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If we assume all of that exists (which we have to, because, in this hypothetical, we're getting married) ... then how in the hell could the sex be bad?
Because the incentive/evopsych structures still dictate that sex is a job for women and a perk for men, and marrying someone where (for you) that isn't true but (for them) it is creates some interesting consequences. It's also not necessarily apparent, since the art of picking up women is delayed gratification, shelving the naked self-interest until after the contract is signed, and in dating (as a woman) you're evaluating whether or not the terms of the contract are acceptable.
One could, in my view reasonably, make the argument that there's only one way to find that out; especially when you notice that the entire traditionalist courting/dating/marriage structure is built around "job for women, perk for men". If you want to find someone who's a little more evolved than that, well...
and one of life's most insanely pleasurable activities.
Provided you care enough to be of that mindset. Many do not, and while being eager to have sex early might not necessarily be the best proxy to evaluate that, nobody's really come up with a better answer.
Pasha
Defend Kebab
4m ago
Jingyuan Yang (JY): 杨景媛 Mingtao Xiao (MX): 肖明韬 https://zh.wikipedia.org/zh-hant/武汉大学图书馆争议事件
I have never been on Chinese wikipedia and I must admit suddenly opening a Chinese webpage which is entirely text almost felt like something physically hit me in the face. So many boxes and sticks.
It is difficult to comment on this episode, especially since you drop the information that the guy supposedly wasn't actually touching himself but rubbing some eczema spots. In my personal experience mainland Chinese men (or at least international engineering student types I interacted with) have by far the worst personal hygiene or etiquette awareness I have ever seen in any group of people. But I also never heard or seen them act openly sexually creepy so I am struggling to even visualize this episode.
I must ask: I read about Korea (and heard about Taiwan from personal acquaintances) that in these countries there seems to exist some serious animosity between young men and women. Would you say the same applies to PRC as well?
The ICJ has a conveniently abbreviated press release that can be found on this page. tl;dr: The UK granted independence to Mauritius in 1968 only after purchasing from Mauritius indefinite ownership of the Chagos Islands and evicting those islands' inhabitants. This was not a proper execution of the UK's duty to decolonize Mauritius. The UK must give the islands back to Mauritius. (Resettlement of the former inhabitants is a separate issue.)
I was actually repeating what the little copy of the Dreaded Jim on my shoulder said (it looks like a tiny Foghorn Leghorn).
It’s unfortunate that a majority are now meeting in situations of initial anonymity (online + bars), which makes it hard for anyone to judge safety and makes performance utterly necessary. I wonder what the percentages look like in 2025.
Every time I look at that chart, it scares me.
birb_cromble
23m ago
I'm reading the Wikipedia on the Chagos Islands right now, and I'm a little confused as to why Mauritius wants the islands.
Does anyone here have any insight on that, or links on the history of these events where I could learn about it?
mrvanillasky
Indo Aryan Thot Leader
25m ago
No, I didn't hook up with a very large number but I did get girls to my bed. I don't look bad, my accent isn't super thick and even if these two things were true, I'd still have gotten decent results.
Yes, I realised that true fulfillment wasn't found in trying to have sex with random girls. It was a near enemy in that it's something I like and seek but it's not fulfilling the way spiritual practice and a life of intention is. However it should not be shunned.
My very first field report where I lost my virginity was linked on the subreddit, my despair is due to factors beyond just girls. I'm not an "alpha male" or whatever that means.
You hated the man you were, so you constructed the fantasy of an alpha male, a sexually successful man, to replace him. But the neuroticism, the angst, the self-doubt, the fear of a life unlived still haunts you to no lesser degree.
When I was out, I just acted like myself, if I'm on point and things go well, I can't relate to the bad that I do, even if it still exists, I never obfuscate things in my own head.
But again, I went out a lot so that plays a significant factor.
netstack
Texas is freedom land
40m ago
If those principles were enough to gracefully preempt censorship, we’d never have had the original Comstock Act. Puritanical book-bannings. Witch hunts for communists and anarchists. Acting as if our elders had it all figured out is the laziest sort of rose-tinted glasses.
I find myself curious. Are there any cases where your principles haven’t guided you to agree with whatever Fox News has most recently said?
sun_the_second
could survive a COD lobby and a gay furry discord server
41m ago
Well - getting a pair of boobs in front of you while you're still secluded at home is, as they say, a coup-complete problem.
But the point I'm trying to make is - you can't appeal to the dopamine-hacked, at least not without significantly sacrificing your own preferences and incentives. They have to realize the error of their ways and make efforts to fix them.
TIRM
43m ago
I work in an office building. There are a few open office sections with many employees in each one. At least two have pride flags. We design electronics and software for said electronics.
A local restraunt has outdoor seating with a pride banner wrapped around the barrier separating it from the public sidewalk. It must be hundreds of feet of the stuff. I met the owner and as best I can tell he isn't gay. The clientele are the regular mix of people in the area. Not a gay venue by any means. But inexplicably covered in pride.
sun_the_second
could survive a COD lobby and a gay furry discord server
47m ago
I'd assume a companionship service to go to a specific public location would be not much more expensive than a regular escort (which seems to be the original source of the euphemism). But maybe handholding is just too weird for modern whores.
self_made_human
Sajjano durjano bhūyāt, durjano badhyatāṃ sadā, baddho'nyān nibandhāyet
47m ago
Hmm.. The bidets in use in India, at least, aren't so fancy. It's basically like a hand-held shower, one where you can control the pressure/volume of the jet and target it to the right spot. I would presume that's probably more efficient than a pre-fixed jet.
Unless you're operating one in a place with very high pressure in the pipes, it shouldn't feel painful.
