-29 and 46% of people aged 30-49 have at least one tattoo. That's a lot of people, and I highly doubt most of them are making the conscious decision that they are associating themselves with criminals or other undesirable groups. While there is still a social stigma with tattoos, it's largely gone now, at least amongst the newer generation.
Tattoos are expensive and painful to get and permanent
This doesn't seem to really support your argument in any way. Also, you can pay money to get tattoos removed. It's going to cost money and time but tattoos aren't as "permanent" as they used to be. You need to expand on this point more.
To me, it seems only your first two points seem to support why you dislike tattoos and only the 2nd point seems to support why tattoos should be considered distasteful.
Meanwhile, assuming you have summarized your opponent's position accurately and fairly, it does not address your points at all and takes on an easily disproven absurd position. Superficial fashion statement? As you pointed out, tattoos are expensive and time-consuming to get. Referring back to the Pew study from before, 69% of people who have a tattoo stated its purpose was to remember or honor someone or something and 47% to make a statement about something they believe in. That doesn't seem like superficial to me. Only 32% of people stated their tattoo was to improve their personal appearance, which would qualify as a superficial fashion statement. At best, your opponent's position would need to be mended to "some tattoos are superficial fashion statements."
Also, even if I did grant your opponent's position that tattoos are superficial fashion statements, there aren't any reasons provided to argue why it's wrong to judge people for superficial fashion statements. People make judgments based on superficial fashion statements all the time. Of course, your opponent isn't here and would likely be able to provide some reasons as to why that is wrong, but considering you didn't flesh out their argument, I'm just going to assume your conversation with them didn't progress much further.
I think it's perfectly reasonable to make on the spot judgments based on characteristics because you can't perform any actions without judgments, otherwise you're no different from a random number generating machine. At the same time, acknowledging that your judgments could be wrong, or being open to the possibility that your judgments are based on falsehoods, will make you a better person. I tend to find the "you can never judge someone based on x factor" crowd to usually be hypocrites that want to feel morally superior, but it doesn't mean their points are always without merit either.
What you should judge people by are the factors that are relevant for what you are judging them for.
gattsuru
1d ago
It's pretty common for works to only get localized to the West if they're popular enough to have a manga version, or sometimes only after they've had a successful anime release. I'll point to Kino's Journey as a particularly extreme example: it went directly from light novel in 2000 to anime in Japan in 2003, you could find it in the US anime in English in 2005ish, but the manga didn't start until 2010 and for stupid licensing reasons only the first volume was ever officially translated in 2006, and it was nearly impossible to find.
SubstantialFrivolity
I'm not even supposed to be here today
1d ago
Thanks, that helps a ton. It sounds like we don't really have anything directly comparable in the US, since our YA novels don't have illustrations (or they didn't back in the day, maybe they do now).
One notable feature of modern anime is that it often serves as essentially an advertisement for the manga or light novels rather than as a end in itself, so you get one or two cours and then nothing, because there is no point in promoting a print series that has already ended. C'est la vie.
Yeah I have seen series which don't bother to adapt the entirety of the source material, which can be frustrating when it leaves the story unfinished or rushes the ending. Maoyu was one I saw that was like that - good premise, fun characters, but it managed to feel both rushed and unfinished. My understanding is that the manga was better, but they didn't adapt the whole thing.
ToaKraka
Dislikes you
1d ago
IIRC, a while ago I read a court opinion where a person was severely injured by a snowplow truck that slid through an intersection like that. (I unfortunately do not have the link on hand.)
SubstantialFrivolity
I'm not even supposed to be here today
1d ago
I've been in a similar situation (though no accident thankfully), and like you it taught me the importance of discerning whether you can safely stop at the yellow. It was when I was still in Wisconsin, and like in your example the roads were icy. I tried to brake for the yellow far too late, but instead I just slid through the intersection. Thankfully there wasn't any cross traffic to hit me due to my mistake, though my passenger (my boss at the time) did scold me for trying to stop so late when I should've known it was unsafe to do that in winter.
MaiqTheTrue
Renrijra Krin
1d ago
To be honest I don’t have a good answer for that. Obviously they need a country of their own, but I don’t think it can be in the Levant simply because the land area is too small (it’s the size of New Jersey) and the two sides have so little trust and so much homicidal anger that peaceful sharing whether one state or two isn’t going to happen.
celluloid_dream
1d ago
I'm not sure what you mean about having "zero use cases beyond potential future receptionists". They are already assisting with real tech work in my office. An easy script that might take me half an hour to an hour now takes seconds, with maybe a minute or two to confirm it's correct. They are incredibly good at debugging, sorting out random systems issues, and such. The sort of thing that would cost me a whole morning of frustration more or less gets one-shot by dumping some logs into the LLM and asking it what's up. These queries cost pennies in compute. From my perspective, they have already replaced a junior developer, junior sysadmin, personal assistant, etc.
and this is the worst they will ever be. How can that be terrible financially?
ThisIsSin
Liberty has an anti-privilege bias
1d ago
just a sort of 'what am I doing here'
Finish Episode 3. Don't lose your head.
FlyingLionWithABook
Has a C. S. Lewis quote for that.
1d ago
I've only ever been in one accident, and it was because I stopped at the yellow when I shouldn't have.
It was the middle of winter, and the roads were very icy. I was late noticing the yellow, and I slammed on the brakes. I was able to just barely stop before entering the intersection: but the person behind me was not so lucky, and rear ended me. Technically she was at fault, but I know it was my bad. You can't expect someone to stop that fast on slippery roads, I should have just gone through.
As an avid mountain biker, I'm curious as to what you think was gamified about the whole experience. Most people who get into the sport start riding relatively easy trails and progress to harder ones as they get better, but the whole concept of difficulty is vague and not necessarily related to how fun a trail is to ride. What most people don't do is start off by taking lessons and sticking with it to "unlock" various achievements by passing certain thresholds. Easy trails can still be a blast for experienced riders, and a beginner can always walk anything he's uncomfortable with (most difficult trails are only truly difficult for relatively brief stretches). Most people, though, will be good enough in a year that they'll be able to ride whatever they want to, within reason, and the only thing that differentiates riders is speed, which isn't important if you aren't racing and which no one cares about on casual rides. Skills improvement usually just means getting faster by being able to navigate tricky sections better, like having the technique to navigate tight turns without slowing down too much or being able to find lines in rock gardens. The end result of developing these skills is that you end up finding certain kinds of trails more enjoyable, but it's a completely personal gain.
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