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birb_cromble
2d ago
I'm reading the Wikipedia on the Chagos Islands right now, and I'm a little confused as to why Mauritius wants the islands.
Does anyone here have any insight on that, or links on the history of these events where I could learn about it?
mrvanillasky
Indo Aryan Thot Leader
2d ago
No, I didn't hook up with a very large number but I did get girls to my bed. I don't look bad, my accent isn't super thick and even if these two things were true, I'd still have gotten decent results.
Yes, I realised that true fulfillment wasn't found in trying to have sex with random girls. It was a near enemy in that it's something I like and seek but it's not fulfilling the way spiritual practice and a life of intention is. However it should not be shunned.
My very first field report where I lost my virginity was linked on the subreddit, my despair is due to factors beyond just girls. I'm not an "alpha male" or whatever that means.
You hated the man you were, so you constructed the fantasy of an alpha male, a sexually successful man, to replace him. But the neuroticism, the angst, the self-doubt, the fear of a life unlived still haunts you to no lesser degree.
When I was out, I just acted like myself, if I'm on point and things go well, I can't relate to the bad that I do, even if it still exists, I never obfuscate things in my own head.
But again, I went out a lot so that plays a significant factor.
netstack
Texas is freedom land
2d ago
If those principles were enough to gracefully preempt censorship, we’d never have had the original Comstock Act. Puritanical book-bannings. Witch hunts for communists and anarchists. Acting as if our elders had it all figured out is the laziest sort of rose-tinted glasses.
I find myself curious. Are there any cases where your principles haven’t guided you to agree with whatever Fox News has most recently said?
sun_the_second
could survive a COD lobby and a gay furry discord server
2d ago
Well - getting a pair of boobs in front of you while you're still secluded at home is, as they say, a coup-complete problem.
But the point I'm trying to make is - you can't appeal to the dopamine-hacked, at least not without significantly sacrificing your own preferences and incentives. They have to realize the error of their ways and make efforts to fix them.
TIRM
2d ago
I work in an office building. There are a few open office sections with many employees in each one. At least two have pride flags. We design electronics and software for said electronics.
A local restraunt has outdoor seating with a pride banner wrapped around the barrier separating it from the public sidewalk. It must be hundreds of feet of the stuff. I met the owner and as best I can tell he isn't gay. The clientele are the regular mix of people in the area. Not a gay venue by any means. But inexplicably covered in pride.
sun_the_second
could survive a COD lobby and a gay furry discord server
2d ago
I'd assume a companionship service to go to a specific public location would be not much more expensive than a regular escort (which seems to be the original source of the euphemism). But maybe handholding is just too weird for modern whores.
self_made_human
Sajjano durjano bhūyāt, durjano badhyatāṃ sadā, baddho'nyān nibandhāyet
2d ago
Hmm.. The bidets in use in India, at least, aren't so fancy. It's basically like a hand-held shower, one where you can control the pressure/volume of the jet and target it to the right spot. I would presume that's probably more efficient than a pre-fixed jet.
Unless you're operating one in a place with very high pressure in the pipes, it shouldn't feel painful.
I say that next time you have an opportunity, look for one of those. I guess your best bet would be an Indian restaurant, probably the highest chances of having those about. Let as much drip off as it will, and if you're still not comfy, then gently dab with TP. I seem to get away without any TP at all, and trust me when I say I don't get Brazilian waxes done!
The_Nybbler
If you win the rat race you're still a rat. But you're also still a winner.
2d ago
The world has changed:
https://www.statista.com/chart/20822/way-of-meeting-partner-heterosexual-us-couples/
The_Nybbler
If you win the rat race you're still a rat. But you're also still a winner.
2d ago
If the slippery slope principle worked on guns, then banning military-grade weaponry would have resulted in banning all guns. But it hasn't.
They're still working on it. Maryland banned semi-automatic AR-15s, for instance, and many other states (including New Jersey of course) keep banning classes of guns.
Are you saying, "you lack empirical evidence" or "I have empirical evidence to the contrary."
There is no empirical evidence that "a gun-- and especially a small gun-- is worse that useless" in a any particular self-defense situation.
a country that only bans small, concealable weapons, most would-be robbers still have access to larger weapons and would go for those over the hassle of finding a black market and buying a perfect pistol. That would in turn shrink the size of the black market and make pistols even harder to acquire.
