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Culture War Roundup for the week of August 11, 2025

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One possible solution I've been considering recently is forcibly marrying and then if that doesn't work, castrating these men. Of course I would like women to shape up too, but that seems like a tall ask.

The thing is, the top 20% of these men that don't get married are frankly throwing a lot of their life and use to society out the window by continuing to live the lifestyle of a Lothario. Not only does stringing 2-4 women a long at a time embitter those women and make it more difficult for them to stably pair bond, the sheer amount of time that it takes to juggle these relationships impacts your ability to do work, have friends, take care of yourself, and generally contribute to society. These men are also ruining their own ability to pair bond by engaging in this lifestyle. Consider two examples. One of my current roommates, let's call him James, has lived like a Lothario almost the entire time I've known him. Long term "girlfriend" back in California who he constantly cheats on with a rotation of 2-3 women here in Baltimore. Some of my resentment towards him is certainly jealousy (he has recently been fucking a girl I went on a date with and mildly liked), but it's hard not to see how this behavior is ruining his life. When I first met this guy he was deeply interested in history and biology and in pretty good shape. Now he doesn't do anything except scroll on instagram, watch retarded kids TV shows, and have sex with these women. He also recently got his PhD, but with ZERO publications, despite being in a computational biology lab where the expectation is 3-4 papers by graduation. This guy is smart and should be contributing to society, but instead is mooching off the NIH tit and ruining women. The other example is my friend Saul, who used to live this kind of lifestyle, until he started dating this girl Deborah. They got married last year, and since then his efforts around the house, at work, with friends, and with his art projects have skyrocketed because all that time he was spending at bars and on tinder is now going into his actual life.

One possible solution I've been considering recently is forcibly marrying and then if that doesn't work, castrating these men... One of my current roommates, let's call him James, has lived like a Lothario almost the entire time I've known him. Long term "girlfriend" back in California who he constantly cheats on with a rotation of 2-3 women here in Baltimore. Some of my resentment towards him is certainly jealousy (he has recently been fucking a girl I went on a date with and mildly liked), but it's hard not to see how this behavior is ruining his life. When I first met this guy he was deeply interested in history and biology and in pretty good shape. Now he doesn't do anything except scroll on instagram, watch retarded kids TV shows, and have sex with these women. He also recently got his PhD, but with ZERO publications, despite being in a computational biology lab where the expectation is 3-4 papers by graduation. This guy is smart and should be contributing to society, but instead is mooching off the NIH tit and ruining women.

The whole point of pursuing money and status through your career is to gain access to women. If you can cut out the middleman, why not? What's a job other than working 40 hours a week to make your bosses richer?

Hate the game, not the player. The problem is that society allows James to get access to women without contributing his fair share. The only way to stop this is to prevent the women from going to James by force, and that we are not willing to do.

You fantasize about castrating James because you are not allowed to fantasize about locking up the girl you dated.

Was waiting for you to show up. I wrote about emancipation being the problem here, not his natural roommate, although violence and scorn agaisnt men is justified but questioning the need for emancipation is where most draw the line.

I agree with Jim on a lot, his perspective isn't complete or total, still much better than most.

The other point of going to work is to have money, and potentially social status. People like the things money brings. As the old saw goes, a woman makes a house better- but it still beats a cardboard box under a bridge.

The whole point of pursuing money and status through your career is to gain access to women. If you can cut out the middleman, why not? What's a job other than working 40 hours a week to make your bosses richer?

So why do straight women and gay men have careers then?

The whole point of pursuing money and status through your career is to gain access to women. If you can cut out the middle man, why not? What's a job other than working 40 hours a week to make your bosses richer?

Actually, the point is to have the money to buy sports cars, rolexes, guns, night vision goggles, Japanese wagyu steaks, RTX graphics cards, etc. And no, there aint a bitch in the world who gives a single damn that you have those things. Those are boy toys.

And if you have game you can get laid all you want with hot women without any of those things. If you have the money for a normal apartment, Toyota Corolla, and decent clothes at the outlet mall, the rest is 100% on you having game. (Unless of course you're filthy filthy rich and don't mind gold diggers.)

Boats, nice cars etc can absolutely bring the ladies.

They can act as a multiplier for someone who already has game but really isn't a method with high returns.

The whole point of pursuing money and status through your career is to gain access to women. If you can cut out the middle man, why not? What's a job other than working 40 hours a week to make your bosses richer?

I got laid plenty before I had any serious money or status. The main reason why I pursue money and status now is so that I can stop working and enjoy life in many dimensions, only one of which is women.