I say that next time you have an opportunity, look for one of those. I guess your best bet would be an Indian restaurant, probably the highest chances of having those about. Let as much drip off as it will, and if you're still not comfy, then gently dab with TP. I seem to get away without any TP at all, and trust me when I say I don't get Brazilian waxes done!
The_Nybbler
If you win the rat race you're still a rat. But you're also still a winner.
48m ago
The world has changed:
https://www.statista.com/chart/20822/way-of-meeting-partner-heterosexual-us-couples/
The_Nybbler
If you win the rat race you're still a rat. But you're also still a winner.
50m ago
If the slippery slope principle worked on guns, then banning military-grade weaponry would have resulted in banning all guns. But it hasn't.
They're still working on it. Maryland banned semi-automatic AR-15s, for instance, and many other states (including New Jersey of course) keep banning classes of guns.
Are you saying, "you lack empirical evidence" or "I have empirical evidence to the contrary."
There is no empirical evidence that "a gun-- and especially a small gun-- is worse that useless" in a any particular self-defense situation.
a country that only bans small, concealable weapons, most would-be robbers still have access to larger weapons and would go for those over the hassle of finding a black market and buying a perfect pistol. That would in turn shrink the size of the black market and make pistols even harder to acquire.
Or, this simply isn't true; it's a gun-banner just-so story. Or, worse, they cut down the long guns so they're concealable enough, and now you've got would-be robbers with more lethal weapons.
faceh
51m ago
I think guys like boobs enough to put down the phone if there's a real pair in front of them, at the very least.
Southkraut
The rain fell gentlier.
51m ago
That's quite true. And I think my pointing out that here's one for whom it's a complete dud isn't exactly a problem either.
Only in the uncharitable case; more charitably, the inevitability of motherhood as an inescapable consequence of sex forms exceptional leverage when arguing for the cultural aesthetic they want.
If they can (unnaturally) impose the former condition, the latter naturally follows- it's the same thing the abortionists are doing when they argue for their aesthetic.
"More sex, less baby death" is not a goal the anti-sex side or the pro-baby-death side can publicly profess, since the anti-sex side promises less baby death as a consequence of less sex[1], and the pro-baby-death side promises more baby death as a consequence of more sex[1].
[1] Well, I say 'sex' but it's more 'choice', as in, which faction gets to write the social rules about how women get to leverage sex as a meal ticket. The "celebrate my abortion" stance is consistent with this, as is the "life begins at conception" one (but requires a bunch of other social context to fully understand why, since this is more a piece of a larger system that adds up to leverage rather than bestows it by itself).
faceh
52m ago
Yeah. I can't say for sure how much of it is just my own perception, but the time of a single woman going out by herself to places where she might get noticed and approached seemed to be literally over.
Its always a girls' night thing, or she's with a group of friends for a specific event, or maybe its a date she pre-arranged on the apps.
TIRM
52m ago
But not every cultural reference needs to be explained. You understood his post, except for one reference tacked onto the end. And that's fine.
GBRK
1hr ago
I didn't spell it out, but it should be obvious. If it is appropriate to ban a class of weapons because they are the weapons with which "[m]ost crimes and accidents happen", then a successful ban on that class will result in another class becoming the weapons with which most crimes and accidents happen and are therefore OK to ban. Thus such a principle leads to banning all weapons.
If the slippery slope principle worked on guns, then banning military-grade weaponry would have resulted in banning all guns. But it hasn't. Because anyone who isn't a rabid partisan understands that it makes sense to ban particularly harmful types of weapons while allowing particularly useful kinds of weapons to remain in their owner's hands. My argument isn't fundamentally about banning weapons-- it's about rethinking which harms and uses are statistically greater.
The second part is not empirically true
Are you saying, "you lack empirical evidence" or "I have empirical evidence to the contrary." In the latter case, I want to see it. To pre-register, videos of good samaritans with guns won't convince me of anything, but some sort of statistical analysis pointing to a lower aggregate death rates for robbery + rape + murder victims would convince me. An analysis that only considers people who avoid getting murdered by having a gun wouldn't; due to the base rates of robberies + rapes vs murders, I suspect the reduced likelyhood of getting murdered in a murder would be far outweighed by an increased likelyhood to get murdered in a robbery or rape.
and walking around with an AR-15 all the time is simply inconvenient
Yes, that's part of what would overall reduce gun crimes. Sure, some criminals would still have pistols-- but far fewer, compared to now, because so much of the demand would be absorbed by other kinds of weapons. In a country that bans guns, if you're going to buy a guy anyway, it might as well be the best fit for the job, so black market suppliers have plenty of incentive to exist and offer the right kinds of weapons. In a country that only bans small, concealable weapons, most would-be robbers still have access to larger weapons and would go for those over the hassle of finding a black market and buying a perfect pistol. That would in turn shrink the size of the black market and make pistols even harder to acquire.
MaiqTheTrue
Renrijra Krin
1hr ago
More of a legal question than anything, but wouldn’t a recall be a tacit admission of guilt? It seems like it might well be, as you’d have to have an understanding of the mechanism that’s causing the failure so you can replace either the part or replace the gun with a completely different design that removes the offending mechanism.
quiet_NaN
1hr ago
Moses brought back "thou shalt not kill" from Mount Sinai, it had more exceptions to it than any rule stated so fundamentally should possibly have. It did not apply to people from other tribes -- killing the kids of enemy tribes was fine. It did not apply to people found guilty of any of the numerous crimes which were punished by stoning. Or being willing to sacrifice your kid if God gaslighted you into thinking that this is what he wanted. And don't even think about non-human persons.
hydroacetylene
1hr ago
You believe pro-life advocates see motherhood as a punishment?
I agree with everything you said and that's why I'm very much in favor of MAID
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