Or, this simply isn't true; it's a gun-banner just-so story. Or, worse, they cut down the long guns so they're concealable enough, and now you've got would-be robbers with more lethal weapons.
faceh
2d ago
I think guys like boobs enough to put down the phone if there's a real pair in front of them, at the very least.
Southkraut
The rain fell gentlier.
2d ago
That's quite true. And I think my pointing out that here's one for whom it's a complete dud isn't exactly a problem either.
Only in the uncharitable case; more charitably, the inevitability of motherhood as an inescapable consequence of sex forms exceptional leverage when arguing for the cultural aesthetic they want.
If they can (unnaturally) impose the former condition, the latter naturally follows- it's the same thing the abortionists are doing when they argue for their aesthetic.
"More sex, less baby death" is not a goal the anti-sex side or the pro-baby-death side can publicly profess, since the anti-sex side promises less baby death as a consequence of less sex[1], and the pro-baby-death side promises more baby death as a consequence of more sex[1].
[1] Well, I say 'sex' but it's more 'choice', as in, which faction gets to write the social rules about how women get to leverage sex as a meal ticket. The "celebrate my abortion" stance is consistent with this, as is the "life begins at conception" one (but requires a bunch of other social context to fully understand why, since this is more a piece of a larger system that adds up to leverage rather than bestows it by itself).
faceh
2d ago
Yeah. I can't say for sure how much of it is just my own perception, but the time of a single woman going out by herself to places where she might get noticed and approached seemed to be literally over.
Its always a girls' night thing, or she's with a group of friends for a specific event, or maybe its a date she pre-arranged on the apps.
TIRM
2d ago
But not every cultural reference needs to be explained. You understood his post, except for one reference tacked onto the end. And that's fine.
GBRK
2d ago
I didn't spell it out, but it should be obvious. If it is appropriate to ban a class of weapons because they are the weapons with which "[m]ost crimes and accidents happen", then a successful ban on that class will result in another class becoming the weapons with which most crimes and accidents happen and are therefore OK to ban. Thus such a principle leads to banning all weapons.
If the slippery slope principle worked on guns, then banning military-grade weaponry would have resulted in banning all guns. But it hasn't. Because anyone who isn't a rabid partisan understands that it makes sense to ban particularly harmful types of weapons while allowing particularly useful kinds of weapons to remain in their owner's hands. My argument isn't fundamentally about banning weapons-- it's about rethinking which harms and uses are statistically greater.
The second part is not empirically true
Are you saying, "you lack empirical evidence" or "I have empirical evidence to the contrary." In the latter case, I want to see it. To pre-register, videos of good samaritans with guns won't convince me of anything, but some sort of statistical analysis pointing to a lower aggregate death rates for robbery + rape + murder victims would convince me. An analysis that only considers people who avoid getting murdered by having a gun wouldn't; due to the base rates of robberies + rapes vs murders, I suspect the reduced likelyhood of getting murdered in a murder would be far outweighed by an increased likelyhood to get murdered in a robbery or rape.
and walking around with an AR-15 all the time is simply inconvenient
Yes, that's part of what would overall reduce gun crimes. Sure, some criminals would still have pistols-- but far fewer, compared to now, because so much of the demand would be absorbed by other kinds of weapons. In a country that bans guns, if you're going to buy a guy anyway, it might as well be the best fit for the job, so black market suppliers have plenty of incentive to exist and offer the right kinds of weapons. In a country that only bans small, concealable weapons, most would-be robbers still have access to larger weapons and would go for those over the hassle of finding a black market and buying a perfect pistol. That would in turn shrink the size of the black market and make pistols even harder to acquire.