Hate the game, not the player. The problem is that society allows James to get access to women without contributing his fair share.

I don't consider that to be a problem.

You fantasize about castrating James because you are not allowed to fantasize about locking up the girl you dated.

Sure he is, who would stop him about fantasizing about it? Even if we mean "fantasize about it openly", I don't think that the average person would be much less disturbed, if at all, about hearing someone say "I want to castrate a man because he is getting laid without contributing to society" than about hearing someone say "I want to lock up women so they don't have sex with men who do not contribute to society".

No, the second would be way, way more offensive.

‘Fuckbois who lead women on should get their dick chopped off’ will make people laugh or grimace depending on how you say it, but ‘women should be kept chaste for marriage’ will get you labelled as an misogynist and people will vanish at the speed of light.

I think this a rather cynical way at looking at the point of a career or society in general is. There are many other goods and services that I enjoy in society other than WAP because people have been driven to excel at their careers. Women are one lever, but we also used to have other levers (empire, community, religion) that we have systematically dismantled.

There's also a lot more to life than women. As @faceh has explained many times, he's very happy with his life outside of the romantic sphere. I would count myself in the same boat. I like my job (mostly), I have intellectually fulfilling hobbies, I'm very fit, I have a pretty good platonic community where I live. James has none of this stuff and all the women. I frankly would not trade places with him.

Pair bonding is not a thing for guys. It's the fault of men, but not the ones getting laid, the fault lies in female emancipation, as long as that exists, we will have these outcomes.

Also guys who get laid a lot are not the ones you would want killed, they have better abilities to ensure cooperation among men. Unless you want Africa, better to work on getting workarounds for emancipation.

I was cucked live here on this forum in 2021, I was able to do a total 180, people on a personal leave acn be redeemed dating wise, very easily. Being jealous is why you'll never do well with girls, true abundance is not caring. Get a good pua resource, I recommend the book of yareally. People are laughing at you because the posts subcomms simply reek insecurity, your entire issue is you not getting laid, fix that instead of blaming the world.

There are people who waste time with girls but then there are those who do the same by being online or writing on forums or making substacks. I like meeting new women, it's a fun activity and I'll never let it eat away at my life.

Pair bonding is not a thing for guys.

That’s… definitely not true. Just because you have never been in love before doesn’t mean other men haven’t.

I can always replicate it, having hoes around doesn't make you not love your family. We all are capable of attachment If we fuck anyone hot for enough times regularly, though this applies to girls a ton more than guys. Her sleeping with you once a week guarantees her falling in love as long as you are decent.

Pair bonding is not a thing for guys.

I often doubt if I have anything of value to his not subreddit except anecdotes, but, hey, I believe I have a worthwhile anecdote.

"Pair bonding is not a thing for guys" is one of the takes that just too alien to any and all life experience that I had. Majority of males that I know clearly had have a pair-bonding going on. Everyone I know of who I have had the opportunity to observe closely enough (mostly, extended family) and had a serious long-term relationship and the relationship ended were evidently emotionally confused and miserable for quite some time afterwards. No everyone was dramatically devastated, but given the aftereffects after the bond broke, it is simply implausible to argue the guy had not emotionally pair-bonded, unless the words are twisted beyond their meaning.

I have fallen romantically in love exactly enough times to recognize that yes, I am capable of pair bonding.

Sure, I guess there are guys who don't pair-bond. I hear about them and I sort-of know of such people, but not very well, never got to know them. Wouldn't be surprised they are over represented in redpill. Perhaps it is one of those correlations where "like attracts like", or maybe it is actively causal, enough of PUA kills one part of the male mind which is capable of romantic notions. Am not surprised at all they are underrepresented in a convenience sample of "middle aged men who had a family and/or widowed pensioners (and relatives with offspring who could observe them)", PUA doesn't seem big on family-formation.

It's qualitatively different than stereotypical female-coded pair-bonding, true. It does not follow immediately from sex act. I suspect without traditional Western cultural constraints, many men could imagine themselves with a wife and a long-term mistress or two, with romantic pair-bond going on in different stages, and some concubines without any real feeling. Yet, the reality is that the WEIRD Western liberal city-dwelling places have officially dismissed the traditional Western cultural constraints and embraced non-monogamy ex cathedra,but I am not be surprised either that surprisingly few men are capable of acting on such fantasies, in particular if the guy has ancestry from the European part behind the Hajnal line.

Sometimes I wonder if the received wisdom about stereotypical female pair-bonding is wrong, too. It certainly can't be any hard rule, there are far too many women who seem to be totally on board with the promiscuity project or becoming party who jumps ship and initiates actions that make the serial monogamy serial. Middle aged women seem to have as good or better chances of successfully bouncing back from their divorces.

Where is your source that pair bonding is not a thing in men?

I don't know man. Most Lotharios I know would be better off out of the gene pool. There are many men in the top 10% of attractiveness who do not behave like James. I'm not saying we need a world filled with beta office drones, but society would be better if we had more men who could "think of England".

Yes that's why marriage is an option before castration. If Lothario stops behaving like Lothario there is no problem. Have you really pulled a 180 dude? You kind of seem to be in the exact same situation (unsatisified with your academic performance, lusting after women but not actually closing the deal).

Look there's nothing wrong with meeting and talking to women. I'll even grant that there's nothing wrong with sleeping around (a stretch in my book), as long as you are honest with your intentions. The problem is creating an impression of commitment when you have not intention of doing so. This is lying and manipulation and is bad. Now the girl is usually not innocent here either: she usually is lying to herself and very easily could clarify the position of the man in question.

My guy, I come from a line where every man before my grandad, thousands, had harems with hundreds of girls, and I intend to at least have a soft one going asap, once my sabbatical is finished and I move out due to good monetary remuneration.

Also women, and this is gonna blow your mind, deep down, they know the truth. Julian from RSD was one of the best puas ever, his calling card was drama, he would start fights with girls, make them cry, make them angry, and then make them laugh, it works like Crack.

Yes that's why marriage is an option before castration. If Lothario stops behaving like Lothario there is no problem. Have you really pulled a 180 dude? You kind of seem to be in the exact same situation (unsatisified with your academic performance, lusting after women but not actually closing the deal

I have had sex since then and had pretty fun stories when I was in Thailand, these were euro tourists, some were fairly attractive. Yes I'm dissatisfied but I'm doing much better, I can actually write code that's not basic loops, I finally finished math that had scared me shirtless for a decade and had spiritual experiences that I wouldn't have believed could be possible had they not happened. For context, I was a virgin when I mad that post and had never even held hands. I was specifically talking about female issues with the 180, though I'm doing better otherwise.

I lost my oneitis because I went out, a lot. I remember meeting this English girl who sat on my face during a forest rave and asked me to eat her out in the rice paddy after we did nitrous. She saw some thai married lady touching me inappropriately (with full permission of her cuck husband) and swooped in. Me in 2021 was obsessed with a now slightly chubby functional patty drug connoisseur who I hadn't met and still have not met, though that's because I stopped talking.

My life is far from ideal, I had fucked up a lot and am still paying for it, but waking up to a bad situation and fixing it is the first step. Women are easy for me now, I don't post about them because they don't bother me. Being temporarily celibate was my idea since I don't find the girls in my hometown attractive. Though I can get my dick wet in 20 minutes. Did I fuck all the women I met, or approached, no, but am I the same guy, certainly not.

Where is your source that pair bonding is not a thing in men?

Zero of my ancestors or any I know ever felt "love" for their courtesans. Romantic love is a bs trope of modernity anyway, doesn't mean that we don't have feelings.

but society would be better if we had more men who could "think of England".

This is noble and correct, I agree but I'll play devils advocate, why should anyone who can despite the hellhole modern life, modern English life for a normie white guy is, care for England? There's zero support for such people, here's a fun game about it https://nicksim.alexcj.co.uk/

My ancestors cared deeply about the civilization they were a part of, I exist for that reason. Take this as personal advice, not being a dick, you should pickup the book of yareally and git gud. You're obviously a smart enough guy, it's not right for you to suffer this way.

Women select men who are reproductively fit, we should not ever want them offed, there are other metrics besides iq that have served us well. Get off of dating apps, hit the nearest nightclub and if you succeed, you'll sound the way me or @faceh or those who did way more with way hotter girls than any of us.

I think we have different ideas of romantic success. Hook ups are not appealing to me. I'm happy that you've managed to overcome whatever sexual hang ups you had in 2021, but going out to clubs and fucking random tourists far from home is not appealing to me and does not constitute my idea of success. I'm sure I could learn a lesson or two from doing it and from your experience, you're probably not wrong.

I'm off the dating apps as of a few weeks ago. Nightclubs aren't really an option: my training schedule means I'm often running 20+ early on weekend mornings. Perhaps I really shouldn't be complaining, as I've kind of put myself into a box of the kind of life I want to live, but nightclub girls ain't it for me.