MaiqTheTrue
Renrijra Krin
2d ago
More of a legal question than anything, but wouldn’t a recall be a tacit admission of guilt? It seems like it might well be, as you’d have to have an understanding of the mechanism that’s causing the failure so you can replace either the part or replace the gun with a completely different design that removes the offending mechanism.
quiet_NaN
2d ago
Moses brought back "thou shalt not kill" from Mount Sinai, it had more exceptions to it than any rule stated so fundamentally should possibly have. It did not apply to people from other tribes -- killing the kids of enemy tribes was fine. It did not apply to people found guilty of any of the numerous crimes which were punished by stoning. Or being willing to sacrifice your kid if God gaslighted you into thinking that this is what he wanted. And don't even think about non-human persons.
hydroacetylene
2d ago
You believe pro-life advocates see motherhood as a punishment?
Grant_us_eyes
2d ago
A girl with OF isn't going to hold my hand while we walk into Home Depot to pick out supplies for our weekend project.
...well, not unless I pay her an obscene amount of money.
Terracotta
2d ago
And maybe it's regional, but after HS I never once encountered a woman who wasn't "acting like that".
This feels so bizarrely foreign, because almost every married couple I know, myself included, built their early relationship in a way that closely matches @urquan's account. This happened mostly in college, but with a smattering of post-college relationships as well. Just a lot of average-looking, average-quality people hanging out and doing random social club things, shyly getting to know a similarly average-looking person and asking them to a play or movie or something, eventually getting serious then either breaking up or getting married and starting a family in a more-or-less dual-career household. Nobody "acted like that," that I'm aware of. No first-date hookups, negging, harems, nude pic demands, findom, tradwifery, false or true rape accusations. Very rarely any cheating, even. The guys were mostly respectful, earnest and nice, the women were mostly honest and friendly. Some of those marriages got worse over time, but many are still doing OK.
I would really love to know where all these apparently horrible young singles (of both sexes) come from. Are people trying to date way above their league and getting toyed with as a result? Did all the helicopter parenting just raise a generation of unpleasant narcissists who will never play well with others?
2rafa
2d ago
KLCC and the wealthier suburbs, like the gated communities around Putrajaya, are pretty unique. I think we discussed them before. Clearly the oil money is going to someone, but much of Malaysia is still pretty poor, and comparable with other parts of ASEAN that aren’t Singapore.
Also, even in KLCC there are pockets of low quality. Car-focused, walking very difficult, those meth / crack addicts on the pedestrian foot bridges just behind the big mall itself, still quite noticeable garbage on the street even sometimes. It’s just very clear it’s still a developing country, and of course plenty of developing countries have rich elites who like Chanel and Lamborghinis.
quiet_NaN
2d ago
Specifically, it would be nice if we could revoke its status as a "superweapon"; all too often, certain unsavory individuals will use "you're making me suicidal!" as an emotional manipulation tactic to immediately end all rational discussion and assert the priority of their own immediate desires.
Way ahead of you. If someone threaten to kill themselves to get something from me, I will happily call the cops and they will spend a night or two in an asylum. I have done it before. It is unlikely to restrict the patient's long-term autonomy, and will put an end to further blackmail attempts. (Not that I would stick around such a person, these days.)
OTOH, when someone were to tell me about suicide plans which are not conditional on my behavior, I would probably let them do it if I came to the conclusion that they had made up their mind.
quiet_NaN
2d ago
I think that for a typical liberal woman not looking to conceive, the preference order is:
- not get pregnant (using birth control)
- getting an abortion
- giving birth
So birth control is absolutely preventing abortions. It is also preventing some babies being born.
Of course, the pro-life crowd has largely not embraced birth control as a method to prevent abortions, which is telling. While I get that there are age-old Christian objections to abortions specifically, I think that a lot of the point of being pro-life is to want to punish women for a sinful lifestyle. "If you fuck around, you get punished by being a single mother."
BahRamYou
2d ago
I feel like I can do that, provided that she's sufficiently motivated to get off her butt and go out into the real world to meet people in meat-space. I also like to play with my phone when I'm sitting at the bar, but I'll put at away as soon as I meet anyone interesting to talk to. The real challenge is the women staying at home, using the phone as their sole means of communication... which is most women these days. I went to three bars tonight (fancy cocktail bars in a trendy neighborhood) and there was literally zero women there who weren't there as part of a date.
It’s unfortunate that a majority are now meeting in situations of initial anonymity (online + bars), which makes it hard for anyone to judge safety and makes performance utterly necessary. I wonder what the percentages look like in 2025.
Every time I look at that chart, it scares me.
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