The girl in question from you nation had bought herself a house by her age and grew up with an alcoholic father who passed away. Nightclubs attract plenty of cokesluts, it also attracts plenty of not explicit party animals.

I had to do tourists since I don't like Asians, I stopped once I came back because the women here are not as hot.

if you succeed, you'll sound the way me or @faceh or those who did way more with way hotter girls than any of us.

That's not very appealing. As highlighted in comments such as this, even you yourself don't sound happy with it.

Won't disagree with this sentiment. You need to get at least one girl in your bed by definition to have any hopes of having a girlfriend or a wife. Having enough experience allows you to find the right woman to hitch and keep her attracted to you, the game you learn and practice becomes a part of you. Your baseline changes which allows for attraction to remain there, reducing the chances of cheating.

Get off of dating apps, hit the nearest nightclub and if you succeed, you'll sound the way me or @faceh or those who did way more with way hotter girls than any of us.

Personally I'd say skip the nightclub and hit the best Martial Arts gym you can find in a 10 mile radius.

No, do both lol. Mma did not help me at all, still an amazing hobby, being unfuckwithable helps a ton.

Don't send a guy into a nightclub without either knowing how to dance or knowing how to throw down if someone pushes him around. Preferably both.

Definitely both lol. I need to restart mma stuff soon.

One possible solution I've been considering recently is forcibly marrying and then if that doesn't working, castrating these men. Of course I would like women to shape up too, but that seems like a tall ask.

I’ve been inwardly giggling at you and @faceh’s recent comments matter-of-factly talking about castrating or even executing “Lothario” men.

Like the state of affairs is so bleak, the cultural inertia too powerful to reverse, that such a practice is more realistic and further within the Overton window than marginally but directly limiting or inconveniencing the FUN or freedom of young women in some way to increase the protections afforded them.

Some of my resentment towards him is certainly jealousy (he has recently been fucking a girl I went on a date with and mildly liked)

lmao, epic roommate-mogging.

Do you have to listen to her moaning when he’s taking her to poundtown in your apartment? If I had a roommate, I’d be looking into lease-breaking options before subjecting myself to potentially seeing a crush, even a mild one, walk into a roommate’s room—much less listening to her moaning when it’s her turn out of his soft harem to get railed, at which point the recently discussed option of assisted suicide would rise in temptation.

Maybe he could kindly grab a PoV cellphone sex tape with her for you. It might break her spell on you, cure your crush on her, for you to see her Wonderfulness get defiled. On the other hand, it could also skyrocket your seethe and jealousy.

When I first met this guy he was deeply interested in history and biology and in pretty good shape.

Well, he’s laying pipe left and right, so it sounds like he’s still in decent enough shape. The market speaks. What better judge of shape than what’s deemed sufficient by various young women to dick them down?

Now he doesn't do anything except scroll on instagram, watch retarded kids TV shows, and have sex with these women.

That’s disgusting: scrolling on Instagram, watching TV shows, and having sex with various women. How does he meet these women and how does he seduce them? Just so I know how to avoid such a lifestyle.

He also recently got his PhD, but with ZERO publications, despite being in a computational biology lab where the expectation is 3-4 papers by graduation. This guy is smart and should be contributing to society, but instead is mooching off the NIH tit

“What do you call someone who gets his PhD with zero publications?”

“Doctor.”

If he’s not intending to go into academia or pursue one of the rare industry jobs that cares about such a thing, publication grinding is a poor use of time. If he indeed is intending to do so, the only real victim of his lack of publication record would be himself.

If he’s “mooching” off the NIH, to the extent this is an injustice, the fault primarily lies with his PI and/or dissertation committee for letting him coast his way to a PhD. Otherwise, I disagree he has some unilateral duty to Contribute to society based on some nebulous Social Contract, a duty rarely demanded of women or non-Asian minorities.

Expecting him to labcuck and publication grind Just Because instead of chilling out and slinging dick would sound like Calvin’s dad and “misery breeds character” to me.

You should invite James here. Would be entertaining to hear things from the perspective of jdizzler’s rizzler roommate.

ETA:

I was mentally formulating a response to @mrvanillasky's reply along these lines with a tag to @thejdizzler, but given @FCfromSSC's reply this is combined with the follow-up to that too.

I did not intend to insult nor antagonize @thejdizzler with the portion @FCfromSSC quoted, nor any of my original comment. The opposite, actually: I was expressing to @thejdizzler the sense of horror and hilarity I got from the situation like I would have if a close real-life, similarly-aged male friend recounted me such a tale. Perhaps I was in an overly jovial mood from the comments about castrating/executing "Lothario" men,* for the reason described in "like the state of affairs is so bleak..." But then again, one's crush signing up to be on a Lothario roommate's roster of fucktoys—what is this, if not a plotline out of some dark comedy?

I was not trying to "teach a lesson", nor was I (on the other side of the coin) trying to provide @thejdizzler guidance, gentle or otherwise. As at least for the immediate situation at hand, I didn't have anything in mind to be taught or guided beyond the generic "just live solo," which is a common suggestion of mine, especially to young men having anything less than a blast of a time living with (a) roommate(s). Or "just don't have crushes on chicks who are potential soft harem members for other guys," which might not be all-too-actionable advice.

Conditional on having-Lothario-roommate-casually-piping-down-your-crush, @thejdizzler's tolerating the situation with better chillness than I likely would, hence my partially joking comment that such a scenario would make me feel more tempted by assisted suicide on the margin.

* If I wanted to object to such proposals I would have (time/energy permitting), but I didn't—the proposal(s) of castrating/executing "Lotharios" strikes me as mostly amusing and fanciful. The thing I did want to provide a friendly objection for was something more grounded, the notion of a unilateral duty to "contribut[e] to society," and/or an obligation to for some reason having to go above and beyond in completing one's PhD (or any degree, for that matter). This was unrelated to the section @FCfromSSC quoted.

This is maybe the funniest comment I've seen in all my years on SSC/CWR/Motte

Do not use edits to argue with a banning. You may send us modmail if you want to plead your case, but normally post-ban edits like this are grounds for a permaban.

I concur with @FCfromSSC that regardless of how you "intended" it, this post was clearly a direct attack on @thejdizzler, and it did not strike me (nor him, apparently) as good-natured at all.

One possible solution I've been considering recently is forcibly marrying and then if that doesn't working, castrating these men. Of course I would like women to shape up too, but that seems like a tall ask.

I’ve been inwardly giggling at you and @faceh’s recent comments matter-of-factly talking about castrating or even executing “Lothario” men.

Like the state of affairs is so bleak, the cultural inertia too powerful to reverse, that such a practice is more realistic and further within the Overton window than marginally but directly limiting or inconveniencing the FUN or freedom of young women in some way to increase the protections afforded them.

Indeed. The wars of the sexes, and the resulting fertility collapse, have gotten so bad that people are willing to resort to literally anything to fix them: killing womanizers, paying women to birth orphans, anything at all...

...except the one thing that we know works, and that kept civilization running for the past 5,000 years. De-emancipate women? Never! Better to go extinct.

If it worked, it would still persist. Clearly it does not work now. You go on and on with intellectual historical arguments in favor of de-emancipation, yet those are not enough because there is no more hard physical dependency of women on male physical labor. Inb4 "what if all male power plant workers quit": they won't. The dependency of society on strictly male labor has grown too abstract to leverage or to bellyfeel.

Given that civilization ran in the same ways for 5 thousand years, you should expect whatever broke the cycle to be a pretty fucking good reason to break it. You act like it was just a whim, a momentary lapse of men to free women and if they just Rise Up and Retvrn, the toothpaste can be put back in the tube.

I expect the societies that do not go full Amish to crush the ones that do before the latter can outbreed the former, or in spite of it. As to what happens to them later, maybe they will start killing womanizers or otherwise solve the equation of the sexes infavorably to men. No one said that personal physical strength and long distribution tails is going to be king forever. I do not expect the intellectual desire to not go extinct to be sufficient to revert all existing societies to Amish mode.

That’s disgusting: scrolling on Instagram, watching TV shows, and having sex with various women. How does he meet these women and how does he seduce them? Just so I know how to avoid such a lifestyle.

Any app can be a dating app, Instagram included.

Instagram is a dating app, it offers hotter girls with stiffer competition. I nuked social media because I'd spend a lot of time getting girls there to text me stuff, nudes and all, that place is a dating app.

Thank you for your service, keeping me inside the overton window.

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lmao, epic roommate-mogging.

Do you have to listen to her moaning when he’s taking her to poundtown in your apartment? If I had a roommate, I’d be looking into lease-breaking options before subjecting myself to potentially seeing a crush, even a mild one, walk into a roommate’s room—much less listening to her moaning when it’s her turn out of his soft harem to get railed, at which point the recently discussed option of assisted suicide would rise in temptation.

Maybe he could kindly grab a PoV cellphone sex tape with her for you. It might break her spell on you, cure your crush on her, for you to see her Wonderfulness get defiled. On the other hand, it could also skyrocket your seethe and jealousy.

My assessment is that you are intentionally aiming to be as inflammatory as possible to another commenter with the above, perhaps in an attempt to "teach a lesson" to someone you disagree with. Your post appears to me to be well outside the sort of discussion we aim to foster here.

Your record is four warnings and three AAQCs, and no warnings this year and the last two notes being AAQCs. If this were the usual line-toeing, you would get a warning, but as it stands you are getting a three-day ban. Your record shows that you have a fairly good understanding of where the line is, so I am not buying the scenario where the above is anything other than a willful choice. If you decide to make a habit of this sort of comment, you can expect further bans to escalate rapidly.

My assessment is that you are intentionally aiming to be as inflammatory as possible to another commenter with the above, perhaps in an attempt to "teach a lesson" to someone you disagree with.

??? I think it's because Sloot didn't want to be castrated, or be 'erased from the gene pool' for the crime of not living up to his full potential or fucking girls @thejdizzler pines for. Which aside from being petty and mean is quite a hardline policy, let's face it.

If Sloot or anyone else wishes to object to the policy of castrating or killing "Lotharios", they are as free to make their case as those in favor. I think the ludicrous nature of such a policy is sufficiently evident that arguing against it is a waste of my time; others who judge differently are free to discuss as they will. We allow people to make foolish and even insane arguments here, because we are not interested in accepting responsibility for policing which ideas/positions/ideologies are good and which are not.

What we do not allow is commenters using their posts to directly attack each other, or wind each other up. It seems obvious to me that this is what @Sloot did, and doing so is a violation of several rules here.

It's also worth pointing out that the interpretation of the rules that I am applying here is the reason @Sloot has not himself been banned up to this point. He routinely makes comments that could be described as "petty" and "mean", as well as "advocating hardline policies". He usually does so from behind a level of abstraction similar to that employed by @thejdizzler above, which helps a great deal to keep him on the right side of the line.

It sounded to me like you thought sloot's inflammatory tone came out of nowhere. But it was the equivalent of an inflammatory response by a woman to a 'misogynistic' policy someone here might propose.

Sloot talks like this all the time. If he felt particularly threatened or incensed by the castration comment, it did not show.

Nah he's usually pretty friendly, with other men... It's only when you threaten to cut off his goolies while simultaneously confessing lower status that he becomes this aggressive.

I suppose I don't see much difference between waxing poetic about abstract alleged cucks even though some might be listening, and addressing someone in that manner directly.

I recognize that it's a pretty hardline policy. I'm throwing it out as a potential solution to the Lothario problem because every other solution other than "bootstraps" I see as equally outlandish in today's political climate.

I really shouldn't have stated that I was interested in the girl at all, or done any introspection and admitted I was slightly jealous of the guy. Like at @faceh has stated before, even trying to discuss this gets you labeled as an incel.

Replying to this, will also quote the exchange with @Tree to point out why posters are pointing out issues with your perspective.

There's no "lothario problem", pua is literally a dead underground thing and even the few who did go out here probably used tactics from two decades ago.

All "lotharios" are chads as the word Chad was used by incels to describe what pickup artists called naturals, naturals are people who get laid regularly. They don't "damage" women as women explicitly seek such men. Every single piece of smut has a girl vying for a guy who looks like he is a few minutes from beating the breaks off her going by how gruff he is.

They like the lying, they want drama and they'll always choose a guy who gives them drama over Mr nice guy.

The Incels don't need to win against all Chads or even most Chads. The problem is not Chad, it's Lothario.

No, it's men who allowed emancipation, the one thing you wouldn't blame which has caused all of this.

Look, I've said it a billion times on this thread and others, my problem is not with guys who can lock down hotter girls than me (although I would be lying if I said I wasn't jealous).

Good that you are honest

It's with guys who churn through tens or hundreds of girls by lying about their intentions, making those girls slightly less dateable for a healthy Chad, and with standards that make relatively normal dudes invisible.

The sex that lies the most ain't the one that fights wars. You have made up a fake dichotomy in your head wherein you have the stereotypical rom com protagonist on one hand and your roommate James on the other. You can't handle James doing what he can since your perception of the world is based on physical attraction and the nice guy things women claim to like. James gets girls because he can cheat, same for all the Chads. Women are damaged because they are allowed to run free, they explicitly want the rolleecoaster of emotions that lotharios offer.

Bedding a girl isn't done via false promises of commitment, lying about commitment is less damaging than the cold blooded women do daily to hundreds of guys, you'd be horrified by what happens in a girls text inbox.

In this case forced marriage, followed by castration when there's adultery, doesn't actually seem that far outside of the historical wheelhouse as a way to rein these guys in.

It is outside of historical wheelhouse because emancipation was never a thing in the past, you would have men go to whore houses or have their own harems. Anything beyond tackling the issue of emancipation is misdirection, shotgun marriage cannot work if you cna no fault divorce and alimonycuck your husband with zero consequences.

Your issue isn't some righteous war of ideology, it's bitterness towards your roommates those like him who get women regularly. If you took a step back, you'd realise that he is not at fault here, it's the modern soyciety that allows him to do what he wants. Emancipation isn't going away for a while and I really like meeting new girls, others should do the same.

Yes, violent fantasies of what you're going to do to Chad and Stacy is standard incel fare. I don't see it as serious discussion of policy.

If it was, I'd say morally it's an evil policy - you need far more, and more tangible evidence of harm, to harm others. Practically, it would require the incels to win against the chads on the battlefield when they couldn't on the football field.

To be completely fair, lots of societies have policed cads. It’s not some drastic never before tried policy.

The Incels don't need to win against all Chads or even most Chads. The problem is not Chad, it's Lothario. Look, I've said it a billion times on this thread and others, my problem is not with guys who can lock down hotter girls than me (although I would be lying if I said I wasn't jealous). It's with guys who churn through tens or hundreds of girls by lying about their intentions, making those girls slightly less dateable for a healthy Chad, and with standards that make relatively normal dudes invisible. In this case forced marriage, followed by castration when there's adultery, doesn't actually seem that far outside of the historical wheelhouse as a way to rein these guys in.

Your justifications are all over the place and incoherent. They boil down to resentment. Lotharios don't need to lie to those women to sleep with them (what are they, proposing? In this day and age?). And obviously you don't castrate people for not being maximally productive. Nor for being too hot ('make standard dudes invisible').

Yup.

Its not so much a complaint that the playing field isn't level or fair, "Wahhhh Mommm they aren't sharing the pussy, make them share!"

Its objecting to playing the game this way at all because its making everything worse for everyone involved. Either crack down on the people who are making it suck so much... or make everyone play a different, friendlier, more fun game.

But both complaints read like you're sexually unsuccessful and crying for someone to give you a boost, to the uninformed observer.

If both men and women are allowed to lie, misrepresent their intentions, back out of their agreements, and undercut each other, in other words, to defect without penalty, this is where the game spirals to. And there is no obvious bottom.

Coordination to improve things is fuckin' hard, but it requires people to admit the problems that exist and to being impacted by them. And we can't even get to THAT step without people dogpiling on the ones who admit weakness.

And when the people most capable of effecting and coordinating change are also one of the few ones who benefit from the status quo (high value, somewhat sociopathic dudes), its even harder to shift. They don't see a need to adjust things.

Don't have anything more to add, but just wanted to say that I really appreciate your voice on these topics. You're one of the few posters who actually seems to take suggestions in this sphere seriously, rather than trying to question the psychology or underlying deeper motives of the poster in question. And maybe these are my insecurities talking, but this kind of thing drives me absolutely up the wall. Like yes, I am sure there is a little bit of jealousy involved in my reaction to Lotharios in real life, and my life could be improved by following the PUA handbook a little more, and not caring what women think a little bit more. Yet I fail to see how this reflects on the deeper problems that you and I both are pointing out.

My general policy is to extend maximum charity and assume good faith until proven otherwise.

Funny enough, I used a similar principles when dating, and I get burned for it on occasion.

Lol, this was the best comment of the thread so far, made me laugh like a crazy man, though a little too far, op needs some gentle guidance.

But yeah, I can't imagine having my oneitis get fucked by my roommate, that's quite heartbreaking. I'm willing to help op with girl stuff if he wants help.

Alright man this was a little far.

Some of my resentment towards him is certainly jealousy (he has recently been fucking a girl I went on a date with and mildly liked),

Just wanted to say that this is extremely shitty and I'm sorry you are going through that. If you have a friend who is also having a hard time with girls and he gets with a girl you liked that sucks, but you can at least be happy for him. Having that girl instead get used by a guy who is already having an order of magnitude more success than you is just shit all around and makes you lose all respect for both of them. Hang in there.

Thanks man. I've decided to stop dating for now so it's not weighing on me too much, but definitely does breed a lot of resentment. This is not the first time this dude has done this to me either. Should have moved out last year, but didn't want to pay more rent.

Maybe your and @faceh's sentiments are more motivated by jealousy than you consciously realize? I don't know, maybe you guys really do care deeply about the health of society and about protecting women from being emotionally damaged by Lotharios. But in my personal experience, whenever I had such intense negative feelings about Lotharios (one of you suggested castrating them - which, even as a joke, is pretty intense...), it was actually motivated 100% by jealousy.

Women do not get damaged by lotharios, they seek and crave those guys and will date another once one dumps them.

The issue is emancipation, blaming guys who get pussy for it is not correct.

The reason I don't talk about my own success or failures in this arena much is that it simply doesn't matter for the arguments I'm making. I don't want people to give my words more credence or less credence based on my own personal status. Read the stats, bring your own stats, make the arguments without regard to personal achievements.

My romantic life is kind of a mess on the whole, lot of false starts and pursuing the wrong people. But I've never had actual trouble getting dates. Its finding the right person and getting them to commit where I've struck out.

I was at one point two weeks out from being married to a girl that I truly loved. Then SHE cut it off, shacked up with 'the guy I didn't have to worry about' for a bit, then flew off to the other side of the country. I felt (still feel) a sort of irrational fury towards the other guy in the situation. I would gladly go a few rounds in a boxing ring with him, for instance. "Jealousy" ain't it, though. He'll never have what I had.

I currently have a second date scheduled with a cute redhead that I met through an old friend of mine. About a month back I had a couple dates with a petite little Haitian girl that I could literally toss over my shoulder with one arm and carry off to bed.

I feel what could be described as jealousy towards the type of guy who just lines up women for almost every day of the week, rotates through them, dumps them when they become inconvenient, and literally never ever commits but uses commitment as a carrot for getting laid. I'm sure that lifestyle has tons of perks in the current social environment.

But then I think about how corrosive to their own wellbeing that process must be, and I lose the part of the feeling of "Man I wish that were me" and its mostly replaced with the anger of "he pays no cost for ruining them, then leaves the rest of us to deal with the fallout."

I'm about as jealous of these guys as I am of a guy pissing in a swimming pool. Sure, it's easier than getting out and going to the designated bathroom, but I know that if everybody starts doing it, we all end up swimming in urine.

Because of the aforementioned woman I almost married, I know full well that my actual preference is to have a long, established relationship with an intimate partner and having regular sex with the same person is qualitatively superior (to me) than a few flings per partner with many partners in a row. I've run the experiment on both sides, I know the outcome. I act accordingly.

But none of what I just said changes the nature of the stats out there. A small portion of men are being chased by a large proportion of women, banging them, getting their hopes up, breaking their hearts, and moving on, leaving the women bitter and with heightened standards going forward, making life harder on all the guys who come after.

And believe me, I am GENUINELY WORRIED about the social effects that will arise if those guys continue to struggle. I can't hate women. Its not in me. I see them as 'different, but not inherently lesser.'

The generation that's coming up? Many dudes don't seem to have that restraint. I'm trying to warn people, and hey, I worry too because I live in this society. But believe me I ain't the one struggling.

Certainly jealousy is a factor. But I don't think that explains my feelings. I've been jealous about many things in my life, but the direction of the jealousy is that I usually want to become like the person I'm jealous of. Be faster, more witty, etc. I don't want to fuck an untold number of bitches, I want to pair bond with a stable, well-adjusted woman whom I love and respect.

Fair enough. For me it was 100% jealousy, but you and I are different.

I don't think that the Lotharios are actually a major problem preventing you or I from finding women to pair-bond with.

One possible solution I've been considering recently is forcibly marrying and then if that doesn't working, castrating these men. Of course I would like women to shape up too, but that seems like a tall ask.

I'll do you one better and suggest summary execution.

The logic being that screwing with a relatively fresh, innocent, 'happy' young woman and leaving her worse off is irretrievably depleting a scarce, somewhat fixed supply of a critically valuable resource.

There's legitimately no way to repair the 'damage' through monetary compensation alone, and in a sense, the extent of the damage is probably 'incalculable.'

So hey, just remove your ability to do further damage via permanent incapacitation, rather than risk your continued despoiling of the dating pool.

But yeah, castration seems a reasonable compromise position there. I don't know how many it'd take to successfully deter, but its probably fewer than you think.

I mean, most historical law codes proscribed seduction of a virgin as a crime that could be made up for by marrying the girl as if she was a virgin.

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